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    Dec 07, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    Ok so I am attracted to guys a lot and to some girls. I have only had sex with girls but really want to try a guy but havn't yet because nervous for some reason. My problem is though I have talked to guys online and when ever it seems like I really connect with one really well to where we would probably make a good couple I start freaking out and wonder is this really what I want do i want, to be with men. Idk if I should just man up and fuck a guy and hopefully I stop feeling this way. I feel terrible because once I freak out I stop talking to them. This has recently happened with a great guy and I feel bad. Any advice is cool.
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    Dec 07, 2012 2:15 AM GMT
    Sounds to me like you are still in denial. The most important thing is that you become okay with who you are and are happy with whatever decision you make.

    If you want to try out a guy, then go for it. But don't string them along, just to leave them hanging.

    I'm kinda the same way, where I find some girls attractive, but it's mostly guys that interest me. I've never had a relationship with either, but I know what you mean. Maybe take some time to figure out what you want in life.
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    Dec 07, 2012 2:57 AM GMT
    Be a man. Try it out. Go on a few dates - see how it goes. Maybe you'll enjoy, maybe you won't. You won't know what you are until you've actually done it (by it I don't mean sex - I mean dating in general with another man). If you like it - great! Good luck! If you don't like it and don't think you can be with a man and like things better with women, stick with women. No harm, no foul.

    With that said, never ever string someone along. And never ever leave someone hanging. As in, if it doesn't seem to work out, you bloody well better tell them so. Thats just a personal beef of mine though.
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    Dec 07, 2012 4:44 AM GMT
    Thanks guys I know what I have to do.
  • calibro

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    Dec 07, 2012 6:07 AM GMT
    first things first... relax, take a deep breath, and send me some nakey pics of you
  • Kel_

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    Dec 07, 2012 6:13 AM GMT
    Update? Any new nakey pics as calibro suggested?
    Hmm.. the anticipation is building!
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    Dec 07, 2012 6:35 AM GMT
    c20nix09 saidOk so I am attracted to guys a lot and to some girls. I have only had sex with girls but really want to try a guy but havn't yet because nervous for some reason. My problem is though I have talked to guys online and when ever it seems like I really connect with one really well to where we would probably make a good couple I start freaking out and wonder is this really what I want do i want, to be with men. Idk if I should just man up and fuck a guy and hopefully I stop feeling this way. I feel terrible because once I freak out I stop talking to them. This has recently happened with a great guy and I feel bad. Any advice is cool.


    You don't know until you know.

    If you jerk off to guys, you're probably gay. If you jerk off to women, you're probably straight. If you jerk off to both...hard telling.

    If you want sex with a guy, get a face picture, a body picture, and get on Grindr, adam4adam, or manhunt. Give it a few minutes. Before you know it..you'll have someone's dick up your ass, or theirs' up yours. Easy.

    Simple stuff.

    If you like it.......fine...; if you don't ... you don't.

    Very, very, very simple stuff.

    Dates are different, so...for that...match.com is probably a good bet. gay.com is flaked out.

    Go fuck a guy. Get past that evolution and on to the next one, whatever it might be.

    And, stop being a flakey asshole. Your "friend" deserves better than for you to be head fucked.
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    Dec 07, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    You're putting too much pressure on your self. Meeting someone doesn't mean you have to fuck or be fucked by him. I'd met several guys on RJ and the only thing that I agreed to was to have coffee or do something nonsexual.
  • mybud

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    Dec 07, 2012 4:05 PM GMT
    Don't fuck with a guy until you get your shit together....Think about talking to a therapist....maybe they can talk you through these mental sexual blocks...You're not ready for gays yet....trust me
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    Dec 07, 2012 4:14 PM GMT
    c20nix09 saidIdk if I should just man up and fuck a guy and hopefully I stop feeling this way.


    You should find a guy to hang with and explore your attraction to men. Don't over think it - just find out for yourself if that's what you want. Don't be a lesbian and marry your first hookup. Just do it. If it feels right then take the time to find the right guy, fix yourself in therapy, etc.

  • MidwesternKid

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    Dec 15, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    Date a bit. Figure yourself out. Let the sex be the last thing you figure out. Our community centers around sex a lot, yet, but don't let that be the defining thing about yourself and questioning yourself. This is about figuring out who you are, what you want, and what makes you happy. The sex will fall into place at the right time.
  • Bicuriouscool

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    Dec 15, 2012 8:40 PM GMT
    Try to hang out with some guy. Get to know him, see if goes well. You may want to get into their pants. Dont think of it like you have to do either. Its not this or that, that will make you tensed, coz you'll plan do something your heart may not wanna do. Be free as in free speech not free beer and ull b ok