A Fresh Start


  • Dec 07, 2012 5:19 AM GMT
    You're not happy with life. Things aren't going the way you wanted or planned. And you need, you want something else. What sort of lengths have you gone to, for a fresh start? And how did you make it happen?
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    Dec 07, 2012 5:23 AM GMT
    I'm kind of trapped in my current life, but as soon as I get a job I have big plans. icon_biggrin.gif

    And for those who want to know, I plan to get a fresh start by getting an apartment close to my job, and taking the opportunity to change my lifestyle and be more social. A change of location and lifestyle is an ideal fresh start for me.
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    Dec 07, 2012 5:31 AM GMT
    I moved half way across the country. Quit my job. Left everyone and everything I knew behind.I noticed there were some toxic people in my life so I cut them loose. I literally had to start again from zero but it has made all the difference in the world. You grow when you are outta your confront zone.
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    Dec 07, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    move to another city or state
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    Dec 07, 2012 5:34 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidmove to another city or state


    Would you really recommend that to someone trying to start a new life? I sort-of have the same question as the OP.
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    Dec 07, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
    I'm taking a job that's gonna allow me to travel around the country. It will be a great way for me to see and experience different things from my current daily life.
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    Dec 07, 2012 6:32 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidI moved half way across the country. Quit my job. Left everyone and everything I knew behind.I noticed there were some toxic people in my life so I cut them loose. I literally had to start again from zero but it has made all the difference in the world. You grow when you are outta your confront zone.

    I did the same thing in my 20s and it probably saved my life. I grew up in a stifling, emotionally toxic environment. Took several years to shake it out of my system once I moved, too, but damn glad I did.

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    Dec 07, 2012 6:35 AM GMT
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    Dec 07, 2012 6:51 AM GMT
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    Holy crap that's amazing! icon_biggrin.gif So simple!
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    Dec 07, 2012 11:10 AM GMT
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    Dec 07, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    Slim2010 said
    AMoonHawk saidmove to another city or state


    Would you really recommend that to someone trying to start a new life? I sort-of have the same question as the OP.


    Moving to a new city/state/country is a big way of starting a new life!;)
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    Dec 07, 2012 3:20 PM GMT
    Pray for peace and happiness
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    Dec 07, 2012 3:31 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidI moved half way across the country. Quit my job. Left everyone and everything I knew behind.I noticed there were some toxic people in my life so I cut them loose. I literally had to start again from zero but it has made all the difference in the world. You grow when you are outta your confront zone.

    I totally admire you for that too. Something I have been contemplating for a couple of years now.
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    Dec 07, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    Emmet Fox said, "If we want to change our lives, we must change our thoughts first."

    A geographical change is a great temporary fix. It's exciting until the excitement wears off. It's full of new lights, new personalities, new possibilities, new chaos, and I've done it several times. Every time though, I kept realizing that I took myself with me. The conundrum was that I could change jobs, change the personality I shared a bed with, change my wardrobe, change my appearance with knives and needles, but I was still in the same place with the same problems.

    Robert Frost said, "The best way out is always through."

    After running and hiding for decades, I decided to show up for life everyday. It was monotonous and painful, but I sat and waited; pain ensures growth because underneath all pain is our fear. I went 'through', and it was beautiful. Today, wherever I go, I am not afraid to take myself with me.

    I hope you find a new place to 'be'.
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    Dec 07, 2012 4:30 PM GMT
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    Emmet Fox said, "If we want to change our lives, we must change our thoughts first."

    A geographical change is a great temporary fix. It's exciting until the excitement wears off. It's full of new lights, new personalities, new possibilities, new chaos, and I've done several times. Every time though, I kept realizing that I took myself with me. The conundrum was that I could change jobs, change the personality I shared a bed with, change my wardrobe, change my appearance with knives and needles, but I was still in the same place with the same problems.

    Robert Frost said, "The best way out is always through."

    After running and hiding for decades, I decided to show up for life everyday. It was monotonous and painful, but I sat and waited; pain ensures growth because underneath all pain is our fear. I went 'through', and it was beautiful. Today, wherever I go, I am not afraid to take myself with me.

    I hope you find a new place to 'be'.


    Thank you for that incredibly beautiful wisdom!
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    Dec 07, 2012 6:18 PM GMT
    Started by applying to school again. Not even grad school. Just finishing education to become a teacher which I gave up when I switched to a business major.

    I realized I hate working in an office. Hate sucking up to others above me. Hate office politics. Hate feeling as if I'm living in some sitcom TV show where people less skilled but better at the game advance ahead of me.

    The toughest part of a big change like this I find is accepting the fact that sometimes big change means personal sacrifices like less free time, less money to spend, and no more lazy weekends.
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    Dec 07, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    deltalimen saidA geographical change is a great temporary fix. It's exciting until the excitement wears off. It's full of new lights, new personalities, new possibilities, new chaos, and I've done it several times. Every time though, I kept realizing that I took myself with me. The conundrum was that I could change jobs, change the personality I shared a bed with, change my wardrobe, change my appearance with knives and needles, but I was still in the same place with the same problems.

    Everything deltalimen said is true. A change of geography in itself isn't enough. That said, sometimes you have to change the geography in order to find the support you need to change yourself. At least that was the case for me. I couldn't have made the changes in myself I needed to make had I stayed where I was.
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    Dec 08, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    SeekingMisterRight saidYou're not happy with life. Things aren't going the way you wanted or planned. And you need, you want something else. What sort of lengths have you gone to, for a fresh start? And how did you make it happen?

    I'm going to go the farthest I can go, and work on myself here; while I still can work on whatever it is about that is really the problem...before here and now have gone.
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    Dec 08, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    SeekingMisterRight saidYou're not happy with life. Things aren't going the way you wanted or planned. And you need, you want something else. What sort of lengths have you gone to, for a fresh start? And how did you make it happen?
    Started taking flying lessons for fun.

    Got hooked on it.

    Started college to get more loan money for more frequent flights. Dropped after getting my Commercial certificate.

    Quit my job/career (mechanical engineer), moved to Miami Beach, laid out at the beach till a banner flew over saying the company needs a new pilot.

    Called, got the job, and haven't looked back. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 08, 2012 1:59 AM GMT
    My plan is pretty much simple, finish college, get the hell out of here and start my own life. It sounds crazy but I know I will much happier.
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    Dec 08, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    A nervous breakdown is a path to a fresh start. A new doctor, good drugs = new outlook.
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    Dec 08, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
    I joined the army. No regrets.
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    Dec 08, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    deltalimen saidEmmet Fox said, "If we want to change our lives, we must change our thoughts first."

    A geographical change is a great temporary fix. It's exciting until the excitement wears off. It's full of new lights, new personalities, new possibilities, new chaos, and I've done it several times. Every time though, I kept realizing that I took myself with me. The conundrum was that I could change jobs, change the personality I shared a bed with, change my wardrobe, change my appearance with knives and needles, but I was still in the same place with the same problems.

    Robert Frost said, "The best way out is always through."

    After running and hiding for decades, I decided to show up for life everyday. It was monotonous and painful, but I sat and waited; pain ensures growth because underneath all pain is our fear. I went 'through', and it was beautiful. Today, wherever I go, I am not afraid to take myself with me.

    I hope you find a new place to 'be'.

    So incredibly well put, and true.
    When I was 22, I made a geographical change and it was the right thing at the right time for me. It wouldn't have worked out as well as it did if I hadn't been happy with myself. If I had tried the same thing several years ago, it would have probably ended poorly because I just wasn't happy overall. Now, even though I love where I'm at both physically and mentally and don't want to leave Minneapolis, I know that I could move somewhere else and be happy with it as long as I'm happy with myself in the first place.