Seized momentos from a terminated relationship

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    Mar 10, 2007 6:06 PM GMT
    I kept a nekclace that belonged to my ex-boyfriend. I was very fond of it, not because it reminded me of him; I just liked it. I justified keeping it for payment of pain and suffering etc...LOL Then I wore it to a guys house that I was "dating" and he then swiped it from me; How ironic uh? I'm curious to know what items people have kept from previous lovers and trysts. I think the reasons for taking the items can be as interesting as the items themselves. Please share you stories and opinions on this subject. Thanks.
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    Mar 10, 2007 9:56 PM GMT
    Not into taking things that don't belong to me. I thought of it though, just to get revenge, gut never did it.
  • dfrourke

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    Mar 10, 2007 10:09 PM GMT
    this is the most random topic, but I laughed when I read it...so...

    I have a framed picture that was kept from the past ex...I gave him all the opportunities to take what he wanted from the house and call back if he was "missing" anything...

    I never got the sense he like the picture anyway...but its mine now.
  • treader

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    Mar 11, 2007 9:49 PM GMT

    Hmmmm, I do have something left over from a previous long-term relationship. When we were dating, he surprised with a picnic and two wine glasses (which was terribly romantic). We used the glasses over the years just for us. Well when things ended (and pretty bitterly I might add), I hoped that he would take the glasses but he didn't. I decided to leave in our apartment for the next tenants as I moved out. But at the last second, I took them and said 'f*ck him - they're nice glasses'. I've used them as spare glasses at parties that I've thrown since. (No, I have never used them in a dating situation.) I've never told anyone about the glasses and I don't plan to. The glasses don't have any special meaning to me now. They're just an extra pair of wine glasses. That's it.

    Sorry to hear about your necklace.
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    Mar 11, 2007 10:11 PM GMT
    I can't recall keeping anything, but everybody seems to end up with a few of my books.
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    Mar 12, 2007 4:27 PM GMT
    I actually took the dog when me and my current boyfriend broke up once. He cried and cried about it. Then we got back together, so every once in a while he'll comment about how I stole "HIS" dog. LOL. I just laugh. She(The Dog) doesn't even know the difference.
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    Mar 14, 2007 2:06 PM GMT
    Funny KeyRocka. I inherited a cat from an ex-boyfriend. Not that I "took" him but I had the cat while he lived in another city. It ended badly when he admitted to cheating on me. Never asked for the cat and I didn't offer to return. As my Mom said to me, "The cat didn't go anything wrong just because the owner's an ***hole." Good point.
    Also inherited all the pet stuff, a Tommy Hilfiger hoodie (which I like, not because of who it belonged to) and a complete patio set. LOL

    He has never spoken to me since the night I walked out after he told me. I walked and didn't look back (literally).

    Bill
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    Mar 17, 2007 3:21 PM GMT
    This is awesome.

    So two thoughts:

    The first is I am very high energy and am always making videos, writing, and other acts of creative expression. Its my way of doing life. A relationship that ended a while ago has turned into a friendship and I took moments of both and made it into a short essay/story called Stations (based on the stations of the cross), then made a photo essay of it, and am now work-shopping it into a piece for a modern dance ensemble performance. I'm real busy with real work so its taking time.

    So I take away creative ideas from relationships.

    But the second thing that comes to mind is Absolutely Fabulous. I bought the entire series for a bf as he loved the show. But before I could give it to him I broke up with him. We later became friends and have watched parts of it together; but I wont give it to him.
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    Mar 27, 2007 9:07 PM GMT
    madpollo,
    I love what your doing with the memories of your past relationship (s). I think we all give and take things from past relationships. It is a tragedy if you spend a great amount of time with a friend lover etc... and don't aknowledge the good after something bad has happened. I beleive it is a poor reflection on yourself if you have nothing good to say about a former lover, partner, or friend. The responses to this thread were really pleasing. Thanks to all that have replied and read.
    JoJo
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    Mar 27, 2007 11:12 PM GMT
    Jojo,

    I didn't quite hit on that, but the idea of honoring all connections that are intense is important to me. I don't believe in burning photos or making someone who broke my heart into a pariah among my friends. If I deny I ever loved, liked, or were drawn to someone, I deny myself and become a fragmented loser who is always saying, "No, this time I mean it. this is the one." They were all the one at one point and they were all worthy of my attention and care even if they broke my heart. Otherwise I'm a clueless idiot, and I'm not an idiot. None of us are,

    even though we may act like it from time to time.

    So take something away from the relationship, but let it be a memento, even if a theft, let it be in honor of what was.
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    Apr 30, 2007 2:37 PM GMT
    i don't have a good memory and im quite sentimental anyway so i keep as much as i can. ive got drawings, photos, emails, typed out all the text messages ive received, yeah it sounds sad and creepy but i literally wouldn't remember your name if i didn't see you within two weeks regardless of how many years i knew you. result of too much acid and drinking during high school :( lol

    i keep it in a box, i don't look at it. i want to in my forties and onward, to reflect about where and how far ive come.

    i got a letter that i bought in a bookstore postmarked from 1923 which was so sweet, still got it somewhere.
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    Apr 12, 2009 9:19 AM GMT
    Yeah i kept my blown up ballon (says i love you) folded in my wallet.

    dried two of my first roses and they're still sitting there.

    Kept my stuffed animal bulldog hanging out next to me right now.



    I should get ride of them but cant seem to.....so maybe someone else taking stealing them is the only way.
  • brianstephens

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    Apr 12, 2009 9:51 AM GMT
    I didn't keep anything physical.

    But everytime he would send me a really cute text, I would forward it to my email and save it in a special folder.

    I still have them...

    And I read through them every now and then.
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    Apr 12, 2009 10:11 AM GMT
    jojo1975 saidI kept a nekclace that belonged to my ex-boyfriend. I was very fond of it, not because it reminded me of him; I just liked it. I justified keeping it for payment of pain and suffering etc...LOL Then I wore it to a guys house that I was "dating" and he then swiped it from me; How ironic uh? I'm curious to know what items people have kept from previous lovers and trysts. I think the reasons for taking the items can be as interesting as the items themselves. Please share you stories and opinions on this subject. Thanks.


    Sounds like you have some bad karma and it's coming back to get you. STOP being a thief. Taking things that don't belong to you WRONG. It does not matter if you liked something, or not. It wasn't yours to take.

    Bad karma will nail ya', every time.
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    Apr 12, 2009 10:18 AM GMT
    And here I was thinking that we were going to have a story about how you nicked a packet of mentos from an ex
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    Apr 12, 2009 11:13 AM GMT
    icon_neutral.gif take something I like that doesn't belong to me??? hmmm???

    (...hears Justin Timberlake's "What goes around...Comes around"...)

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FKXm3Qg7sBo

    Nope

    Karma is real guys...be careful.
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    Apr 12, 2009 12:05 PM GMT
    I've not taken anything, but there is this one photo of me with this guy I was seeing. I've been meaning to rip it up but I haven't been able to bring myself to do so.

    I forbade him to contact me, I still think about him a lot. icon_redface.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 12, 2009 1:40 PM GMT
    Well I don't have an ex boyfriend, so I haven't experienced this kind of thing but.....

    I would hope most have had the kind of relationship where you can "untangle" by discussion, meaning you can work out some of this.
    If you don't, you had better communicate to your "soon to be ex" what you want and why (and work it out). It will come back to nip you.

    With my bf, he does talk about some of the things of his one (or both) of his ex's kept... and they should have since he owned them. Its something that certainly leaves a nasty taste in your mouth.
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    Apr 12, 2009 2:17 PM GMT
    irst off you idiots know nothing about karma. karma is an idea that your actions in this LIFETIME will affect your next LIFETIME. Karma is not you took your boyfriends necklace and now someone is gunna take something from you. Its more like you were an amazing person this time around so next time you get to be a prince or you were a real shitty guys so next time around you are stuck being a vagrant.

    and I definitely have underwear from most if not all of the guys I have dated hahahahahahaha
  • phunkie

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    Apr 12, 2009 2:27 PM GMT
    An AIDS Day ribbon he made when we went to see an AIDS awareness play. I Always kept it in my wallet but I lost it somehow recently.
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    Apr 12, 2009 2:31 PM GMT
    gifts are always kept. they were given to me, and they're mine- i don't get it when people look at relationship gifts as loaners. if the relationship's ended, it's because *he* did something wrong and screwed it up and hurt me. so the gifts are payment. my two favorites include a diesel watch from like 5 years ago that i always get compliments on, and a John Hardy ring i still wear often.
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Apr 12, 2009 3:39 PM GMT
    I kep the pooch when my ex and I broke up!....icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 12, 2009 3:42 PM GMT
    One night my ex and I went out dancing. We both got really hammered, me more so than him. We brought home a trick, and as soon as we got back to my house, I passed out. He was really cute, but I was just too drunk to have any fun. So my guy had his way with him, and sent him on his way. I woke up the next morning, and saw that he had left his watch on my desk. It's a really nice watch, I wear it to interviews and parties if I'm dressing up. icon_lol.gif

    I found the guy's email address written on a piece of paper on my nightstand, apparently he was wanting us to contact him again sometime. I never emailed him. When the boyfriend and I broke up, I saw the guy out again. In fact, I still see the guy out from time to time. He asked me out, but I declined. Hell, imagine if I dated him and wore the watch... Hahaha. I jokingly considered the watch payment for sleeping with my boyfriend.