Hemorrhoids are a chronic distension of the veins around the anus. They are more than a simple dermal inflammation.
Your age does not make you an obvious candidate for hemorrhoids. Has a doctor diagnosed this? You may be suffering from a topical irritation, which can in turn cause a temporary dilation of the blood vessels, mimicking a hemorrhoidal condition. Addressing the irritation can allow the blood vessel swelling to permanently abate.
There are numerous aggressive treatments for hemorrhoids, including surgical, laser, rubber band and infrared. But until you have a firm diagnosis, I would not advise attempting any hemorrhoid-specific home treatments on your own, which could mask the true cause of the complaint.
Among the causes of anal inflammation are frequent diarrhea, poor anal hygiene, and in the case of gay men, excessive and/or insufficiently lubricated anal sex. Harmful anal sex practices are a matter for the individual to correct. Resolving diarrhea may require professional medical assistance. Anal hygiene is easily addressed by the individual when the proper protocols are followed.
Bowel movements bring corrosive fecal contents into contact with the external anal structures. Overly aggressive cleansing with dry toilet paper may create raw skin conditions in which the corrosive effect is enhanced. And incomplete cleansing can leave damaging material in contact with the skin for extended lengths of time. The solution is a thorough yet gentle anal cleansing after each bowel movement.
A simple method involves bowel regularity with daily bathing habits. The ideal morning bowel movement can be induced with natural laxatives such as caffeinated coffee, tea and high-fiber cereals. The bowel movement should be immediately followed by a shower or bath, to thoroughly clean the anal area. A common mistaken habit is to take a shower soon after awakening, followed by breakfast and a bowel movement. This routine lends itself to inadequate anal cleanliness.
If additional bowel movements at other times during the day must be made, avoid public restroom toilet papers, which tend to be coarser than residential products. Wet wipes and baby wipes, approved for anal use, are available in thin plastic wallets that can be carried discreetly for use at public toilets. Moistened wipes are also advisable in the home bathroom, for sensitive individuals liable to irritation with all dry toilet papers, or for those experiencing an inflammatory episode.
I hope some of these suggestions help you to avoid future recurrences of this problem.