Question for bisexuals....

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    Dec 08, 2012 4:36 PM GMT
    So I'm bisexual, but I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 5 yrs now, been totally faithful to him. He's the only guy I've ever been with and I love to death. In the bedroom I'm a strict bottom and he loves that. I have never topped him and I don't think I'll ever will. In fact, just the thought of topping him (or any other guy) is a big turn off. However, as a bisexual I still think girls are hot and still feel sexual attraction to them. Lately I've been feeling these strong urges to fuck a girl. It's like if I miss doing the fucking instead of being fucked. Don't get me wrong, I still love being fucked by my boyfriend, and he rocks my world every time we do it, but I miss that part of my life where I was "the man" and it was me doing the fucking.

    Anyone else ever experienced this? If so how did you deal with it?
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    Dec 11, 2012 5:23 PM GMT
    Don't cheat.
  • Montague

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    Dec 11, 2012 5:32 PM GMT
    Do Cheat. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 11, 2012 5:35 PM GMT
    Don't cheat.
  • Hothouse

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    Dec 11, 2012 6:43 PM GMT
    You should at least try topping your BF.
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    Dec 11, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    At the end of the day if your in a monog relationship then you have to be faithful. Naturally your gonna miss certain things about fucking women but if your guy rocks your world like you say he does then you shouldn't feel the need to act on it.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Dec 11, 2012 7:02 PM GMT
    I don't recommend cheating, but I will sympathize with you in saying that I as well feel that same feeling, at least for me it being bicurious. I have been with men but I am interested in women. At this point, if you can't figure out your feelings on this on your own or with some friends who you trust to talk to, Id figure out a way to bring this up with your boyfriend about your feelings on the subject. It would be a very awkward conversation possibly, but he might appreciate and respect you for being open about your feelings.
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    Dec 14, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
    Thanks for all the responses.

    I definitely don't want to cheat, and I don't really want to top him either, like I said, it's actually a turn off. Someone suggested that the only solution is a threesome, but I doubt my boyfriend will concede to the idea. He has been with girls in the past but he never enjoyed it. Any ideas on how should I approach him with this? Or should I even try approaching him? Or should I just stop entertaining this crazy idea?
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    Dec 14, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    It's time to have a conversation with you bf.
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    Dec 14, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    Definitely don't cheat. I know you said that topping a guy is a turn off, but since you've never topped a guy, it wouldn't hurt to try. Get a feel of it. And on top of that (no pun intended), I think bringing up the convo about your current feelings would suit that situation a lot better if you're taking your boyfriend's feelings into consideration.

    If you find that you really don't enjoy with the fact that you experienced it, then you can throw that one out of the window.

    As far the threesome goes......I'm still trying to figure out how I'm going to bring up that topic in a future relationship. I, too, am bisexual, preferably men, but I get the urges to get it in with the girls. Almost like a week long period. icon_confused.gif Since I'm single currently, it's bound to happen. But if I'm in a relationship......I guess I'll have to hope that the boyfriend has an open mind about it. Who knows what will happen if he doesn't.
  • bladeaddict

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    Dec 14, 2012 4:43 AM GMT
    waterloonicetop saidbased on every web hookup site, they cheat and go fuck..although usually they live with a girl and are looking to bottom

    welcome to my world ...
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    Dec 14, 2012 4:48 AM GMT
    being bisexual is just like everyone else.
    the minute you're in a relationship, you're in it.

    it's ok to be attracted to others gay. bi, or straight. but to take that step and do something about it... that's for you to figure out.

    You can try talking to your BF, but I don't see any real benefit to it. Even if he says go for it, that would potentially cause problems. Maybe he thinks you're fully gay now since you are committed to him, but if he thinks you're bi, he must surely appreciate that fact that you're with him.

    Good for you, man. I'm actually happy for you! This is a good problem to have!
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    Dec 14, 2012 4:56 AM GMT
    From a bi-married guys point of view.

    Dont cheat. Have a conversation with your BF.

    Being honest about who you are, what you both want and can accept is the only way to move forward.




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    Dec 14, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    The word "bisexual" implies sexual attraction to two genders (usually male and female). Transitioning/tranny doesn't count.

    The word "monogamy" or any variation thereof implies sexual activity with only one gender.

    Which is it? Are you gay, straight, bi, or poly?
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidThe word "bisexual" implies sexual attraction to two genders (usually male and female). Transitioning/tranny doesn't count.

    The word "monogamy" or any variation thereof implies sexual activity with only one gender.

    Which is it? Are you gay, straight, bi, or poly?


    or "tri" icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:26 AM GMT
    reptile18 said
    paulflexes saidThe word "bisexual" implies sexual attraction to two genders (usually male and female). Transitioning/tranny doesn't count.

    The word "monogamy" or any variation thereof implies sexual activity with only one gender.

    Which is it? Are you gay, straight, bi, or poly?


    or "tri" icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:28 AM GMT

    This depresses me even more! icon_cry.gif

    * runs and hugged Paulflexes
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:35 AM GMT
    I'm bisexual, that is, I'm attracted sexually to girls, and he knows that. But above all, I'm in a monogamous relationship with an awesome man and I would never do anything to hurt him. I think I've come up with a solution: I will talk to my boyfriend about my feelings and if he's not happy with what I have to say then I will abandon this idea. After all, he is my partner, he's been there for me when I most needed him, sex with him is mind blowing anyways, and I will not lose something good for a sexual urge.
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:36 AM GMT
    i don't understand dudes who have been in a gay relationship for 5 years but still claim they're bisexual...=/ and you're a "strict bottom" when you're with guys. I know gay men who find women attractive and are attracted to them I wouldn't say that makes them bisexual.
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    Boxer_Red saidi don't understand dudes who have been in a gay relationship for 5 years but still claim they're bisexual...=/ and you're a "strict bottom" when you're with guys. I know gay men who find women attractive and are attracted to them I wouldn't say that makes them bisexual.


    Well, what people don't understand is, you never really lose that sexual attraction to women just because you're with a man. You just have to lock down those urges when they arise if you're trying to maintain a relationship. It's the same as being gay or straight. When you're in a relationship, you have to lock down your urges to fuck other men in order to stop the temptation of cheating.
    Or at least that's my gist. Everyone's different.
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:52 AM GMT
    chronic2000 saidSo I'm bisexual, but I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 5 yrs now, been totally faithful to him. He's the only guy I've ever been with and I love to death. In the bedroom I'm a strict bottom and he loves that. I have never topped him and I don't think I'll ever will. In fact, just the thought of topping him (or any other guy) is a big turn off. However, as a bisexual I still think girls are hot and still feel sexual attraction to them. Lately I've been feeling these strong urges to fuck a girl. It's like if I miss doing the fucking instead of being fucked. Don't get me wrong, I still love being fucked by my boyfriend, and he rocks my world every time we do it, but I miss that part of my life where I was "the man" and it was me doing the fucking.

    Anyone else ever experienced this? If so how did you deal with it?


    Yeah, but then I remember how fucking crazy females are and I snap out of it.
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:54 AM GMT
    Boxer_Red saidi don't understand dudes who have been in a gay relationship for 5 years but still claim they're bisexual...=/ and you're a "strict bottom" when you're with guys. I know gay men who find women attractive and are attracted to them I wouldn't say that makes them bisexual.


    We are all allowed our dillusions. Please allow him his.
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    Dec 14, 2012 6:00 AM GMT
    deerheart said
    Boxer_Red saidi don't understand dudes who have been in a gay relationship for 5 years but still claim they're bisexual...=/ and you're a "strict bottom" when you're with guys. I know gay men who find women attractive and are attracted to them I wouldn't say that makes them bisexual.


    Well, what people don't understand is, you never really lose that sexual attraction to women just because you're with a man. You just have to lock down those urges when they arise if you're trying to maintain a relationship. It's the same as being gay or straight. When you're in a relationship, you have to lock down your urges to fuck other men in order to stop the temptation of cheating.
    Or at least that's my gist. Everyone's different.


    Exactly...
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    Dec 14, 2012 6:01 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    Boxer_Red saidi don't understand dudes who have been in a gay relationship for 5 years but still claim they're bisexual...=/ and you're a "strict bottom" when you're with guys. I know gay men who find women attractive and are attracted to them I wouldn't say that makes them bisexual.


    We are all allowed our dillusions. Please allow him his.


    Thanks...
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    Dec 14, 2012 6:05 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    Boxer_Red saidi don't understand dudes who have been in a gay relationship for 5 years but still claim they're bisexual...=/ and you're a "strict bottom" when you're with guys. I know gay men who find women attractive and are attracted to them I wouldn't say that makes them bisexual.


    We are all allowed our dillusions. Please allow him his.


    Please. Reverse the situation- he's with a chick and wants dick, and you'll still claim he's gay. icon_rolleyes.gif