I want more than casual hookups, he doesn't

  • shakeitout85

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    Dec 08, 2012 4:53 PM GMT
    Met a guy, never lusted for somebody like this person before. We hooked up.
    I asked him if we could go on a date, he only wants casual encounters...for now. I want to persue this because our hookup (after weeks of chatting online) was like nothing I've experienced before. I suppose I should have asked the relationship question beforehand, but now he is in my head. Rubbish! Oh, and he's an actor so god knows how 'real' it was for him.

    What is about a gorgeous face and nice personality that makes 'no strings' turn in to infatution?!?
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    Dec 08, 2012 4:56 PM GMT
    oh christ. U had an orgasm with a man and now you're in love?

    Honestly, dont get all clingy needy on him. Just roll with it. If the sex was good continue to have ur "casual encounters" and see where they lead?

    maybe u could get to talking about something more serious when after u 2 have met more often...
    Does he think ur sex is good too? If so, he'll wanna come back for more.
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    Dec 08, 2012 4:59 PM GMT
    If he only wants a casual encounter, you need to respect that. Otherwise, wishing for something that's not going to materialize will set you up for continuous disappointment and heartache.

    On another note, since this guy is an actor and unless he's a famous out actor like Neil Patrick Harris or John Barrowman, he's probably thinking that a date/relationship with a guy would tarnish his public image.
  • shakeitout85

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    Dec 08, 2012 6:13 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidIf he only wants a casual encounter, you need to respect that. Otherwise, wishing for something that's not going to materialize will set you up for continuous disappointment and heartache.

    On another note, since this guy is an actor and unless he's a famous out actor like Neil Patrick Harris or John Barrowman, he's probably thinking that a date/relationship with a guy would tarnish his public image.


    ah yeh, never thought of it like that. i'll just continue to enjoy the sex then ;)
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    Dec 08, 2012 9:42 PM GMT
    shakeitout85 said
    Erik101 saidIf he only wants a casual encounter, you need to respect that. Otherwise, wishing for something that's not going to materialize will set you up for continuous disappointment and heartache.

    On another note, since this guy is an actor and unless he's a famous out actor like Neil Patrick Harris or John Barrowman, he's probably thinking that a date/relationship with a guy would tarnish his public image.


    ah yeh, never thought of it like that. i'll just continue to enjoy the sex then ;)


    Glad I could help