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    Dec 10, 2012 6:24 AM GMT
    So I guess you can say I'm a newby to all this. I haven't had sex with a dude yet, and not planning on it until I meet a nice guy. I guess you can say, "make a friend" before anything. I'm finding some cool dudes on here. My issue, that I see, is that I gotta post a pics of my body, or of my muscles to be approached. And than when I do get approached, I get asked instantly "dick photo?" Come on now, I'm young yes but not an idiot. At least show interest in ME, and not in what u got.

    Maybe I'm tripping? What do ya'll say? Gimme some pointers, tips, anything.
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    Dec 10, 2012 7:44 AM GMT
    everytime i get dick photos from old dude,it just make me wanna give up on sex and turned into a monk,so op just keep waiting,someday ur gay prince will come to u and u and him will be happily ever after,and boring too.
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    Dec 10, 2012 7:57 AM GMT
    Well maybe because all you show is your body all they see you as is a piece of meat son.
  • rudolphe

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    Dec 10, 2012 8:57 AM GMT
    waterloonicetop saidyour profile is all about complaining Dont do this, dont do that.

    your profile also says "i want you to get to know me" then says "i dont want to write anything about myself" you have to contact you to get any tidbit of information out of you at all. Yet you posted a pretty much naked shot.

    you show skin and then complain they want to see more when you give not a single thing to hook into intellectually to spur interest in anything but what cum would look like on that chest.

    you also list "hookup" as your desireables...why the hell would i want to hook up with you without asking to see what is on the table in the bargain.

    all THAT is what you are doing wrong.

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    how about a "split" photo of the skin...and you doing something you find interesting...

    followed by a bio that lists some things that you are interested in or want to talk about. maybe a quote, or opinion ( ie. ask me about my job as a shepherd!) something , anything to distract from those nipples.

    what about stating WHAT mixed race (scottish/welsh?)

    GIVE MORE INFORMATION to play with.

    if you post a fun photo you will get responses doesnt have to be a nude.

    also what the hell is up with your second pic, are you some part of some vampire/zombie apocalypse cult? icon_smile.gif

    fill up your picture slots with (good, clear) photos of things to talk to you about, your dog, your bike, your gym, your teddy bear, your art...crap like that. use the space up to give me something to want to get to know you. if you live somewhere cool, show that.


    first off to Waterloons post I must say thats a +1 ,very well thought out and said.. After going through your profile I found there to be little information about you that would lead me to want to hit you up for a conversation. All you have is a nice body pic, so all I think your into is hookups. I can understand that you dont like writing about yourself for the purpose of your profile, but its really the only way to draw out the men with more substance,
  • calibro

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    Dec 10, 2012 2:06 PM GMT
    it's just a picture of your peen. it's like i asked for something serious like your birth date or to kiss you
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    Dec 10, 2012 2:13 PM GMT
    brunogodoy said[...] My issue, that I see, is that I gotta post a pics of my body, or of my muscles to be approached. And than when I do get approached, I get asked instantly "dick photo?" Come on now, I'm young yes but not an idiot. At least show interest in ME, and not in what u got.

    Maybe I'm tripping? What do ya'll say? Gimme some pointers, tips, anything.



    MashogaNubianPrince saidWell maybe because all you show is your body all they see you as is a piece of meat son.


    You both have valid points.
  • wellwell

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    Dec 10, 2012 2:20 PM GMT

    "...To be approached . . . ?" Nothing wrong w/ being the aggressor.
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    Dec 10, 2012 2:21 PM GMT
    calibro saidit's just a picture of your peen. it's like i asked for something serious like your birth date or to kiss you


    ^^This. It may seem like he's just being a dick a first, which he may be, but you can also look at this as him saying "Loosen up". Like the other posters say, "You have a list of "don'ts" without offering anything more than a blurry, headless body shot taken on a DIRTY mirror (Windex!) and a pic of the Twilight crew showing a ton of other people's faces (and I am sure you do not have their permission to post their image). Rework your profile. You have to give a little and take a few risks to see a return on your investment. Nothing is a "sure thing"

    Good luck man.
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    Dec 10, 2012 2:53 PM GMT
    You need to recognize that the internet is a very large audience. Not everyone is going to have the same beliefs, ethics or morals as you.

    If that question is a problem for you then you know that person is not an appropriate match for you. Either ignore them or send them a note saying that you are not interested.

    Don't get hung up on people not behaving the way you would want. We can't control the world, just ourselves.



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    Dec 10, 2012 4:39 PM GMT
    Alright... ya'll do have some pretty legit answers, and yeah, I do regret starting out with that picture. No lie. But hey, we all gotta learn one way or the other. Let's change my picture and see how much people really want to get to know me? Which I doubt will be many.

    Like I said, this life is really new to me, and so far the majority of the dudes i;ve met, don't really represent the gay community well. From what I've seen, its all about lust! Say what you want, don't really give a damn. I have all the reason to think that way... just wanna find a few gentlemen to change my mind about all that.

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    Dec 10, 2012 7:10 PM GMT
    It' just a Tallywhacka!!! Geeze!!! icon_rolleyes.gif

    ya don't have to include you face in it... relax boy!! It's not the end of the world!
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    Dec 10, 2012 7:12 PM GMT
    Cooper87 saideverytime i get dick photos from old dude,it just make me wanna give up on sex and turned into a monk,........................


    starting my Rosary NOW!!! icon_rolleyes.gif
    Dude, be nice... quit with the complaining, it's a compliment..
    and, maybe old dude curious how small your dick is....
    blap!!! BE NICE....
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    Dec 10, 2012 7:59 PM GMT
    brunogodoy saidAlright... ya'll do have some pretty legit answers, and yeah, I do regret starting out with that picture. No lie. But hey, we all gotta learn one way or the other. Let's change my picture and see how much people really want to get to know me? Which I doubt will be many.
    Like I said, this life is really new to me, and so far the majority of the dudes i;ve met, don't really represent the gay community well. From what I've seen, its all about lust! Say what you want, don't really give a damn. I have all the reason to think that way... just wanna find a few gentlemen to change my mind about all that.


    Hey OP, listen I do feel for you because I was in a similar situation and in fact ended up doing the same method that you just said you are going to try now where I had no identifying picture and if someone wanted to get to know me then I'd unlock my privates photos with my identifying pictures in there. People often misconstrue that as being unconfident or wussy etc, but honestly for me, it was a method to weed out those who were just interested in hook ups and those who would actually be genuinely interested getting to know me without having to see first my skin.

    Unfortunately to tell you the truth, yes most of the time you will go by unnoticed but you will come across one, every now and then, nice person who is in fact interested in getting to know your personality first and can become good friends.
    The truth is, since people can't see your face or your body they probably won't read your profile at all. I'm not saying all, but most won't bother (at least in my experience).
    Granted I have come across a few forum topics about particular members who turned out to be fake using fake pictures, so I don't know if this particular "community" is still jaded from such experiences because apparently they were close to one who turned out to be fake (or so it seemed).

    Anyway, I do wish you all the best and hope it actually works out well for you.

    Just incase you were wondering why the 'hidden', I eventually went one step further where now I'm hidden and just like to post in forums and hope someone can appreciate what I have to say not because it's my askewed and far-fetched way of finding someone; I've decided to scrap that and just try to offer good advice/counsel and hope it's received that way.
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    Dec 10, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    Your current approach is a HUGE MARKETING FAILURE.
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    Dec 11, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    RoccoO said
    Cooper87 saideverytime i get dick photos from old dude,it just make me wanna give up on sex and turned into a monk,........................


    starting my Rosary NOW!!! icon_rolleyes.gif
    Dude, be nice... quit with the complaining, it's a compliment..
    and, maybe old dude curious how small ,your dick is....
    blap!!! BE NICE....


    whoa,those dick pictures come with words like u wanna fuck?,u wan me to cum on u? or cheap motel address are hardly compliment,it make me chilled to the bone,btw,i dun think mine is small,well,from the last few flings i been through,i happened have the longer one,insecure much,old man?
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    Dec 11, 2012 3:26 AM GMT
    the term is Y'all not Ya'll.






  • nc_necano

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    Dec 12, 2012 11:45 PM GMT
    Give me a chance...Forget the naked photos, man. I understand. Honestly, I've been thinking about the small talk from the other day, and it said a lot to me...You know where to hit me up. Hope to hear from you soon.icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 13, 2012 12:01 AM GMT
    brunogodoy saidSo I guess you can say I'm a newby to all this. I haven't had sex with a dude yet, and not planning on it until I meet a nice guy. I guess you can say, "make a friend" before anything. I'm finding some cool dudes on here. My issue, that I see, is that I gotta post a pics of my body, or of my muscles to be approached. And than when I do get approached, I get asked instantly "dick photo?" Come on now, I'm young yes but not an idiot. At least show interest in ME, and not in what u got.

    Maybe I'm tripping? What do ya'll say? Gimme some pointers, tips, anything.
    I'd love to give you some advice, but you need to post a dick pic first.
  • JackDoyle

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    Dec 13, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    go out and meet people in real life in pubs clubs etc...don't do it online