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    Dec 10, 2012 6:42 AM GMT
    I was debating this with a very religious young friend of mine about dating. He says he prefers to wait for his God to send a woman and that dating takes away from your marriage because you're gonna break up after relations anyway. While trying not to laugh I told him that he needs to get out here and get some experience. Because a handsome guy in his twenties who has never had sex or even dated a woman sounds weird. Answer this question :

    If you met a handsome man in his twenties who said he had never even so much had dated a woman would you think he's :

    A) Lying
    B) Crazy as in justifiably off kilter
    Or C) Gay
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    Dec 10, 2012 6:49 AM GMT
    Reminds me of the joke about the man who drowned and asked God why. As for your question, unless he came off as a really religious type (and I have a couple of friends who are exactly like your guy) I'd probably lean towards C.
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    Dec 10, 2012 6:55 AM GMT
    waterloonicetop saiddont recall many gods sending you women.

    do recall Xian god saying rape a woman she is now your wife...might quote that too him


    He honestly believes God will just send him the right woman. I'm like you have to date to know she's the right one. She doesn't come with a sign that says hi I'm you're wife here's the ring.

    Although I could be biased to him since I used to be in love with him.
  • reptile18

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    Dec 10, 2012 6:55 AM GMT
    It's not weird. Not everyone's that crazy about relationships. I mean, if you haven't met someone you really like, would you date someone completely random just to tell people you're not single? That seems really stupid to me. icon_evil.gif
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    Dec 10, 2012 7:13 AM GMT
    reptile18 saidIt's not weird. Not everyone's that crazy about relationships. I mean, if you haven't met someone you really like, would you date someone completely random just to tell people you're not single? That seems really stupid to me. icon_evil.gif


    I'm not saying you have to be. But it seems odd that if a nicely employed handsome very tall and charming guy with a nice car has never ever been with a woman or even dated someone. Lol it just rings of either nutcase or closet case.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 10, 2012 7:16 AM GMT
    He's waiting for a virgin to come along. Eventually, one will come along. He'll probably end up becoming a fire and brimstone preacher. I'd just say, good luck with that.
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    Dec 10, 2012 7:24 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidHe's waiting for a virgin to come along. Eventually, one will come along. He'll probably end up becoming a fire and brimstone preacher. I'd just say, good luck with that.


    There are very few women these days who are virgins. And even if he met one they'd think he's weird because he doesn't want any romantic contact with women at all.
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    Dec 10, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    reptile18 saidIt's not weird. Not everyone's that crazy about relationships. I mean, if you haven't met someone you really like, would you date someone completely random just to tell people you're not single? That seems really stupid to me. icon_evil.gif



    My friend is in the same position. He's not super religious but is a big believer of christianity. he's given up a bit because he's "too nice" and basically gets friendzoned by all the girls he likes he still believes he'll find the girl of his dreams someday and he's 22 and a virgin and straight

    mashonga- although your friends outlook are different from you since you used to be in love with him, you're most likely to be biased because perhaps you're hoping that he really may be gay. Maybe he is, or maybe he's not.. I do agree that dating is great to get experience but some people do arranged marriages and other stuff as well
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    Dec 10, 2012 4:31 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidSexual urges are very powerful.
    Guy's in his 20s and never tried to get into a vag?

    gay gay gay gay gay gay gay gay gay gay gay gay


    This!
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    Dec 10, 2012 4:38 PM GMT
    D) socially awkward
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    Dec 10, 2012 8:06 PM GMT
    dcblue saidD) socially awkward


    Lol I include that in crazy.

    He seriously does not talk, meet, do anything with anyone or anything that is not associated to his church or his faith. He lives in such a small bubble. Part of the reason I even started talking to him was because I wanted to help him and then I fell for him, lol.
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    Dec 10, 2012 8:23 PM GMT
    1. If someone has a false belief system (religion / cult / superstition...whatever you want to call it...) understand that they are irrational from the get to.
    2. Stop trying to be a martyr. He's in the cult, and that's what HE WANTS. He will do what HE WANTS, and it's not your place, nor will you have much of a chance for success getting in the middle of it. False belief systems are irrational. Folks who believe in them are irrational. You cannot change that.
    3. There are lots of asexual folks around, for whatever reason. It's not your business.
    4. You need to respect yourself, and him, by leaving him alone.
    5. Research fatal attraction. Focus your energy on someone who is interested; someone who is rational.
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    Dec 10, 2012 8:30 PM GMT
    chuckystud said1. If someone has a false belief system (religion / cult / superstition...whatever you want to call it...) understand that they are irrational from the get to.
    2. Stop trying to be a martyr. He's in the cult, and that's what HE WANTS. He will do what HE WANTS, and it's not your place, nor will you have much of a chance for success getting in the middle of it. False belief systems are irrational. Folks who believe in them are irrational. You cannot change that.
    3. There are lots of asexual folks around, for whatever reason. It's not your business.
    4. You need to respect yourself, and him, by leaving him alone.
    5. Research fatal attraction. Focus your energy on someone who is interested; someone who is rational.


    Lol he's not asexual. He obviously has sexual feelings otherwise I would not of been interested in him but he represses them. I care about him and all I want to do is help.

    And I'm not trying to get with him. I'm just trying to be his platonic friend. But yeah his church does sound like a cult. Most religions are.
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    Dec 10, 2012 8:33 PM GMT
    If he is a very devout man then he is:

    A) probably not lying due to his principles

    B) various amounts of crazy

    C) possibly a self-loathing gay


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    Dec 10, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    In my experience the extremer the christian the higher the chance of them being gay.
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    Dec 10, 2012 8:42 PM GMT
    Ckfeezy saidIn my experience the extremer the christian the higher the chance of them being gay.


    Very true!

    From the age of 13 to 18 I was a youth minister. Lol I was so far into the closet you would of had to go splunking to get me out.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 10, 2012 8:44 PM GMT
    It could be any of A B or C or something very different. I don't think that categorizing the dude is probably the best thing, who knows the reason.
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    Dec 10, 2012 8:47 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    chuckystud said1. If someone has a false belief system (religion / cult / superstition...whatever you want to call it...) understand that they are irrational from the get to.
    2. Stop trying to be a martyr. He's in the cult, and that's what HE WANTS. He will do what HE WANTS, and it's not your place, nor will you have much of a chance for success getting in the middle of it. False belief systems are irrational. Folks who believe in them are irrational. You cannot change that.
    3. There are lots of asexual folks around, for whatever reason. It's not your business.
    4. You need to respect yourself, and him, by leaving him alone.
    5. Research fatal attraction. Focus your energy on someone who is interested; someone who is rational.


    Lol he's not asexual. He obviously has sexual feelings otherwise I would not of been interested in him but he represses them. I care about him and all I want to do is help.

    And I'm not trying to get with him. I'm just trying to be his platonic friend. But yeah his church does sound like a cult. Most religions are. Most religions are.


    False
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    Dec 10, 2012 8:47 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidI was debating this with a very religious young friend of mine about dating. He says he prefers to wait for his God to send a woman and that dating takes away from your marriage because you're gonna break up after relations anyway. While trying not to laugh I told him that he needs to get out here and get some experience. Because a handsome guy in his twenties who has never had sex or even dated a woman sounds weird. Answer this question :

    If you met a handsome man in his twenties who said he had never even so much had dated a woman would you think he's :

    A) Lying
    B) Crazy as in justifiably off kilter
    Or C) Gay


    D) get to know him before making a decision about him. Before that I will take his words for it
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    Dec 10, 2012 8:49 PM GMT
    as is the answer to most of these threads: mind your own business; let him mind his.
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    Dec 10, 2012 8:51 PM GMT
    TheKrisPandemic said
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    chuckystud said1. If someone has a false belief system (religion / cult / superstition...whatever you want to call it...) understand that they are irrational from the get to.
    2. Stop trying to be a martyr. He's in the cult, and that's what HE WANTS. He will do what HE WANTS, and it's not your place, nor will you have much of a chance for success getting in the middle of it. False belief systems are irrational. Folks who believe in them are irrational. You cannot change that.
    3. There are lots of asexual folks around, for whatever reason. It's not your business.
    4. You need to respect yourself, and him, by leaving him alone.
    5. Research fatal attraction. Focus your energy on someone who is interested; someone who is rational.


    Lol he's not asexual. He obviously has sexual feelings otherwise I would not of been interested in him but he represses them. I care about him and all I want to do is help.

    And I'm not trying to get with him. I'm just trying to be his platonic friend. But yeah his church does sound like a cult. Most religions are. Most religions are.


    False


    Let's agree to disagree. Most major religions do involve a lot of the same thought processes as cults.
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    Dec 10, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    C or D) Don't really care. ;p
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    Dec 10, 2012 9:56 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    chuckystud said1. If someone has a false belief system (religion / cult / superstition...whatever you want to call it...) understand that they are irrational from the get to.
    2. Stop trying to be a martyr. He's in the cult, and that's what HE WANTS. He will do what HE WANTS, and it's not your place, nor will you have much of a chance for success getting in the middle of it. False belief systems are irrational. Folks who believe in them are irrational. You cannot change that.
    3. There are lots of asexual folks around, for whatever reason. It's not your business.
    4. You need to respect yourself, and him, by leaving him alone.
    5. Research fatal attraction. Focus your energy on someone who is interested; someone who is rational.


    Lol he's not asexual. He obviously has sexual feelings otherwise I would not of been interested in him but he represses them. I care about him and all I want to do is help.

    And I'm not trying to get with him. I'm just trying to be his platonic friend. But yeah his church does sound like a cult. Most religions are.


    Ignorant folks don't know they are.

    Some folks don't have sexual interests, for a long lists of reasons. They are considered asexual.

    Read what you wrote. Look at how it makes you look. It really isn't all that cogent.

    He can take care of himself.
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    Dec 11, 2012 12:24 AM GMT
    I'd go with a variation of C, either gay, unsure of their sexual identity, or asexual .
    Most of the guys I knew in high school already had girlfriends.

    I can understand some guys not caring if they are in a relationship, but those guys always attract the girls to them, which leads to many short term relationships.
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    Dec 11, 2012 12:25 AM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidI was debating this with a very religious young friend of mine about dating. He says he prefers to wait for his God to send a woman and that dating takes away from your marriage because you're gonna break up after relations anyway. While trying not to laugh I told him that he needs to get out here and get some experience. Because a handsome guy in his twenties who has never had sex or even dated a woman sounds weird. Answer this question :

    If you met a handsome man in his twenties who said he had never even so much had dated a woman would you think he's :

    A) Lying
    B) Crazy as in justifiably off kilter
    Or C) Gay
    C