This guy a fake? (Please help)

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    Dec 10, 2012 6:40 PM GMT
    I've been messaging this guy on RJ who starts out by giving me a sob story about his mom.

    I looked past it but when he asked me for my number, and I refused (I'm in the closet, and made it clear in my profile.), I didn't hear back from him for over a week, and then he messages me with "What's wrong, I haven't heard from you in awhile?". It made me suspicious of what his true intentions were. So our conversations have been short and mostly "how are you"s? He hasn't told me much about himself other than his sob stories, and how much he's struggling.

    Now he's asking for $250. Every fiber of my being is saying "Walk away." I honestly think he's some fake account trying to swindle guys out of money, but there may be a possibility that he is a guy in need of help. I'm not gonna give him any money, but I'm wondering if I should give him another chance, just to be friends. The last time I tried to confront him, he ignored it completely, and a couple messages later, he asks for the money.

    If I was in a bad situation, I would hope people would give me the benefit of the doubt, but I also know that sometimes people don't deserve it.

    So should I keep messaging this guy, or just end it?
  • Fable

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    Dec 10, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    end it. you already know you should. If someone's in trouble there are other avenues for them to get help rather than ask a random online for 250
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 10, 2012 7:32 PM GMT
    He's probably targeting you because you're closeted/inexperienced. Listen to every fiber of your being, and block him.
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    Dec 10, 2012 7:33 PM GMT
    block him.
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    Dec 10, 2012 10:45 PM GMT
    Do not even think of sending him money. Block him.







    This isn't a rj member from Texas, is it?
  • mcwclewis

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    Dec 10, 2012 10:53 PM GMT
    It's cool that you're generous enough to consider helping out a stranger but this is clearly an instance of someone trying to take advantage of you. As the others said, block him
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    Dec 10, 2012 10:55 PM GMT
    You already know the answer. Block this guy.

    Run fast. Run far.
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    Dec 10, 2012 10:56 PM GMT
    Dude. No offense but the fact that you are evening axing this question screams of your insecurities. He is shady....Do not even entertain him any longer...
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 10, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    You don't give people you don't really actually know in person - and that you only converse with over the internet - money. Not now, not ever.
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    Dec 10, 2012 11:03 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidYou don't give people you don't really actually know in person - and that you only converse with over the internet - money. Not now, not ever.


    Except me.


    Can I borrow $5 dude?
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    Dec 10, 2012 11:06 PM GMT
    Just tell him you can't give any money because your country is in the middle of a military take over and that you need to find someone to smuggle the king's treasures out of the country.
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    Dec 10, 2012 11:31 PM GMT
    Looks like I have a general concensus. I'll make sure to block him.

    @fable: agreed. I don't know why he would ask a stranger over someone he actually knows.

    @HottJoe: Closeted, yes, naive, no. I know when to walk away, and when to spot trouble.

    @Five Alive: I plan to.

    @Iceblink: Never intended to sent him money, and I plan to block him. His username is jdiggex, and it says he's from LA, and Canada.

    @mcwclewis: Generous enough to listen, yes, generous enough to give money, no. I'm a scrooge with my money icon_razz.gif

    @MashogaNubian: I plan to run very far. icon_razz.gif
    @amoonhawk: Agreed. I don't really give money period, even to the people I know. I may let a friend borrow money if I knew he was good for it though.

    @xrichx: icon_eek.gif I think I'll just stick to the truth for this one. Thanks for the idea though.
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    Dec 10, 2012 11:37 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidDude. No offense but the fact that you are evening axing this question screams of your insecurities. He is shady....Do not even entertain him any longer...


    icon_neutral.gif Did you even fully read the post? icon_rolleyes.gif

    I am not going to give him money. Obviously I know this is fishy. And yes, I want to walk away but I am always willing to give people a second chance. (A curse more than a gift I guess)

    There is a difference between insecurity, and trying to be a good person. I guess not many people on the internet would know that though icon_neutral.gif (Though I know of several RJ members who are excluded from that list icon_biggrin.gif )

    Next time, just spend an extra 10 seconds to finish reading the post, okay? icon_wink.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 10, 2012 11:39 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    AMoonHawk saidYou don't give people you don't really actually know in person - and that you only converse with over the internet - money. Not now, not ever.


    Except me.


    Can I borrow $5 dude?

    If you come by my place and pick it up, I'll let you earn it icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 10, 2012 11:42 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    jmusmc85 said
    AMoonHawk saidYou don't give people you don't really actually know in person - and that you only converse with over the internet - money. Not now, not ever.


    Except me.


    Can I borrow $5 dude?

    If you come by my place and pick it up, I'll let you earn it icon_biggrin.gif


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    Dec 10, 2012 11:44 PM GMT
    WaytoDawn said
    jmusmc85 saidDude. No offense but the fact that you are evening axing this question screams of your insecurities. He is shady....Do not even entertain him any longer...


    icon_neutral.gif Did you even fully read the post? icon_rolleyes.gif

    I am not going to give him money. Obviously I know this is fishy. And yes, I want to walk away but I am always willing to give people a second chance. (A curse more than a gift I guess)

    There is a difference between insecurity, and trying to be a good person. I guess not many people on the internet would know that though icon_neutral.gif (Though I know of several RJ members who are excluded from that list icon_biggrin.gif )

    Next time, just spend an extra 10 seconds to finish reading the post, okay? icon_wink.gif


    Do not get loud with me sir....

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    Dec 10, 2012 11:59 PM GMT
    Without a doubt FAKE! Just tell him, you're not a bank. Then block!
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    Dec 11, 2012 12:10 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    WaytoDawn said
    jmusmc85 saidDude. No offense but the fact that you are evening axing this question screams of your insecurities. He is shady....Do not even entertain him any longer...


    icon_neutral.gif Did you even fully read the post? icon_rolleyes.gif

    I am not going to give him money. Obviously I know this is fishy. And yes, I want to walk away but I am always willing to give people a second chance. (A curse more than a gift I guess)

    There is a difference between insecurity, and trying to be a good person. I guess not many people on the internet would know that though icon_neutral.gif (Though I know of several RJ members who are excluded from that list icon_biggrin.gif )

    Next time, just spend an extra 10 seconds to finish reading the post, okay? icon_wink.gif


    Do not get loud with me sir....

    bonqheheno.gif


    I didn't get loud icon_rolleyes.gif .... technically speaking I was completely silent. icon_lol.gif And since it wasn't in caps, it's technically not yelling, just slightly raising my voice to emphasize a specific part.

    I'd add some gif to help make my point, but I think I've said enough. icon_cool.gif
  • Rincore

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    Dec 11, 2012 12:24 AM GMT
    This is a no brainer dude.
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    Dec 11, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    A female colleague of mine was crying the other night and I stupidly asked what was wrong.
    She was very concerned about a guy she's been messaging for a while now, thinking he may be in jail or dead.
    I found out he hasn't messaged her sense she wired him a thousand dollars, so he can get out of the army...just didn't have the heart to tell her you can't buy your way out.
    Not only would I block him; I'd report him to admin...bet you $250 he's doing this to other guys as well.