Durbdoc saidSay you meet a really kewl guy...everything you've been looking for.... the chemistry is there, but he's just into nsa. Do you walk away if it's not your preference, do you indulge him in the hopes of him changing his mind or is there a "how to" for getting him to date you instead....
First thing: don't do ANYTHING "NSA" with someone who you think is "everything you've been looking for." Date (formally) and/or hangout (informally) for a little while... but no swapping spit or dropping trou under any circumstances. If he can't handle that, then he's not "everything you've been looking for."
Second thing: Assume he's gone through lots of frayed "strings" well before he met you. Consider offering to get STD-tested together before doing anything NSA with him. It can help make it clear you take your relationship with him (and your health) seriously.
Third thing: If it's too late for the "first thing," leave BRIEF communication that you're available if he's interested in taking things further anytime in the near future. If he doesn't respond, move on. Don't waste any time getting all Glenn Close with him.