First time at a Gay Club...........Help?!

  • WkA93

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    Dec 11, 2012 2:10 AM GMT
    So in few days my friends are taking me to a gay club (Toronto)
    just to chill and/or hookup

    Here's the problem folks:.....I'm a dork! icon_biggrin.gif

    you ever seen The March of the Penguins documentary? Those are my dance moves right there.

    Me being a dork also makes me sooo bad at flirting (unless i got some alcohol)



    Tips, Folks?!
    Anything i should avoid?!
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    Dec 11, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    You can get into clubs at 19? I'm not sure what to tell you as I look like a fish out of water when trying to dance.
  • Kriss

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    Dec 11, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    take it calm and be easy haha, words of advice freestyle.

    Just stay calm and hang around your friends I've never been to a gay club before but at regular old clubs around here nobody cares to much about what your doing as long as your not stepping on toes or punching anyone in the face.

    Watch out for the drunk people, they are often the ones that are either too loud or pushy. My friend was trying to leave a club once and some frat boy punched him in the nose simply because he was drunk and thought he was someone else. So just be careful in general.

    Like I said most clubs people don't care how you dance, just let the music flow through you and move your body. The more comfortable you feel the less awkward you will look on the dance floor.

    I can say this from personal choreography, hip hop, freestyle, bboy and on one occasion ballet lessons from a friend lol. I'm not the best but remember this as well if it helps theres always someone alot worse than you so put on some dam comfortable shoes and just relax! Have fun but don't get crazy icon_wink.gif

    Oh yeah and welcome to RJ! icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 11, 2012 2:29 AM GMT
    Don't ask me... last time I tried to dance, somebody called an ambulance.
    Maybe your friends can help you practice some moves before you go out?

    I've seen flyers out for gay-friendly group dance lessons on wednesday nights, and have been tempted. But I think they focus more on ballroom dancing.
  • Pontifex

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    Dec 11, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
    Ask one of your friends to teach you. The more simple you keep it, the less dorky you'll look, even if you know what you are doing. Just don't spaz out and you'll be fine.

    Get drunk and take some E and you won't care! (not serious)
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    Dec 11, 2012 2:51 AM GMT
    Some guys got it and others don't. I was never comfortable on the dance floor, not as a little kid, not at barmitzvas, not in gay bars, but I used to love watching my first bud tease all the boys there. He had some moves. A beautiful thing to watch.
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    Dec 11, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    Just move with the rhythm of the music! You can't miss it, usually it's so loud even the floor vibrates.
    Only dance when you like the music.
    Only go onto the dance floor when it's full. Nobody will notice how you dance then.
    Take your shirt off when you feel hot. Nobody will care how you dance afterwards.
    Most important, look as if you are having lots of fun. That is very attractive.
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    Dec 11, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    who cares, you're hot, just stand there with your shirt off and definitely, definitely wear the glasses.
    Take a Zumba class; pretty much the same thing--bounce, fist pump, slap asses and scream just before the base drop...
    Still can not wrap my mind around how any self respecting gay man can not dance.; however, I have yet to get mine to do more then "bend and snap".
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    Dec 11, 2012 3:06 AM GMT

    I don't have any advice for you, so here's a video of a guy smoking in the shower.....
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    Dec 11, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    Dorky dancers are kinda cute.
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    Dec 11, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    Avoid negativity.

    Just have a good time and feel good about yourself. Take your shirt off too if you can and if you're hairy.
    You're cute and adorable. The kind of guys that you'd want to be with will be attracted to you if you show that you're comfortable with yourself.
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    Dec 11, 2012 3:40 AM GMT
    WkA93 said

    you ever seen The March of the Penguins documentary? Those are my dance moves right there.


    YES!!! DON'T DANCE!!! DO USE YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR! I'd much rather spend time with a guy who's got personality than some idiot who can breakdance. You're very funny, show it off.
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    Dec 11, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    My advice:

    - Don't go to hookup. The desperation will show through. Go to have fun, and if awesomeness happens, let it
    - Dance like no one's watching. But don't be insecure about it. Own it. A bad dancer with no fear is sexy.
    - Make the first move. If you're going to wait around all night for guys to approach you, you're not living. Take the risk.
    - Be a good wingman. A friend has offered to take a bar virgin out for fun, so make it fun for him as well. Help him out, be a good buddy.
    - Keep it positive. People get drawn to that.

    Good luck!
  • camfer

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    Dec 11, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    Just because you go to a club doesn't mean you have to dance. You can just try to enjoy a drink or two and attempt to have a conversation by shouting into a guy's ear over the music. If he's interested in conversing with you he'll shout back at you. It won't be particularly intelligent conversation. You might even meet a fellow dork. You'll do fine.


  • calibro

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    Dec 11, 2012 3:59 AM GMT
    drink a lot
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    Dec 11, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    My first time in a gay bar, I had a 69, with a hot asian guy, under a coffee table, on the patio. We were both shit faced drunk. I'd been in the bar for 2hrs.
  • justarunner

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    Dec 11, 2012 4:18 AM GMT
    huhwhat saidMy advice:

    - Don't go to hookup. The desperation will show through. Go to have fun, and if awesomeness happens, let it
    - Dance like no one's watching. But don't be insecure about it. Own it. A bad dancer with no fear is sexy.
    - Make the first move. If you're going to wait around all night for guys to approach you, you're not living. Take the risk.
    - Be a good wingman. A friend has offered to take a bar virgin out for fun, so make it fun for him as well. Help him out, be a good buddy.
    - Keep it positive. People get drawn to that.

    Good luck!


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    Dec 11, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    JRaRJ saidMy first time in a gay bar, I had a 69, with a hot asian guy, under a coffee table, on the patio. We were both shit faced drunk. I'd been in the bar for 2hrs.

    Damn! Look who's the playa! Aren't you always talking about how alone you are, and bam - 2 hrs?? hahaha *high fives
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 11, 2012 4:25 AM GMT
    You'll be fresh meat ... just smile a lot and let others do the talking until you can figure out who they are. The older guys will come after you first, maybe offering to buy you a drink ... and many will buy you shots ... just remember it is all to get you drunk and have sex with you or to see what you act like when you're drunk. So limit yourself because you don't want to give yourself a bad reputation the first time out. And everyone knows someone, so you don't want that future super hot guy hearing bad things about you. And no one will be watching or caring how you dance.
  • bobbyddadd

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    Dec 11, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    You can do a easy move. You don't need to move your feet. Just follow the music and move your body left to right and to left. You will look just fine
  • EricLA

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    Dec 11, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    Most important rule: do not go in there with ANY expectations. Just go to explore some place new and have fun. If you go there with the expectation of hooking up, and you don't, then that can make for a lousy time.

    Secondly, it's okay that you're a dork. There are a ton of guys who love dorks. And not just because "dork" is a whale's penis. What guys don't love is a guy trying to be something he's not. So, just be authentic.
  • wldct1998

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    Dec 11, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    Just don't worry about it. You're cute, and lots of guys like dorks! Have fun, enjoy yourself, and I'm sure it won't be your last time at a gay bar. I'm not much of a dancer either, but just get out there and have fun (and maybe take tips your friends offer you). icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 11, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    mindgarden saidDon't ask me... last time I tried to dance, somebody called an ambulance.


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  • MidwesternKid

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    Dec 11, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    Be yourself and Im pretty sure you'll be surprised at the attention you'll get. Just learn a simple two step or learn to sway to the beat and you'll be ok.
  • jim_sf

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    Dec 11, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidYou can get into clubs at 19?


    19-year-olds can drink legally in Canada. Some provinces let you drink at 18, so I think it's a rite of passage for New England college freshmen to go drinking in Quebec.

    My first time in a gay bar? I was so nervous I couldn't drink anything - and yet I still puked within fifteen minutes. Don't be like me. Stay with your friends, and focus on having fun with them.