Sometimes I feel like being a bitch.....

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    Dec 11, 2012 6:39 AM GMT
    There are only two types of me in my life:

    Straight or desperate hookup guys. And on occassion the closet case.

    Do you ever feel like being a bitch to everyone so that sometimes someone else can feel the hurt and anger you feel? Sometimes I just want someone else to hurt for once. Sometimes I just feel like having someone else cry because they are rejected because I sick of being rejected all the fucking time.
  • cookingitswee...

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    Dec 11, 2012 6:50 AM GMT
    seek therapy
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    Dec 11, 2012 6:53 AM GMT
    I have one.

    This isn't about a mental issue. Don't you ever sometimes just want someone else to feel like they don't matter too after getting turned down so many times?
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    Dec 11, 2012 7:15 AM GMT
    No because it feels SHITTY
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    Dec 11, 2012 7:29 AM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidDon't you ever sometimes just want someone else to feel like they don't matter too after getting turned down so many times?
    And stoop to their level? No thanks, I'm better than that. If anything I would be more welcoming since I'd know how it feels and wouldn't wish that pain on others.
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    Dec 11, 2012 8:32 AM GMT
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    MashogaNubianPrince saidDon't you ever sometimes just want someone else to feel like they don't matter too after getting turned down so many times?
    And stoop to their level? No thanks, I'm better than that. If anything I would be more welcoming since I'd know how it feels and wouldn't wish that pain on others.
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    I really like that quote. icon_smile.gif

    @ Mashoga - I know how you feel and I don't think anyone deserves to go through that. Of course you want to make someone else feel what you're going through, but, making someone else upset won't make you feel any better.
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    Dec 11, 2012 1:03 PM GMT
    Neight said
    MashogaNubianPrince saidDon't you ever sometimes just want someone else to feel like they don't matter too after getting turned down so many times?
    And stoop to their level? No thanks, I'm better than that. If anything I would be more welcoming since I'd know how it feels and wouldn't wish that pain on others.
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    +1, great quote.

    To the op : It feel great to be aggressive, it's powerful and addictive. A drug.
    I don't do drug.
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    Dec 11, 2012 1:31 PM GMT
    I read somewhere by a guy where he was saying something on the same grounds on how he has no friends, he gets ignored all the time. But he still tries to keep his head up and that he is proud that he is not bitter even though life has not necessarily been fair to him.
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    Dec 11, 2012 2:36 PM GMT
    Absolutely. Like minox said, self-righteous anger feels wonderful but so does getting drunk. It's something we can indulge in and feel better about ourselves on a superficial level.

    I grew up rejected everyday, and the end result was an abnormally high fear of rejection. Combatting that was rejecting someone else before they rejected me or internalizing the rejection and rejecting myself. It was directly linked to cutting myself, to abusing myself, and to indulging in the illusion that I was less than-- or the opposite, much greater than. No surprise that it was always all about my favorite thing, me.

    Peace came when I accepted that my purpose in life was not to meet everyone's fantasy, and that most importantly no one will ever fully meet my fantasy. Because they are just that, fantasies. The illusion of: What's that one taste like, How big is that one, What's it like to wake-up everyday with that one? That is the essence of living in 'tomorrow', which hasn't even happened yet.
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    Dec 11, 2012 4:18 PM GMT
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    Neight said
    MashogaNubianPrince saidDon't you ever sometimes just want someone else to feel like they don't matter too after getting turned down so many times?
    And stoop to their level? No thanks, I'm better than that. If anything I would be more welcoming since I'd know how it feels and wouldn't wish that pain on others.
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    +1, great quote.

    To the op : It feel great to be aggressive, it's powerful and addictive. A drug.
    I don't do drug.


    I get what you're saying its just that sometimes I want someone else to be down in the dumps with me. You know what I mean? Sometimes it feels good to be mean.

    I'd like to be the one in power for once.
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    Dec 11, 2012 4:32 PM GMT
    Neight said
    MashogaNubianPrince saidDon't you ever sometimes just want someone else to feel like they don't matter too after getting turned down so many times?
    And stoop to their level? No thanks, I'm better than that. If anything I would be more welcoming since I'd know how it feels and wouldn't wish that pain on others.
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    GOOD JOB!
    AMEN!
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    Dec 11, 2012 4:33 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said


    I'd like to be the one in power for once.


    Bitching never give any power, it rather show lack of it.
    Guys like that think their are tiger, shark, snake. Dangerous predator.
    When (and if) they grow up, they realize they bite because it's their last option, like a cornered prey.

    They also think it show how smart they are. It's wrong. To be good at the bitching game, you just to to severely lack empathy and learn tricks.
    If you specialize and train often enough, making your hand on guys unable to defend themselves, you can end up thinking your tongue is feared and you got respect out of that.

    You don't, your just a bitch. And if you are a smart one, it's just more pathetic.

    You really want to be like that ?

    Being a decent person demand a lot more power than being a bitch. Because it's harder.
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    Dec 11, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    This just speaks volumes of your personality and how insecure you are...

    and to answer the question...No, never, not once
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    Dec 11, 2012 4:55 PM GMT
    You can still show your confidence and sense of self worth without demeening others.
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    Dec 11, 2012 5:04 PM GMT
    Yikes.

    As delightfully acid-tongued as I can be...I can't imagine hurting someone just for the fun of it.

    It is one thing to spar with someone who regularly dishes it out. No one really takes it seriously.

    What you are talking about is cruelty for cruelty's sake.

    I have tried to back off from you since your posts are often a bit odd and I thought it might be worth while to get sense of who you are.

    Now I get who you are.

    You should choose your words wisely.

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    Dec 11, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidYou can still show your confidence and sense of self worth without demeening others.


    Exactly, I totally agree.
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    Dec 11, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    RadRTT saidThis just speaks volumes of your personality and how insecure you are...

    and to answer the question...No, never, not once


    I never said I wasn't insecure.
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    Dec 11, 2012 5:12 PM GMT
    Cash saidYikes.

    As delightfully acid-tongued as I can be...I can't imagine hurting someone just for the fun of it.

    It is one thing to spar with someone who regularly dishes it out. No one really takes it seriously.

    What you are talking about is cruelty for cruelty's sake.



    Cruelty for cruelty's sake is one of the most sinister things any one can do - like Iago in Othello or any serial killer really.
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    Dec 11, 2012 5:12 PM GMT
    I have to agree with the guys above me. Having the power doesn't mean that you're mean to someone. Having the power in a situation is not letting the douchebags win by them projecting their insecurities and low self worth on you. They just don't see how amazing you are, or feel like you might be too much for them to handle. And if they're 'hot' and mean or ignoring you, you don't need them in your life anyway.

    I've made it a rule for myself- if Im not celebrated or at least in equal grounds with someone, there is no point for me to stick around and allow myself to believe a demeaning lie. That goes with all aspects of life- especially relationships. I also don't always have to go after the 'hottest' guys. They tend to be the biggest jerks and often the most insecure. Give me someone who is handsome, kind, funny, and has integrity. I'll take him any day.

    You seem to be a nice and thoughtful guy- please love yourself more and find people that are going to encourage you. You don't seem like you really want someone else to hurt, you just want them to understand. Most of us understand and have been rejected. It happens to me all of the time. It's about what you do after the rejection that builds the character to sustain.
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    Dec 11, 2012 5:27 PM GMT
    Maybe you should spend the time and energy looking deeper into yourself to try and figure out what you might be doing that causes people to treat you that way, and why you attract such people in the first place.
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    Dec 11, 2012 5:27 PM GMT
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    Cash saidYikes.

    As delightfully acid-tongued as I can be...I can't imagine hurting someone just for the fun of it.

    It is one thing to spar with someone who regularly dishes it out. No one really takes it seriously.

    What you are talking about is cruelty for cruelty's sake.



    Cruelty for cruelty's sake is one of the most sinister things any one can do - like Iago in Othello or any serial killer really.


    There are worse things.
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    Dec 11, 2012 5:28 PM GMT
    It's fun until it stops being fun. At that point ppl have already lost respect for you.
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    Dec 11, 2012 7:34 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidThere are only two types of me in my life:

    Straight or desperate hookup guys. And on occassion the closet case.

    Do you ever feel like being a bitch to everyone so that sometimes someone else can feel the hurt and anger you feel? Sometimes I just want someone else to hurt for once. Sometimes I just feel like having someone else cry because they are rejected because I sick of being rejected all the fucking time.


    Isn't this the definition of a bully?

    You can be better than that.

    It's an unfortunate occurrence that those who suffer abuse will go out a perpetuate that treatment on others when given the opportunity. It makes sense that this happens, a person grows up with the understanding that this is just the natural order of things, their life experience has taught them the wrong thing.

    It sucks that a person who is harassed or tormented should also be burdened with the responsibility of having to break the cycle, but really it has to stop somewhere.
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    Dec 11, 2012 7:46 PM GMT
    Love how most of this thread derailed into optimistic thinking and wisdom.
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    Dec 11, 2012 7:50 PM GMT
    I never WANT to be a bitch, but sometimes I can act like one. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Anyways, always strive to be a gentleman. (and, yes, that means you take the time to hold the door for an elderly person.)