is there any happiness in all relationships?

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    Dec 12, 2012 9:39 AM GMT
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    I have realised how we always see things from the distance and think how beautifully they are.....everything is beautiful when you are looking at it and that's the plain truth. I have come across people who fight everyday and unhappy yet they chose to stay in the relationship regardless....the question was, why do you keep going back even though you get hurt?

    Many a times as an onlooker the replies will simply be easy, more of like "i could have walked away the first time he cheated" or " i cannot tolerate that nonsense".......but as an individual who is in love we always hope for the best and end up living for someone, you lose yourself completely and give your everything in trying to make everything work...how many of us have compromises through the most hurtful things our partners did to us?

    Our hearts carry such a magic feeling that is not easily controlled when we fall in love, it erases all the worst things your partner does, and when you want to pull away then you are reminded of the good things "he' is worth (he calls you when you need him, he is there every time you need someone to talk to and he gives you all he has), yet he keeps hurting you at the same time.

    At the end of the day all we can do is smile when you are around people and cry when you are apart..truth is all relationships are about compromising!
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    Dec 12, 2012 12:54 PM GMT
    I bit one sided no ?

    There is love and hurt on both side.

    I certainly prefer to be hurt by my partner because he is careless, than hurting him because I am careless.

    I can handle being hurt, but I can barely handle to realize I hurt him.

    And it's because he feel the same that we both go deep to clear issues before they root.

    I appreciate my relationship when he makes me happy, but it's weak compared to how great it feel to make him happy.


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    Dec 12, 2012 3:06 PM GMT
    Relationships require compromises, but they do not require martyrdom. When the hurt and the pain become systematic, you know it's time to say goodbye.
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    Dec 12, 2012 3:35 PM GMT
    well sometime people say they are happy and its hard to find the root of truthfulness in everything, there is a weary of compromising and just simply hanging cos you think things will change, i cannot imagine being in a relationship whereby i am wondering if he will live me tomorrow or not!
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    Dec 12, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    Slim saidwell sometime people say they are happy and its hard to find the root of truthfulness in everything, there is a weary of compromising and just simply hanging cos you think things will change, i cannot imagine being in a relationship whereby i am wondering if he will live me tomorrow or not!


    Relationships change people, like any experience you have in life.
    But people don't change the way you want, because you want it or because you demand it.
    The best way to be able to cope with a partner imperfections is to be really aware of the cost of your own imperfections on his quality of life.

    I don't like at all the word compromising. I don't do that. I pay the price and fight for what has value to me.

    And if there is no value, the relationship never was one to start with. It was filtering really so that it look like a dream.
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    Dec 12, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    Some people are happy in their relationship, others are unhappy... I don't get what you mean by, is there ANY happiness in ALL relationships?icon_confused.gif

    Btw, I'm happy in mine. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 12, 2012 4:22 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidSome people are happy in their relationship, others are unhappy... I don't get what you mean by, is there ANY happiness in ALL relationships?icon_confused.gif

    Btw, I'm happy in mine. icon_smile.gif

    Yeah, I can't imagine not being happy in a long term relationship. I am incredibly happy in mine, every day, almost all the time.
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    Dec 13, 2012 6:25 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidSome people are happy in their relationship, others are unhappy... I don't get what you mean by, is there ANY happiness in ALL relationships?icon_confused.gif

    Btw, I'm happy in mine. icon_smile.gif

    well all i am saying is i think we tae it too far in order to be happy in the relationships which we stay in, like i have come across numerous couples who would simply sleep with someone outside their relationship and agreed to that simply cos thats how they want to keep their spark going!

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    Dec 13, 2012 6:30 AM GMT
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    Slim saidwell sometime people say they are happy and its hard to find the root of truthfulness in everything, there is a weary of compromising and just simply hanging cos you think things will change, i cannot imagine being in a relationship whereby i am wondering if he will live me tomorrow or not!


    Relationships change people, like any experience you have in life.
    But people don't change the way you want, because you want it or because you demand it.
    The best way to be able to cope with a partner imperfections is to be really aware of the cost of your own imperfections on his quality of life.

    I don't like at all the word compromising. I don't do that. I pay the price and fight for what has value to me.

    And if there is no value, the relationship never was one to start with. It was filtering really so that it look like a dream.


    that's exactly what i always tell most people that i know for when they fall in love they always feel a need to trace their partners history based life, which i dnt mind when they do it but at the end of the day it ruins what they have between because once one partner falls short on a certain thing, instead of uplifting their spirits into the better boo's.......whatever you do you can never fall in love with your partners past life but rather the person himself.
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    Dec 13, 2012 6:55 AM GMT
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    Dec 13, 2012 6:55 AM GMT
    hi!