Need a little cheer up please.

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    Dec 12, 2012 4:39 PM GMT
    I don't understand something. If two guys seem very compatible mentality and physically, won't it be in their best interest to pursue dating?

    I do realize that this question has been paraphrased time and again but perhaps I need some clarification on my own.

    Friends tell me that I am super catch..If I was, wouldn't I be with someone... One friend tells me that I have guys by the fist load, but honestly they don't go anywhere because there isn't any chemistry...

    Its frustrating that I have yet to ever be in a steady relationship.

    I might as well give up and just focus all my time in a career and nothing else.

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    Dec 12, 2012 4:45 PM GMT
    Compatible mentality and physically doesn't necessarily mean "right place at right time". Or there are other factors that contribute to the lack of chemistry. I don't know your dating history but it seems to be that you're on the receiving end of flakes, break ups and "it's just isn't going to work between us...".

    Maybe you just have a penchant to be drawn to guys who aren't any good for you and then toss you aside without any consideration for your feelings. Maybe a low self-esteem makes you an easy target for a hit and run?
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 12, 2012 4:49 PM GMT
    You may be waiting to be hit on, in which case you're in a LONG line. Most gay men are painfully shy and look away when you make eye contact. You have to slut it up a little. Put yourself out there. Confidence gets you anywhere and everywhere.icon_twisted.gif

    P.S. Cheer up, cutie!
  • JackDoyle

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    Dec 12, 2012 5:16 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidYou may be waiting to be hit on, in which case you're in a LONG line. Most gay men are painfully shy and look away when you make eye contact. You have to slut it up a little. Put yourself out there. Confidence gets you anywhere and everywhere.icon_twisted.gif

    P.S. Cheer up, cutie!


    ^^ yeah this!
    Make the first move on guys ye fancy! and see if ye have chemistry icon_biggrin.gif
    go through them faster than Taylor Swift untill ye find the right one icon_wink.gif
  • Iakona

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    Dec 12, 2012 6:39 PM GMT
    You just have to be patient....you have to sift through a lot of guys who are not right for you to find the one that is the right fit.....and that feeling has to come from both sides which makes it even harder...
    You have a lot going for you, you will find someone soon....no worries babes...

    HUGSicon_biggrin.gif
  • CRAZY_DIAMOND

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    Dec 12, 2012 6:59 PM GMT
    Chin up buddy. Chemistry is the really hard one to find. You have to feel that spark mentally as well as physically, but when it happens you'll know it. You seem to be a cool well adjusted guy so don't try and force it. just relax and be sure to show interest in those who interest you. be well man