Love happens when you least expect it

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    Dec 12, 2012 10:27 PM GMT
    I can't wait to fall in love , I've been looking actively for three years now and have never stumbled across a guy with whom it could have happened. So , I'm asking all of you who are / have been in serious committed relationships .

    Is it true that love happens when you least expect it ? that you have to stop looking for it to suddenly make its way into your life ( ok i'm exaggerating) or is it just a big fat lie you tell single people to cheer ( and shut) them up ^^
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 12, 2012 10:46 PM GMT
    I don't know if it's true for everyone, but that's how it happened for me. I noted it at the time, and it was uncanny, really.
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    Dec 13, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    It's very true, but who doesn't have expectations?
  • MikeW

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    Dec 13, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    Yeah, but what is "love" really?

    Not to get all philosophical about it or anything but we agree it isn't just lust. Lust may be a part of it but its more than that, right?

    So, its always surprising when you find yourself feeling that 'something more'; when you realize you actually *like* the guy -- and even *more* surprising when those feelings are reciprocated. Right?

    So, yeah, it always comes as a sort of surprise.
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    Dec 13, 2012 5:21 AM GMT
    Agreed. It came out of nowhere for me. I had just moved to the city and was working like 15 hour days and one night I was like "I need a drink and to go to a gay bar and just gay it the fuck up"

    And then I met him. It's been a year and we are more in love than ever icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 13, 2012 5:23 AM GMT
    MikeW saidYeah, but what is "love" really?

    icon_rolleyes.gif.


    To the OP...it BETTER! icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 13, 2012 5:29 AM GMT
    Saad22 said...

    Is it true that love happens when you least expect it ? ...



    It depends on if you are the one surprised by love or the one doing the surprising?

    See my response in the linked thread dated Dec 12, 2012 10:12 PM.
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    Dec 13, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    GAMRican said
    Saad22 said...

    Is it true that love happens when you least expect it ? ...



    It depends on if you are the one surprised by love or the one doing the surprising?

    See my response in the linked thread dated Dec 12, 2012 10:12 PM.


    This. If everyone is told not to look, then aren't we all going to miss out?
  • PrinceOfKeys

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    Dec 13, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    Saad22 saidI can't wait to fall in love , I've been looking actively for three years now and have never stumbled across a guy with whom it could have happened. So , I'm asking all of you who are / have been in serious committed relationships .

    Is it true that love happens when you least expect it ? that you have to stop looking for it to suddenly make its way into your life ( ok i'm exaggerating) or is it just a big fat lie you tell single people to cheer ( and shut) them up ^^


    You know what's funny? I've actually experienced this first hand like crazy very recently.

    I spent years wishing, hoping, and praying that the next guy I met would be "the one" and we'd live happily ever after. I "started seeing a guy" and, although there was nothing wrong with him, I realized that I didn't care and didn't want a boyfriend right now. I realized that I only wanted friends in my life and to focus on my fitness and career.

    Once I truly realized and accepted that, my friend started calling me catnip.

    When I don't want it, I have options. When I do want it, I reek of desperation. ;)
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    Dec 13, 2012 5:41 AM GMT
    Zemy said
    GAMRican said
    Saad22 said...

    Is it true that love happens when you least expect it ? ...



    It depends on if you are the one surprised by love or the one doing the surprising?

    See my response in the linked thread dated Dec 12, 2012 10:12 PM.


    This. If everyone is told not to look, then aren't we all going to miss out?


    Exactly. Love happens.

    Make love and love will happen.
  • baw1900

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    Dec 13, 2012 5:42 AM GMT
    Be careful what you wish for......love isn't all that its cracked up to be, it can also bring a lot of pain. Love will change you as a person.
  • calibro

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    Dec 13, 2012 5:42 AM GMT
    no it doesn't
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    Dec 13, 2012 7:27 AM GMT
    Wow it sure does.How bout this for fate.I had just finished visiting my mom who was very ill in the hospital.I am the kind of guy who rarely goes into a bar before the sun goes down lol.So I walk into the only gay bar in my area and it's me the bartender and 2 drag queens.A few minutes later in walks the sexiest Latin man.I had never seen him before and needed a few shots to get the courage to approach him.We ended up goin home together and after a short interval we ended up as boyfriends and are now engaged and going on 3 years together!If I had never wandered into that bar at 5 pm on a Thursday or whatever I was I never would have found my man!icon_smile.gif So yes love can find you even at your lowest or saddest moments.
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    Dec 13, 2012 7:35 AM GMT
    It comes both ways - both when you're looking for it, and when you're not seeking it. But after there is a connection, it has to be nurtured. I had been actively making myself available for a boyfriend for about 5 years, before I met the man who became my partner.
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    Dec 13, 2012 7:44 AM GMT
    I've given up looking for it. If it happens great. I know what I want but maybe I am just too damn picky. I don't know. I was engaged once but he passed away. I've often said that honestly... I might have to live the rest of my life single and if that's how it has to be then fine... I'd rather be alone and solo than with the wrong person and still feel alone.
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    Dec 13, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    AC has a twin brother? icon_eek.gif
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    Dec 13, 2012 9:26 AM GMT
    I thought I was okay being a single bachelor, that I'm not looking for a relationship with anyone at this point.
    Then recently, this buddy of mine came into my life and...

    Never say never. Just sayin..