Can't get hard enough after penile trauma

  • bicycle91

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    Dec 12, 2012 11:39 PM GMT
    Hello

    i'm 21 and had a totally healthy sex life until, some days ago I suffered a penile trauma. During masturbation my partner "squeezed" my penis strongly for a few seconds. It hurt only in that moment, but then we went on and i didn't notice anything strange until the orgasm. After I noticed my penis was swollen, looking a little bit like a bottle upside down. This persisted for almost 2 days. Now (4 days later) it looks normal again, but I feel as if something had changed, I lost my libido and getting an erection seems harder than ever and almost impossible only through thought. Through masturbation i managed to get an erection right before the orgasm, but it didn't feel at all as it used to feel before...as if part of the connection was lost..
    It doesn't hurt though, I haven't noticed any blood in my urine, nor have i seen any hematoma. Since this thing really is bothering me, I saw a doctor today, but the visit was quite superficial...she did not even touch it, just looked at it and said it looked normal and that it just needs some time to recover from the trauma. On one hand I calmed down a bit, on the other hand I would like to see a specialist to have a more accurate visit. I am young and I am really afraid. Is there anybody who had a similar experience and who knows what I should do? Is there any risk of persistent erectile dysfunction?
    Thank you so much in advance for your answers.
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    Dec 12, 2012 11:46 PM GMT
    Wear padded bicycle shorts and invest in a grooved saddle if you don't already have one.

    It sounds like the dick squeeze only accelerated a problem that was building up in the first place.
  • bicycle91

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    Dec 12, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
    oh you say that because of my nickname^^ i don't ride bikes very often though, so i'm sure that's not the problem...and i repeat, before i was perfectly healthy, i just needed to think a second about someone i liked and the boner was there...and after the squeeze this suddenly changed. But thx anyways!
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    Dec 12, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    With a name like that, I figured you might be an avid cyclist.

    Oh well, hopefully the problem will go away. Being unable to think yourself to an erection is frustrating.
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    Dec 13, 2012 12:29 AM GMT
    Get a referral to a urologist, ASAP.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 13, 2012 11:29 PM GMT
    I never realized that as a tight bottom I could cause so much destruction.icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 14, 2012 2:15 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidI never realized that as a tight bottom I could cause so much destruction.icon_twisted.gif
    I guess this means your boyfriend has a small dick, since he hasn't posted a similar thread. icon_twisted.gif
  • bicycle91

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    Dec 15, 2012 10:46 AM GMT
    Hey thanks for the answers..i went to an urologist...so expansive!!! he didn't notice anything strange...he tried to calm me down a little bit. But the situation didn't get any better..so probably i'll do an ecography next month if it still won't have improved. I manage to get a boner in the mornig sometimes..but when i'm horny it's just depressing...i need to stimulate it a lot and even then it just doesn't feel the same anymore icon_sad.gif i hope it will improve..i also feel frustrated about the fact that my 150€ urologist didn't tell me anything concretely...
    yeah i feel like punching his face too, but unfortunately that wouldn't change a thing icon_sad.gif it was a guy i had been going out with for a month or so..nothing serious, we even haven't had sex..just some petting and look what happened icon_sad.gif I feel so bad...it's like nothing has got no sense anymore, even though i know ppl who have bigger problems, even though i can talk about it with my friends and parents...i feel not the same person anymore. no one deserves this icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 17, 2012 9:18 AM GMT
    I feel your pain especially cause im 21 too. I have a thing were if you don't use lube when you jo me off it hurts. So he kept on using spit but after a while he burst a blood vessel and so there was this large bump of blood on my penis. During that time I couldn't have sex, this made me mad and embarrassed. My libido went down because sex hurt if it went to long, and the guy I was with thought I wasn't attracted to him. If I did get hard I could only get half hard and would go soft every 5 seconds. The scariest part was when I did orgasm it was terrible not even worth it. Went to the doctor just for him to tell me "don't jo" which I was like no shit Sherlock. However, fast forward month and a half I healed by just not having sex, and jo. The more you cheat the worse it gets. I talked to the guy and was honest which he was really cool about my situation. My libido is back to normal, rock hard agian, and orgasms are as great as ever.

    It sucks I know but you just have to give your dick a break and let it heal.
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    Dec 17, 2012 10:16 AM GMT
    drobNJ saidI feel your pain especially cause im 21 too. I have a thing were if you don't use lube when you jo me off it hurts. So he kept on using spit but after a while he burst a blood vessel and so there was this large bump of blood on my penis. During that time I couldn't have sex, this made me mad and embarrassed. My libido went down because sex hurt if it went to long, and the guy I was with thought I wasn't attracted to him. If I did get hard I could only get half hard and would go soft every 5 seconds. The scariest part was when I did orgasm it was terrible not even worth it. Went to the doctor just for him to tell me "don't jo" which I was like no shit Sherlock. However, fast forward month and a half I healed by just not having sex, and jo. The more you cheat the worse it gets. I talked to the guy and was honest which he was really cool about my situation. My libido is back to normal, rock hard agian, and orgasms are as great as ever.

    It sucks I know but you just have to give your dick a break and let it heal.

    "Have to give your dick a break" ... Bad choice of words ... Just saying
  • bicycle91

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    Dec 17, 2012 10:31 AM GMT
    Thank you guys, really, you're helping me a lot! And knowing that some of you got better in time is just great! I'm having a break at the moment, so i hope it will heal fast...the thing is that i didn't notice any improvement yet..i just feel a little bit less desperate thanks to what you write and thanks to a doc who told me that it usually needs 3 weeks or so to get back to what it used to be. But i just don't believe that because of a second of too much pressure my whole sex life could be screwed! Thanks again and yes, I'll keep you updated ;)
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    Dec 17, 2012 1:34 PM GMT
    bicycle91 saidThank you guys, really, you're helping me a lot! And knowing that some of you got better in time is just great! I'm having a break at the moment, so i hope it will heal fast...the thing is that i didn't notice any improvement yet..i just feel a little bit less desperate thanks to what you write and thanks to a doc who told me that it usually needs 3 weeks or so to get back to what it used to be. But i just don't believe that because of a second of too much pressure my whole sex life could be screwed! Thanks again and yes, I'll keep you updated ;)

    Good. Make sure you remain under the care of medical professionals there, until this resolves itself. We can give suggestions online, but not real medical advice. Even a physician won't do that, without examining you in person.

    Your morning boners you mentioned previously are a good sign. Are they as good as you had previously? If so then some of this may be self-induced, in your mind.

    Urologists will ask a man with erectile dysfunction complaints if he gets good nocturnal erections. If he does, then his body if functioning OK, circulatory system and all that good stuff. The issue is more likely in his brain, that is, psychological.

    Also sounds like you may not be fully satisfied with this urologist. I don't know if your medical system will allow you to shop around for one who's more sympathetic and communicative. I wouldn't know how it is there, but here in the US I have had more problems with unsatisfactory urologists than with any other medical specialist.
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    Dec 27, 2012 7:45 AM GMT
    Give your buddy a rest. If the trauma was only a couple of seconds, hopefully it comes back to normal soon.