Short Story and Full Story: Both needing advice

  • PrinceOfKeys

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    Dec 13, 2012 5:31 AM GMT
    :SHORT STORY:

    I'm one of the most direct and honest people you'll ever meet. But at the same time...I don't want to hurt someone. He is a great guy, just not for me. I told him I wanted to be friends first. We met and I only made out with him because I was so far beyond drunk. Now, I get the feeling he thinks we are dating. I just don't know how to tactfully ask "Do you think we're dating? Because...I don't...and I don't want to...but I honestly do want us to be friends because I think we'd have a blast."
    So...
    Any advice on how to start that conversation?


    :FULL STORY:
    Available upon request. ;)
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    Dec 13, 2012 5:56 AM GMT
    The day you're afraid to hurt someone is the day you get hurt.
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    Dec 13, 2012 7:20 AM GMT
    I get the impression he might think you are dating, because you are dating - you are continuing to see him ( that's what one gets from the short version). If he likes you in that way, he is going to be hurt, and the longer you wait to have the conversation the more you are going to hurt him. If he has "fallen" for you -can't really tell from your post - there really is no way to let him down easy . As soon as he hears the "but" in the "I really like you as a friend but," speech, he will be hurt, and you may have lost a friend if he has already become a friend . You said you were honest and direct, so be that, and don't delay this. It is so much better to be honest and direct, rather than just cutting off contact, as many guys do.
  • calibro

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    Dec 13, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    it doesn't sounds like you're one of the most direct people i'll ever meet.
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    Dec 13, 2012 8:32 PM GMT
    Just tell him what you feel and give him the space needed to heal.
  • PrinceOfKeys

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    Dec 13, 2012 8:47 PM GMT
    And I can happily say that I was worried for nothing. Turned out he was feeling the same thing, but in reverse. (I don't even know if that makes sense) But I didn't ruin the friendship and all is well. icon_smile.gif