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  • Agency

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    Dec 13, 2012 2:51 PM GMT

    I find it both exciting and arousing when I envision a scenario in which I'm watching my partner with another guy.

    The idea of him with someone else when I'm *not* there is neither exciting nor unexciting.

    But I am immediately aroused when I think of him and someone else going at it while I watch from nearby.

    Similarly, at a wedding recently, a woman we know stopped him and fixed his suspenders for him. I happened to be looking at him from a mezzanine when this occurred, and was extremely turned on by her touching him.

    Do others ever feel this way?
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    Dec 14, 2012 10:52 PM GMT
    Agency said
    I find it both exciting and arousing when I envision a scenario in which I'm watching my partner with another guy.

    The idea of him with someone else when I'm *not* there is neither exciting nor unexciting.

    Do others ever feel this way?
    If he is as hot as you are, I think a lot of us could enjoy watching him get it on with another hot guy. Maybe if you filmed it . . .
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    Dec 14, 2012 11:26 PM GMT
    In the past, I was the "occasional third" for two different couples (one straight one gay) where one partner just wanted to watch. And it has happened on a couple of one-time hook-ups too. So it can't be very uncommon.
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    Dec 15, 2012 6:26 PM GMT
    I love it too. So count me in. icon_smile.gif

    For me its erotic on several levels. I get a different view point of my partners pleasure. I get to watch another hot guy touch the parts of my guy that I know so well. I get to learn something new, and chat later about what he liked... and perhaps selfishly, I get to relax and watch... haha.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 15, 2012 7:34 PM GMT
    YES, and I know what his type was--in terms of a variety other than me.... (It's only been a hypethetical fantasy, so far, but we have the rest of our lives, right?)
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    Dec 15, 2012 7:41 PM GMT
    Agency said
    I find it both exciting and arousing when I envision a scenario in which I'm watching my partner with another guy.

    The idea of him with someone else when I'm *not* there is neither exciting nor unexciting.

    But I am immediately aroused when I think of him and someone else going at it while I watch from nearby.

    Similarly, at a wedding recently, a woman we know stopped him and fixed his suspenders for him. I happened to be looking at him from a mezzanine when this occurred, and was extremely turned on by her touching him.

    Do others ever feel this way?


    Wouldn't this be considered voyeurism? I've never had the experience of feeling aroused if someone I was intimate with was...Doing it with someone else (aside from fury!)...But to each their own!icon_wink.gif
  • MidwesternKid

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    Dec 15, 2012 7:43 PM GMT
    I had that happen with one past relationship. I would have to try and remember the event that triggered the desire for that to happen. I can't remember exactly what caused that thought to occur, but to this day I am aroused by the thought of watching him have sex with someone else.
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:11 AM GMT
    Found a useful term for anyone that wants a way to describe this in the future.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compersion
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:18 AM GMT
    If I saw my lover with another guy, I would do the following all at the same time: Cry, Beat the shit out of the other guy, throw up on them both.
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    JerseyJames75 saidFound a useful term for anyone that wants a way to describe this in the future.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compersion
    The common description is "cuckold fetish", if you're looking for porn, it'll be under that.
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:32 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch said
    JerseyJames75 saidFound a useful term for anyone that wants a way to describe this in the future.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compersion
    The common description is "cuckold fetish", if you're looking for porn, it'll be under that.


    That is not entirely correct.

    A cuckold fetish involves an element of domination and humiliation.

    That is not what the OP described.

    And the OP's fantasy is not uncommon.

    An speaking from experience...it CAN be rather....stimulating.....

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    Jan 16, 2013 3:35 AM GMT
    Agency said

    Similarly, at a wedding recently, a woman we know stopped him and fixed his suspenders for him. I happened to be looking at him from a mezzanine when this occurred, and was extremely turned on by her touching him.


    creeeeepy!
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:36 AM GMT
    Agency said
    I find it both exciting and arousing when I envision a scenario in which I'm watching my partner with another guy.
    I want to race your partner.

    the finish line is marked on a mirror.

    the objective is to cum as far as possible.
  • Thirdbeach

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    Jan 16, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
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    An speaking from experience...it CAN be rather....stimulating.....

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    I too, have experienced how stimulating it can be to be watched while...


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    Jan 16, 2013 3:44 AM GMT
    I'm the opposite right now. I don't even enjoy thinking about people in his past he has been with, but that is my own mental struggle with not liking myself.
  • CityofDreams

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    Jan 16, 2013 6:53 AM GMT
    OMG, I am on the opposite end of the spectrum. The boy is mine, and I am not not willing to share. I swear each brain is its own micro-little-world. Anyway, if you into it and he is too, experiment away! ;)
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    Jan 16, 2013 5:52 PM GMT
    You're polyamorous. There's nothing wrong with that.
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    Jan 16, 2013 7:36 PM GMT
    I'm not interested in watching or being watched. Besides I don't share as I'm selfish that way. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 16, 2013 8:54 PM GMT
    Agency said
    I find it both exciting and arousing when I envision a scenario in which I'm watching my partner with another guy.

    The idea of him with someone else when I'm *not* there is neither exciting nor unexciting.

    But I am immediately aroused when I think of him and someone else going at it while I watch from nearby.

    Similarly, at a wedding recently, a woman we know stopped him and fixed his suspenders for him. I happened to be looking at him from a mezzanine when this occurred, and was extremely turned on by her touching him.

    Do others ever feel this way?


    Mmm. I know I do.

    Personally, I encourage this sort of thing when the chemistry presents itself. ;)
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    Jan 16, 2013 10:59 PM GMT
    Another great word!

    Frubbly: The adjective frubbly and the noun frubbles are sometimes used, in the poly community in the United Kingdom and the United States, to describe the feeling of compersion. These terms are more suited to cheerful, light-hearted conversation, and they are more grammatically versatile, for example: "I'm feeling all frubbly" and "Their relationship fills me with frubbles".
    Shadenfreude is generally considered to be the antonym of compersion.