What does "Friends with Benefits" mean, anyway?

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    Dec 13, 2012 9:13 PM GMT
    I always thought that FWB meant that you could be friends too.

    Hooking it with someone you'd never be friends (or friendly) with in the first place is kinda dumb.

    But what about when you get to know someone a bit, and you like hanging out with them, AND you want to hook up?? That's ok right?

    The last two guys that were my FWB both said "yeah, i'd love to see you again" and then they dropped off the face.

    So... is it the "friend" part or the "benefits" part that didn't work??

    I really wish I knew...

    Does FWB really mean "let's just hook up once?"

    Just saying.

  • HottJoe

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    Dec 13, 2012 9:30 PM GMT
    Benefits are only offered with fulltime friendships, and there is a copay on drugs and rectal exams.
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    Dec 13, 2012 10:13 PM GMT
    Exactly as it sounds. I only accept friends that include dental plans and matching 401K.
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    Dec 13, 2012 10:17 PM GMT
    Depends on if he owns a truck or not and weather he'll let you barrow it.
  • calibro

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    Dec 14, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    it means you suck dick, but don't have to swallow... and no cuddling at the end
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    Dec 14, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
    calibro saidit means you suck dick, but don't have to swallow... and no cuddling at the end


    well thats not fun
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    Dec 14, 2012 1:03 AM GMT
    I thought it was someone that you could just as easily call up to go riding, or sailing, or bar hopping, or hot monkey sex.
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    Dec 14, 2012 1:18 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidUsually just a repeat fuck-buddy, to me. I've never had one, but my understanding is that it's someone you have good sex with but don't want anything more relationship oriented...someone you can call up out of the blue and say "wanna fuck?" and they usually say "sure".

    So, not the same as a hookup...maybe you've just had a double round of bad luck. Get back on that horse, heh heh heh. icon_twisted.gif


    This! I had one for years prior to an LTR and let's just say that it was convenient.
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    Dec 14, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    It means friends with dental insurance, health insurance and paid vacations......duh! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 14, 2012 1:35 AM GMT
    Fuck buddies: sex on demand only

    Friends with benefits: someone you like but not enough to take them to meet the folks
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    Dec 14, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    tokidokiau saidFuck buddies: sex on demand only

    Friends with benefits: someone you like but not enough to take them to meet the folks


    This exactly.
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    Dec 14, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    tokidokiau saidFuck buddies: sex on demand only

    Friends with benefits: someone you like but not enough to take them to meet the folks



    Never heard it put that way, but that seems just about right!!
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    Dec 14, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    someone that is cool with you guys only messing around. SEX!!! Nothing more and nothing less
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    Dec 14, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    Friends with benefits can honestly be any friend who you choose to bond with physically. There can be varying degrees.
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    Dec 14, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    FWB means we can call each other when we're horny, but there's simply no possibility that we will have a "real" relationship. I don't see any distinction between FB and FWB.
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    Dec 14, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    Or can be friends with cuddle benefits.

    That is my personal definition anyways.
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    Dec 15, 2012 3:57 AM GMT
    Some guys are just flakes. Others may think that it's a better term than hooking up.

    I'd count the last 2 guys you were with as flakes. Just leave it at that, and try again. I'm not saying it'll always work, but if you find the right people it will.
  • in_this_corne...

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    Dec 15, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    Benefit me with sex, friend.
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    Dec 15, 2012 4:11 AM GMT
    it means that u r frnds -but u fuck 2-u r fuck buddies.
  • confidentcrip

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    Dec 15, 2012 4:12 AM GMT


    The last two guys that were my FWB both said "yeah, i'd love to see you again" and then they dropped off the face.


    Story of my life.
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Dec 15, 2012 4:19 AM GMT
    fengshuiching saidit means that u r frnds -but u fuck 2-u r fuck buddies.


    Agreed .... A friend that you occasionally have sex with but do not intend to date .... and stay friends.
  • zakariahzol

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    Dec 15, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    I have a friend with benefit for years. Some 5 years, 7 years , and some for 25 year. Most of this friendship end because I move away to different location and not because we are bored of each other. Back in college in US, I use to have an American FWB . He was living with someone else and I have to return home after graduation. Our relationship have no future but we do share wonderful time sharing warm, pleasure and tender moment.

    Another FWB , was a bodybuilder I know in my 20's (I am 47 now). Having sex with him is like going for dinner . Take our cloth off, do what we have to do and latter on talk about politic, his bodybuilding carrier and sometime about his kids (as though nothing happen).

    This wonderful FWB is part of my social circle , dearest friend and I am grateful for their present . I dont think them as sexual object or some hook up I meet on the back alley or gay sauna.
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    In this particular case, it means you don't have one. Consider new standards to understand more.
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:50 PM GMT
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 15, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    I think sometimes guys think it means simply "repeats"...

    A fwb is someone who is a genuine friend minus benefits, somebody who'd
    still be in your life and means something. Benefits are added, hopefully, as a "meaning" addition, but even if it is just sex, the friendship is broadened.

    Many issues can develop with fwb.. feelings, sometimes not mutual, misinterpretation of what it all means. When "benefits" are removed later, the whole friendship may be at risk.