My Dad Finally Acknowledge I was gay!

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    Dec 13, 2012 9:22 PM GMT
    So debbie downer Jamie had a nice moment with the old man yesterday. After a huge fight the week before which caused me to punch the back door and break it in half... (which I had no idea I was that angry) we talked it out,

    So yesterday I asked a question about abusive relationships for a story I was writing. I was confused on whether one has to press charges or not for the person to go to jail, and since he was a cop I thought id ask him.

    He said "Well for instance when you and your partner get married and you hit him, then if someone calls the police he can still go to jail whether you press charges or not.Especially if there is damage,"

    I was kinda giddy because before now my dad has acted like I never said I was gay, and never even responded to anything about it. so to not only acknowledge it and make a comment that I would marry a guy and he knows it...just made me smile.

    I told him "good job for taking a step."

    I just wanted to share that.

    Kind of funny how a nice moment came from a horrid topic hehe.icon_biggrin.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 13, 2012 9:25 PM GMT
    That's awesome, Jamie! icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 13, 2012 9:29 PM GMT
    lol, it's about time dear old Dad said something. Congrats, eh? icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 13, 2012 9:30 PM GMT
    Actually quite an interesting story. Dads are the toughest, but you're still his son! icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 16, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    biguymtl saidActually quite an interesting story. Dads are the toughest, but you're still his son! icon_smile.gif


    I know and we are getting closer, he's having his foot cut off Monday though due to diabetes...and I am scared. I want us to get closer and I just hope he's okay.

    I feel like we are finally getting the relationship I always wanted.
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    Dec 16, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    I know I'm usually a bitch to you but that's great to hear, and I'm so sorry that your dad has to go through that surgery. My dad was just diagnosed with diabetes after having like 3 surgeries for kidney stones. I'm concerned for him but I dunno what I can do really.
  • LJay

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    Dec 16, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    Jamie and McQueen, one of the best things you can do for a diabetic relative is to learn as much as you can about diabetes and proper eating habits. I can't say it is the worst thing in my life but ir would be really great support if people around me knew more about this damned disease.

    Feed on them interwebs.
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    Dec 16, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    All it takes is time.
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    Dec 16, 2012 3:13 AM GMT
    LJay saidJamie and McQueen, one of the best things you can do for a diabetic relative is to learn as much as you can about diabetes and proper eating habits. I can't say it is the worst thing in my life but ir would be really great support if people around me knew more about this damned disease.
    Feed on them interwebs.
    My dad has been going to nutrition classes or something and I'm totally okay with eating whatever his diet has switched to. It's not like I can be picky when I don't make the food around here anyways. He keeps saying stuff like "I'm learning a lot and maybe you'd be interested sometime in coming and learning about it." and I'm like "lol maybe not but I'll eat whatever's on your menu so feel free to make healthier food."
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    Dec 16, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    McQueen said
    LJay saidJamie and McQueen, one of the best things you can do for a diabetic relative is to learn as much as you can about diabetes and proper eating habits. I can't say it is the worst thing in my life but ir would be really great support if people around me knew more about this damned disease.
    Feed on them interwebs.
    My dad has been going to nutrition classes or something and I'm totally okay with eating whatever his diet has switched to. It's not like I can be picky when I don't make the food around here anyways. He keeps saying stuff like "I'm learning a lot and maybe you'd be interested sometime in coming and learning about it." and I'm like "lol maybe not but I'll eat whatever's on your menu so feel free to make healthier food."


    My point is that your knowing something about how he goes about food and menus would both make it easier for you to understand some things he may do and also make it easier on him because you would not be so likely to criticize. Agreeing to go along with his menus probably won't be difficult and make actually have you eating more healthily. That's great.
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    Dec 16, 2012 3:28 AM GMT
    Well my dad is 57, and he eats what he wants when he wants...and refuses to change. He adds salt to everything and never checks his sugar unless its imperative.

    Im not a diabetic and I check my sugar alot just to make sure..because of the genetic thing.

    He feels because he is so old that hes gonna live his life, which I do understand, hes been on dialysis since he was 30..hes had two toe amputations and alot of other issues with eyes and kidneys etc...

    but he keeps on trucking, and even though hes stubborn I do admire that he lives life his way, its interesting but foolish all the same, but hes damn near sixty so ...

    and when my uncle got diabetic he couldnt handle dialysis and died within a few months afterwards...so I really think my dad is hella strong.