"...but I guess I was curious to see what other peoples' experiences have been."
As usual, we seem to be either the cutting edge or the supremely redundant. Hah!
When I met Bill, he had ended his 12 year relationship only 3 months before. I was immediately wary, but then he told me he had dated 3 guys in that period and the last had gone on for almost 2 weeks and as soon as he found out Bill was developing an attachment to him, withdrew.
So I thought, what the hell, and threw myself into whatever made him happy. Perhaps because I didn't paranoic-ly guard my life? You know, zealous of my own freedom and sense of self; feeling that no man should invade my space etc etc. Well, what was I doing with my life that was so darned important that I feared another 'taking over'? Worse, who was I to project that he would feel that way about himself or his own life?
It's all about taking chances.
So I did. To my surprise, he was ready alright. Duh, he'd dated a couple of guys so really, I just gave him the benefit of the doubt. It wasn't like I'd never been hurt before and was so delicate that I couldn't handle rejection or being relegated to 'just friends' status. I'd been through that enough times and thought, "Big deal, what's one more?"
Smartest thing I ever did. No kidding. That was Nov 18. Three weeks later we made a formal commitment to each other on the beach.
Now, lean_jock74, the details ARE important, as obviously you're interested. Has he had any dates at all since this happened? Bill's LTR before me was not good at all. What was this guy's like that ended it? Do you feel you personally could make a difference where the ex didn't? This information helped me proceed with confidence. I think that confidence showed and made a difference to Bill.