Is seeing a therapist really that weird?

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    Dec 14, 2012 4:02 AM GMT
    For the pat two years I have been seeing a therapist over at my school. She's been great and has really helped me from not only accepting myself as being gay, but also in developing relationships, dealing with stress and many other things. With her help I no longer have thoughts of suicide, or feel loneliness as I now realize how many people truly care about me, but most importantly that I care about myself as well. Problem is I tell others about this and how much therapy has changed my life and they all look at me as if I am a crazy person! Is seeking mental health really that much of a stigma in our society? I know many people look down on it (a manager told me once that people should help themselves and therapists are pointless), but the benefits have been genuinely life altering. Has anyone else run into this sense of stigma when seeking therapy? If so, why?
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    Dec 14, 2012 4:19 AM GMT
    The only thing weird about seeing a therapist is acting in a way that makes people think you needed one to begin with.

    The act of seeing one on your own will nullifies any thought of you being weird. That just means you know something is wrong and you're sane enough to take steps to correct it. It actually shows you're normal. icon_wink.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 14, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    I've never seen a therapist. I just let myself get a little crazier each day.icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidI've never seen a therapist. I just let myself get a little crazier each day.icon_cool.gif
    I've seen more therapists than I have fingers and toes.

    Without them, I woulda killed myself years ago. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    BTW, HotJoe, I know you're trying to be humorous (and working well for those who've already handled their problems), but this guy seriously needs help to overcome his emotional difficulties. Not everyone can do it on their own. A little acceptance goes a long way. Now show your natural awesomeness and let the OP know that you're rooting for him, cause I know that deep down inside, you are. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:23 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said... People hire professionals because they're a good investment.
    ^that
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:48 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidThe only thing weird about seeing a therapist is acting in a way that makes people think you needed one to begin with.

    The act of seeing one on your own will nullifies any thought of you being weird. That just means you know something is wrong and you're sane enough to take steps to correct it. It actually shows you're normal. icon_wink.gif


    Wow! Now that's what I call inspiration there! icon_biggrin.gif Also to yourname2000, you are absolutely correct. Seeking professional help is a vital investment as they at least have the tools or skills to help. Mental health therapy is a much more involved process than just having someone listen to everything someone says and giving advice. Totally much more involved process. I hope that some people (ie, friends, coworkers, some family) will stop seeing this as something so bizarre. Of course, they may have to try it themselves in order to understand the benefits...
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    Dec 14, 2012 6:00 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidBTW, HotJoe, I know you're trying to be humorous (and working well for those who've already handled their problems), but this guy seriously needs help to overcome his emotional difficulties. Not everyone can do it on their own. A little acceptance goes a long way. Now show your natural awesomeness and let the OP know that you're rooting for him, cause I know that deep down inside, you are. icon_wink.gif


    Hmmm, my natural awesomeness.icon_idea.gificon_twisted.gif

    And yes, I'm rooting for the OP (and actually he sounds pretty confident to me).
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    Dec 14, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    I've been in therapy for years and it is finally starting to pay off. If people say therapy is pointless, they don't know what they are talking about. It's proven to work. I used to think it was embarrassing to tell people I was in therapy but I really believe everyone could benefit from it now.
  • calibro

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    Dec 14, 2012 2:36 PM GMT
    only if her name is lowenstein
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    Dec 14, 2012 3:39 PM GMT
    censorthis1 said For the pat two years I have been seeing a therapist over at my school. She's been great and has really helped me from not only accepting myself as being gay, but also in developing relationships, dealing with stress and many other things. With her help I no longer have thoughts of suicide, or feel loneliness as I now realize how many people truly care about me, but most importantly that I care about myself as well. Problem is I tell others about this and how much therapy has changed my life and they all look at me as if I am a crazy person! Is seeking mental health really that much of a stigma in our society? I know many people look down on it (a manager told me once that people should help themselves and therapists are pointless), but the benefits have been genuinely life altering. Has anyone else run into this sense of stigma when seeking therapy? If so, why?

    Therapy can be great (depends on the relation to the individual therapist). You sound like you're happy that it helped you.

    Stigma? You certainly did not grow up in NYC, where everyone has one (if not a pureblooded psychoanalyst). Maybe if, instead of telling everyone, you just saved the recounting of your therapy success for the few people whom you know well, and who you think might also benefit from seeing one . . .
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    Dec 14, 2012 4:40 PM GMT
    HikeSwimSkiSF said
    censorthis1 said For the pat two years I have been seeing a therapist over at my school. She's been great and has really helped me from not only accepting myself as being gay, but also in developing relationships, dealing with stress and many other things. With her help I no longer have thoughts of suicide, or feel loneliness as I now realize how many people truly care about me, but most importantly that I care about myself as well. Problem is I tell others about this and how much therapy has changed my life and they all look at me as if I am a crazy person! Is seeking mental health really that much of a stigma in our society? I know many people look down on it (a manager told me once that people should help themselves and therapists are pointless), but the benefits have been genuinely life altering. Has anyone else run into this sense of stigma when seeking therapy? If so, why?

    Therapy can be great (depends on the relation to the individual therapist). You sound like you're happy that it helped you.

    Stigma? You certainly did not grow up in NYC, where everyone has one (if not a pureblooded psychoanalyst). Maybe if, instead of telling everyone, you just saved the recounting of your therapy success for the few people whom you know well, and who you think might also benefit from seeing one . . .


    You are certainly right! For my entire life I have grown up in small town, rural California, so the mind set is probably much more different than that of people else where. Unfortunately the people who I have told my therapy successes to have only been those people I know well. Unless that is when I am doing my peer mentoring on campus and I talk about my experience in seeing one. In the case of my manager we were both rather close and I had known him for 4 years. When I mentioned I wanted to go into psychiatry as my career choice he asked why, I explained and then he said the above comment. Also, this tends to happen with my other friends or family members who raise their eye brows when I say that I'm still seeing a therapist. Maybe I'll just relocate to New York and everyone will just nod their head and say, "Hey I'm seeing one too!" Haha! icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 14, 2012 4:51 PM GMT
    I see a therapist weekly. Every Wednesday, 4 p.m.

    I love it. I find it extremely helpful in building self-confidence, and looking at things from a different perspective. As long as my insurance company keeps paying I will keep going.

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    Dec 14, 2012 4:59 PM GMT
    *raises hand about seeing one*

    Only three sessions in though. icon_neutral.gif
  • Smiling_Eyes

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    Dec 14, 2012 4:59 PM GMT
    I see a therapist every other week. I find it helps me stay grounded, realistic, balanced and happy. When I tell people about my positive therapeutic experiences, I've only had positive reactions. In fact, I tend to be very pro therapy; I believe a good therapist can be life altering and often recommend therapy to others when I feel it would help. Some have tried it, some have chosen not to. Not all that try it, succeed. It takes a willingness to be earnest, open, real and introspective; many people cannot do this.
  • Bear650

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    Dec 14, 2012 5:06 PM GMT
    "The unexamined life is not worth living". Therapists help us to think about our actions and how they affect you and those around you.
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    Dec 14, 2012 7:21 PM GMT
    I'm old. I read "seeing" as "dating."
  • TonyD

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    Dec 14, 2012 7:35 PM GMT
    I forgot this may be a question!
    Without good therapy, ideally, deeper introspection into self than can be accomplished solo will happen.
    I cannot imagine my world without it!
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    Dec 14, 2012 7:40 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidReally? So I guess they feel the same way about hiring an electrician, or plumber, or going to a garage to get their car fixed, right? And of course they would never ever let anyone cook for them, right....no fast food? Probably make their own booze and cheese, I bet. icon_rolleyes.gif

    People hire professionals because they're a good investment.


    ^ this
  • MidwesternKid

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    Dec 14, 2012 7:40 PM GMT
    Not at all. Do what you have to do.
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    Dec 14, 2012 7:41 PM GMT
    Honestly, I won't consider seriously dating someone who hasn't been through some therapy. I think everyone can benefit from it.
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    Dec 14, 2012 7:45 PM GMT
    I've been in therapy for years, it's one of the best investments in myself that I've ever made.
    Bottom line. In life, regardless of the circumstance, you need to be brave enough to do what you need to do, take care of yourself regardless of what others think.
    Self care is not about the opinion of others and sometimes means being misunderstood and sometimes means standing alone. There is nothing wrong with standing alone, do it with dignity.
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    Dec 14, 2012 9:26 PM GMT
    Seeing a therapist is only weird if the "therapist" you think you're "seeing" isn't really there. (Think about it.)
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    Dec 14, 2012 9:27 PM GMT
    BTW -- I don't think anyone should be ashamed of looking for help if they think they have a problem.
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    Dec 14, 2012 9:29 PM GMT
    calibro saidonly if her name is lowenstein

    LOL!

    I hear that name blowin' in the breeze..."Lowenstein"....