How do i get gay guys to notice me more?

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    Dec 14, 2012 5:15 PM GMT
    I have been bi for three years a few people know. I've been to gay clubs and such but never really get much attention from the guys. I don't have much experience with guys even tho i really want more. Im starting to like guys and not girls but i know my family wont understand. Any advice?
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:17 PM GMT
    Wear something shiny or you could say hello. Just a thought.
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    i do say hi im a bit shy at first but after a little bit im fine. i think that their thoughts are im not to sure about guys when i really enjoy talking getting to know each other and having fun.
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:28 PM GMT
    Dustin20: Seriously, man? You're young, white nice-looking. I don't believe you never get much attention. I think, like most men, you're looking for attention from the guys who aren't giving it to you and missing the ones who are.

    Just a thought. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:29 PM GMT
    You have a cool bio! Maybe use a face pic and witty banter.... Seems to help 'round here, at least.
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:30 PM GMT
    ChoklitDaddy saidDustin20: Seriously, man? You're young, white nice-looking. I don't believe you never get much attention. I think, like most men, you're looking for attention from the guys who aren't giving it to you and missing the ones who are.

    Just a thought. icon_smile.gif


    Nailed it!
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:32 PM GMT
    Dustin20 saidHow do i get gay guys to notice me more?
    [...] I've been to gay clubs and such but never really get much attention from the guys. I don't have much experience with guys even tho i really want more. [...] Any advice?


    Make an effort to initiate conversation with guys. Some guys are great and realize that it's hard for others to get themselves out there, and make you feel comfortable.

    Also, be careful to keep a healthy balance. Don't make yourself seem needy, pathetic, or rant on about yourself when you talk. Be sensitive to the other guy and make him know that you're interested in him without being invasive.
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:32 PM GMT
    im not picky i would give anyone a chance
  • Myles_

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    Dec 14, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    I understand where you are coming from....

    My question is how do I make it clear that when I say hi I dont have some sexy intent? Do people think that when another guy approach you, its all for sex? Or that just me?
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    Dec 14, 2012 5:56 PM GMT
    right^ im not afraid to unlock my pics and show off my body but in person or even here a conversation never hurts. i like to get to know people. I mean im not desparate and by no means is what im about to say a way to get attention but im not jacked i don't have abs (i've started to work out) im not omg so hot or sexy maybe not even all that cute but i can tell you all i am a great person and would give anyone the shirt off my back.
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    Dec 14, 2012 6:00 PM GMT
    You gotta show some cleavage! Push ya titties up a lil bit!

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    jk I dunno icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 14, 2012 6:01 PM GMT
    Dustin20 saidright^ im not afraid to unlock my pics and show off my body but in person or even here a conversation never hurts. i like to get to know people. I mean im not desparate and by no means is what im about to say a way to get attention but im not jacked i don't have abs (i've started to work out) im not omg so hot or sexy maybe not even all that cute but i can tell you all i am a great person and would give anyone the shirt off my back.


    Maybe you should just approach more people then. Go all out.
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    Dec 14, 2012 6:01 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidYou have a cool bio! Maybe use a face pic and witty banter.... Seems to help 'round here, at least.



    What I lack in looks I make up in witty banter. And let me tell you I clean up!!!icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 14, 2012 6:01 PM GMT
    Myles_ saidI understand where you are coming from....

    My question is how do I make it clear that when I say hi I dont have some sexy intent? Do people think that when another guy approach you, its all for sex? Or that just me?


    OMG yeah... There are guys like that. There's no end to it. My experiences have shown just keep away from guys like that.
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    Dec 14, 2012 6:06 PM GMT
    BlackCat90 saidYou gotta show some cleavage! Push ya titties up a lil bit!

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    jk I dunno icon_confused.gif

    that was actually really funny :p
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    Dec 14, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    Nothing more sexy than self confidence... Stay true to self and own it!
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    Dec 14, 2012 9:50 PM GMT
    Im pretty happy with myself ha
  • BloodFlame

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    Dec 15, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidIf you want to be interesting to others, be interested IN others. People love talking about themselves....it's a topic they know a lot about, lol.


    Haha true but doesn't work all the time. I think it's more worse but funny if both guys are trying to learn about each other so they don't have to talk on and on about themselves lol
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    Dec 15, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    A lot of guys go out to gay clubs not to meet to other guys, but rather to have a good time with their friends. More guys meet other guys through sites like RJ than they do clubs.
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    Dec 15, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    dudewithabeard said Wear something shiny Go shirtless or you could say hello. Just a thought.


    There, fixed it. I believe that would be legit advice if you want guys to physically notice you. icon_razz.gif
  • Kinneticbrian

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    Dec 15, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    Be social, let your personality shine and be yourself.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Dec 15, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    try going on a few dates, get some practice in. Try speed dating. When I go out on dates I like to have a list of questions that can keep the conversation going and also have a chance to spark common interests or fun topics to discuss.
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    Meetups, in non-bar settings, are great places to get to know people without the fog of alcohol, or the pressure of a date. It's a relaxed and casual way to "put yourself out there" and meet guys who may want more.
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:08 AM GMT
    Just comes down to fashion really

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    But when I first started going out it was more how I acted - probably liked a scared rabbit. Just relax and be sociable, sometimes it will take a few months to meet the right person, other times it could be every night icon_smile.gif
  • ohioguy12

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    Dec 15, 2012 5:08 AM GMT
    ChoklitDaddy saidDustin20: Seriously, man? You're young, white nice-looking. I don't believe you never get much attention. I think, like most men, you're looking for attention from the guys who aren't giving it to you and missing the ones who are.

    Just a thought. icon_smile.gif


    I don't know you, but I sense this is true