When a guy approach you at a club/bar...

  • Myles_

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    Dec 14, 2012 5:53 PM GMT
    When a guy approach you at a club/bar, do you automatically think that he is into you/he has some sexy intent?

    I think that all guys do this and its one of the major barriers I have in approaching people... How do I get over it?
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    Dec 14, 2012 7:38 PM GMT
    You're at a bar.. What other intent would there be? icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 14, 2012 8:32 PM GMT
    Sorry I can't answer.

    I can't get passed a guy approaching me hahaha

    homos are waaaaaaaaay to scared to approach guys
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    Dec 14, 2012 9:24 PM GMT
    No, I get approached by some people that just want someone to talk to. In Vegas one time a guy in his 20s started crying to me (outside) that I was one person who seemed approachable and someone he could talk to. It felt very good to help him.
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    Dec 15, 2012 4:49 AM GMT
    Approaching someone or being approached usually entails there being some sort of attraction. Not always sexual. Plenty of times it is hehe. But not always. Maybe just learn to have fun and have a drink or two to help. ;-)
  • MidwesternKid

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    Dec 15, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    I admire anyone for having the balls to approach me. I have a natural scowl so people tend to steer clear of me.
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    I don't think I've ever been approached before at the bar... I've always done the approaching. Would be nice to actually get approached... but I'll just blame my intimidating charm.
  • ohioguy12

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    Dec 15, 2012 5:15 AM GMT
    cuerpoymente saidApproaching someone or being approached usually entails there being some sort of attraction. Not always sexual. Plenty of times it is hehe. But not always. Maybe just learn to have fun and have a drink or two to help. ;-)


    I agree with all of this
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    MidwesternKid saidI admire anyone for having the balls to approach me. I have a natural scowl so people tend to steer clear of me.

    It's called bitch face.
  • Pontifex

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    Dec 15, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    I usually get approached by guys I have no interest in. Then they tend to assume I was to have sex with them because I'm friendly and don't tell them to go away. And then I end up listening to a story about how nobody loves them etc... It happens pretty frequently. hah. I prefer to do the approaching. Sometimes I'm interested if I approach someone. Sometimes I'm not. I think I fit into the weird category though. I'm find with sitting around and talking if there isn't anyone I'm really interested in.
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    Dec 15, 2012 7:38 AM GMT
    Seriously -- you will get a lot of action if you take the bull by the horns and approach the guys YOU think are hot at a bar. For one thing, they are usually flattered and will talk to you. If they don't, oh well...you just wasted 10 seconds and discovered who the biggest prick in the bar is. And for another, if you don't have the sack to do it, you probably never will talk to Mr. Hottie because he's just as scared to leave his comfort zone and talk to you.
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    Dec 15, 2012 7:41 AM GMT
    One word Alcohol, drink some alcohol and you will be loosen up ! There were times in the past when guys approach me to either 1) propose to have sex with him and his bf 2) wanted to take me home and feel my ass and 3) just wanting to be friendly. It depends on my mood, if the guy is cute/hot, I'll talk to him. If I'm not into him, I'll politely say no. I've gotten hit on and hit on other guys in the bar before, many different interesting personality types.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Dec 15, 2012 7:46 AM GMT
    Squintz saidI don't think I've ever been approached before at the bar... I've always done the approaching. Would be nice to actually get approached... but I'll just blame my intimidating charm.


    If you don't get hit on the rest of us are without hope.
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    Dec 15, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    barriehomeboy said
    Squintz saidI don't think I've ever been approached before at the bar... I've always done the approaching. Would be nice to actually get approached... but I'll just blame my intimidating charm.


    If you don't get hit on the rest of us are without hope.


    I just think that guys at the bar are so insecure about getting shot down, they don't even try to approach anyone. Maybe I don't wanna sleep with you, but I'm at the bar for a reason... go ahead and try me.