What can I do to become more dateable?

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    Dec 15, 2012 1:25 AM GMT
    Dating scene has been pretty dry lately, is it just me?
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 15, 2012 1:35 AM GMT
    You're 6'2"? You should grow a beard, get a buzz cut and show off your body.

    I think I have you this same advice last summer.icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 15, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidYou're 6'2"? You should grow a beard, get a buzz cut and show off your body.

    I think I have you this same advice last summer.icon_confused.gif


    Still working on the body guess that's what's holding me back the most
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    Dec 15, 2012 3:06 AM GMT
    You're body is not holding you back the most.

    While it would certainly attract guys visually, the only way you'd be able to keep them without changing you're perceptions and just as you are would be if you were model-attractive which is a rather shallow relationship.

    What you need is a good-dose of confidence and self-assurance. And if you manage to find some extra - let me know since I've been looking for it and haven't been able to find it myself. icon_lol.gif
  • MidwesternKid

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    Dec 15, 2012 4:58 AM GMT
    Take steps towards becoming the man you want to be. If that means getting fit, eating right, trying new things, changing your look, then go for it. The more you become happier with yourself, your confidence will shine. Nothing stands out more than confidence. And remember its a process, it won't all happen over night. We all appreciate dedication so if you put in the work, guys will see it and want to be around you.
  • Kinneticbrian

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    Dec 15, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    One of my friends is struggling with this as well.

    Some advice that was given to me by my gay mentor is to become the guy you would want to date.

    Though I never believed it, the state of mind and heart that you're in is directly projected onto the surface. Perhaps you might begin with some introspection.

    I'm also one that realizes that it isn't "all about me" and what someone else has to offer me. What about what I have to offer him and how does that look to him?

    Look at yourself - how do you dress? How do you take care of yourself? How do you present yourself?

    Nobody's ever perfect, and for me, the experience is all about growth, change and enjoying the trip.

  • Medjai

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    Dec 15, 2012 5:08 AM GMT
    Stop trying to be datable. It's desperate. Just be you.
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
    Probably a combination of things contrary to your first ideas about being appealing, that seem counter-intuitive/productive. icon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 16, 2012 2:58 AM GMT
    Medjai saidStop trying to be datable. It's desperate. Just be you.


    There are probably some very basic things I can take care of to improve my chances. The gym is seeming far less intimidating now that I think about it differently. There to do a job.
  • LJay

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    Dec 16, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    Move out of Salt Lake City?
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    Dec 16, 2012 9:38 PM GMT
    mikeinslc said
    Medjai saidStop trying to be datable. It's desperate. Just be you.


    There are probably some very basic things I can take care of to improve my chances. The gym is seeming far less intimidating now that I think about it differently. There to do a job.


    There's never an end to self improvements. No one's ever perfect, and those who think they are, are worthy of avoiding.
    You already have the good attitude about your outlook at the gym. You're already more datable.
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    Dec 16, 2012 9:47 PM GMT
    I believe you or someone asked a similar question awhile back, and my advice is the same, fake it till you make it.

    Even the hottest bachelor out there has their insecurities, they just don't go around to the world, or Real Jock, talking about them. While it's ok to want to seek advice, when you do it constantly it becomes very unbecoming.

    We have already told you ways to improve yourself, now you have to put them into action. Yes, it might be intimadating at first, but you have to take the first step or you will go nowhere.

    Getting in shape and looking good doesn't have to cost a lot of money. But gaining confidence is totally free. Learn to face your fears and you might realize all this worrying you have been doing is much ado about nothing...