BizMan's drunken therapy session

  • TheBizMan

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    Dec 15, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    I came across a profile that proclaimed whites under 35 only. So just for shits and giggles I sent him a message asking "Do you really think I am less attractive than every single white guy under 35?". If your preference is for white men or any specific race for that matter (and yes I am specifically asking guys that are "only" attracted to certain races) do you really think I am less attractive than every guy you have seen in your life of that specified race. Haha sorry if this post doesn't make very much sense, I;m a little buzzed as it is.


    edited down for TL DR folks
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    Dec 15, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    I facepalm when guys with shaped eyebrows say "no fems"
  • TheBizMan

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    Dec 15, 2012 1:55 AM GMT
    Neight saidI facepalm when guys with shaped eyebrows say "no fems"

    Thats a very good point you see. I have found a number of guys attractive...but once they open their mouth and speak, I become limp as a noodle. So maybe this is along the same lines... "They would be attractive if it wasn't for that accursed skin complexion"



    Genuinely perplexed though...
  • SinfulWays

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    Dec 15, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    There will always be racism,bigotry and hate. You will find it everywhere. In every group,nationality and culture... The key is for those of us with love,understanding and good discernment not to let those negative aspects flourish...This is a great topic...let's see what the outcome is...
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:14 AM GMT
    SinfulWays saidThere will always be racism,bigotry and hate. You will find it everywhere. In every group,nationality and culture... The key is for those of us with love,understanding and good discernment not to let those negative aspects flourish...This is a great topic...let's see what the outcome is...

    Nah It;s not a great topic. Not even a good topic. I'm just bored and curious. I decided to let my mind wander today. I could give a flying fuck if someone doesn't find me a attractive.. I get enough action by all races. I just don;t get why you have to disclose your preferences instead of simply ignoring guys that don;t meet your narrow quota.


    Maybe i do't get it because I have never been attracted to just one race...
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:19 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    SinfulWays saidThere will always be racism,bigotry and hate. You will find it everywhere. In every group,nationality and culture... The key is for those of us with love,understanding and good discernment not to let those negative aspects flourish...This is a great topic...let's see what the outcome is...

    Nah It;s not a great topic. Not even a good topic. I'm just bored and curious. I decided to let my mind wander today. I could give a flying fuck if someone doesn't find me a attractive.. I get enough action by all races. I just don;t get why you have to disclose your preferences instead of simply ignoring guys that don;t meet your narrow quota.


    Maybe i do't get it because I have never been attracted to just one race...


    Im the same! Did this loser ever respond?
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    Because they are obssessed with a certain race. It seems a bit close minded. But what else can you expect from average people?
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    NJDewd said
    TheBizMan said
    SinfulWays saidThere will always be racism,bigotry and hate. You will find it everywhere. In every group,nationality and culture... The key is for those of us with love,understanding and good discernment not to let those negative aspects flourish...This is a great topic...let's see what the outcome is...

    Nah It;s not a great topic. Not even a good topic. I'm just bored and curious. I decided to let my mind wander today. I could give a flying fuck if someone doesn't find me a attractive.. I get enough action by all races. I just don;t get why you have to disclose your preferences instead of simply ignoring guys that don;t meet your narrow quota.


    Maybe i do't get it because I have never been attracted to just one race...


    Im the same! Did this loser ever respond?


    Yeah he did. He said "nope. You are good looking. im just into whites icon_surprised.gifP"..... which did nothing to alleviate my confusion.
  • TheBizMan

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    Dec 15, 2012 2:23 AM GMT
    Perserverance saidBecause they are obssessed with a certain race. It seems a bit close minded. But what else can you expect from average people?

    No that's fine and dandy. obsess over whatever race you want.. but why do you feel the need to tell me what race it is that you obsess over?
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:25 AM GMT
    Because he probably wants to narrow it down. It is very close minded, but that is his choice. There will always be people like that, especially online.
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said I just don;t get why you have to disclose your preferences instead of simply ignoring guys that don;t meet your narrow quota.



    I personally have tried doing just that on many occasions on several different sites...with always the same result. I become a magnet for the very type I'm trying not to offend. So then I'm put in the position of making someone feel bad by explaining to them they're not my type. I always say the same thing: "I'm flattered you contacted me. You're a great looking guy, but I don't think we're a match. I have weird tastes in men icon_smile.gif" And yes, I put the smiley face and everything. And almost every time, I get a nasty response back. Nine times out of ten, they demand to know what it is about them that makes them not my type, which really puts a guy on the spot! No one likes making someone feel rejected (at least I don't), but unless you state your preferences up front, you end up having to do just that. This is why so many guys find it necessary to post their preferences.
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:29 AM GMT
    Perserverance saidBecause he probably wants to narrow it down. It is very close minded, but that is his choice. There will always be people like that, especially online.


    Is it easier that way though? I would think it to be more of a detriment to finding hookups online. What if you miss out on some gorgeous Brazilian because you decided to say. "hey even though I may find you specifically attractive, I;m just gonna go ahead and put in my profile that I am not remotely interested in anyone that is not ____ this race." All I have in my profile is two words: Let's fuck... that seems to do the trick in getting whoever I want.
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said I just don;t get why you have to disclose your preferences instead of simply ignoring guys that don;t meet your narrow quota.



    I personally have tried doing just that on many occasions on several different sites...with always the same result. I become a magnet for the very type I'm trying not to offend. So then I'm put in the position of making someone feel bad by explaining to them they're not my type. I always say the same thing: "I'm flattered you contacted me. You're a great looking guy, but I don't think we're a match. I have weird tastes in men icon_smile.gif" And yes, I put the smiley face and everything. And almost every time, I get a nasty response back. Nine times out of ten, they demand to know what it is about them that makes them not my type, which really puts a guy on the spot! No one likes making someone feel rejected (at least I don't), but unless you state your preferences up front, you end up having to do just that. This is why so many guys find it necessary to post their preferences.


    you could just ignore them
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said I just don;t get why you have to disclose your preferences instead of simply ignoring guys that don;t meet your narrow quota.



    I personally have tried doing just that on many occasions on several different sites...with always the same result. I become a magnet for the very type I'm trying not to offend. So then I'm put in the position of making someone feel bad by explaining to them they're not my type. I always say the same thing: "I'm flattered you contacted me. You're a great looking guy, but I don't think we're a match. I have weird tastes in men icon_smile.gif" And yes, I put the smiley face and everything. And almost every time, I get a nasty response back. Nine times out of ten, they demand to know what it is about them that makes them not my type, which really puts a guy on the spot! No one likes making someone feel rejected (at least I don't), but unless you state your preferences up front, you end up having to do just that. This is why so many guys find it necessary to post their preferences.


    you could just ignore them



    Seriously? You would actually prefer for someone to ignore you after you've taken the time to email them, rather than just quickly and painlessly glancing at their profile and seeing you're not what they're looking for?
  • TheBizMan

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    Dec 15, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    It's just weird how much of a deterrent skin color can be. I've never found it to be.. I just don't understand why others do. It's so idiotic and counter intuitive
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said I just don;t get why you have to disclose your preferences instead of simply ignoring guys that don;t meet your narrow quota.



    I personally have tried doing just that on many occasions on several different sites...with always the same result. I become a magnet for the very type I'm trying not to offend. So then I'm put in the position of making someone feel bad by explaining to them they're not my type. I always say the same thing: "I'm flattered you contacted me. You're a great looking guy, but I don't think we're a match. I have weird tastes in men icon_smile.gif" And yes, I put the smiley face and everything. And almost every time, I get a nasty response back. Nine times out of ten, they demand to know what it is about them that makes them not my type, which really puts a guy on the spot! No one likes making someone feel rejected (at least I don't), but unless you state your preferences up front, you end up having to do just that. This is why so many guys find it necessary to post their preferences.


    you could just ignore them



    Seriously? You would actually prefer for someone to ignore you after you've taken the time to email them, rather than just quickly and painlessly glancing at their profile and seeing you're not what they're looking for?


    Yes

    I think stating your preferences is more of a slap in the face than just ignoring a guy.
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    I know it is rude, but I rather them be honest about them liking a specific race or dislike a specific race. At least I know not to associate with people like that, even if it is just online. I don't think that is nice but that person saves my time and I also will save mine.
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
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    Perserverance saidBecause he probably wants to narrow it down. It is very close minded, but that is his choice. There will always be people like that, especially online.


    Is it easier that way though? I would think it to be more of a detriment to finding hookups online. What if you miss out on some gorgeous Brazilian because you decided to say. "hey even though I may find you specifically attractive, I;m just gonna go ahead and put in my profile that I am not remotely interested in anyone that is not ____ this race." All I have in my profile is two words: Let's fuck... that seems to do the trick in getting whoever I want.


    Well the good guys will respond to your ad. I'm sure you have a line on your lawn.
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said I just don;t get why you have to disclose your preferences instead of simply ignoring guys that don;t meet your narrow quota.



    I personally have tried doing just that on many occasions on several different sites...with always the same result. I become a magnet for the very type I'm trying not to offend. So then I'm put in the position of making someone feel bad by explaining to them they're not my type. I always say the same thing: "I'm flattered you contacted me. You're a great looking guy, but I don't think we're a match. I have weird tastes in men icon_smile.gif" And yes, I put the smiley face and everything. And almost every time, I get a nasty response back. Nine times out of ten, they demand to know what it is about them that makes them not my type, which really puts a guy on the spot! No one likes making someone feel rejected (at least I don't), but unless you state your preferences up front, you end up having to do just that. This is why so many guys find it necessary to post their preferences.


    you could just ignore them



    Seriously? You would actually prefer for someone to ignore you after you've taken the time to email them, rather than just quickly and painlessly glancing at their profile and seeing you're not what they're looking for?


    Yes

    I think stating your preferences is more of a slap in the face than just ignoring a guy.



    Well, I respect your preference, but just know I do not feel that way. If I take the time to contact someone and I see they read it but chose to ignore me, my feelings are going to be hurt. But reading their preferences in their profile doesn't bother me in the least.
  • SinfulWays

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    Dec 15, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    SinfulWays saidThere will always be racism,bigotry and hate. You will find it everywhere. In every group,nationality and culture... The key is for those of us with love,understanding and good discernment not to let those negative aspects flourish...This is a great topic...let's see what the outcome is...

    Nah It;s not a great topic. Not even a good topic. I'm just bored and curious. I decided to let my mind wander today. I could give a flying fuck if someone doesn't find me a attractive.. I get enough action by all races. I just don;t get why you have to disclose your preferences instead of simply ignoring guys that don;t meet your narrow quota.


    Maybe i do't get it because I have never been attracted to just one race...

    I was alluding to complacency. That's all..
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said I just don;t get why you have to disclose your preferences instead of simply ignoring guys that don;t meet your narrow quota.



    I personally have tried doing just that on many occasions on several different sites...with always the same result. I become a magnet for the very type I'm trying not to offend. So then I'm put in the position of making someone feel bad by explaining to them they're not my type. I always say the same thing: "I'm flattered you contacted me. You're a great looking guy, but I don't think we're a match. I have weird tastes in men icon_smile.gif" And yes, I put the smiley face and everything. And almost every time, I get a nasty response back. Nine times out of ten, they demand to know what it is about them that makes them not my type, which really puts a guy on the spot! No one likes making someone feel rejected (at least I don't), but unless you state your preferences up front, you end up having to do just that. This is why so many guys find it necessary to post their preferences.


    you could just ignore them



    Seriously? You would actually prefer for someone to ignore you after you've taken the time to email them, rather than just quickly and painlessly glancing at their profile and seeing you're not what they're looking for?


    Yes

    I think stating your preferences is more of a slap in the face than just ignoring a guy.



    That makes no logical sense to me at all. Some random dude's profile isn't directed at me. But the moment he looks at my email and decides to ignore it...it suddenly gets personal. He's no longer rejecting me and others like me....he just rejected ME.
  • TheBizMan

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    Dec 15, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said I just don;t get why you have to disclose your preferences instead of simply ignoring guys that don;t meet your narrow quota.



    I personally have tried doing just that on many occasions on several different sites...with always the same result. I become a magnet for the very type I'm trying not to offend. So then I'm put in the position of making someone feel bad by explaining to them they're not my type. I always say the same thing: "I'm flattered you contacted me. You're a great looking guy, but I don't think we're a match. I have weird tastes in men icon_smile.gif" And yes, I put the smiley face and everything. And almost every time, I get a nasty response back. Nine times out of ten, they demand to know what it is about them that makes them not my type, which really puts a guy on the spot! No one likes making someone feel rejected (at least I don't), but unless you state your preferences up front, you end up having to do just that. This is why so many guys find it necessary to post their preferences.


    you could just ignore them



    Seriously? You would actually prefer for someone to ignore you after you've taken the time to email them, rather than just quickly and painlessly glancing at their profile and seeing you're not what they're looking for?


    Yes

    I think stating your preferences is more of a slap in the face than just ignoring a guy.



    Well, I respect your preference, but just know I do not feel that way. If I take the time to contact someone and I see they read it but chose to ignore me, my feelings are going to be hurt. But reading their preferences in their profile doesn't bother me in the least.


    Maybe i am just more evolved than other human beings. I can look past such a trivial thing as a mans skin color.
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    "I came across a profile that disclaimed whites under 35 only."

    You don't know what the word "disclaimed" means.

    disclaim [ dis-kleym ]
    verb (used with object)
    1. to deny or repudiate interest in or connection with; disavow; disown: disclaiming all participation.
    2. to renounce a claim or right to.
    3. to reject the claims or authority of.

    Maybe you wanted "proclaimed"?

    proclaim [ proh-kleym, pruh- ]
    verb (used with object)
    1. to announce or declare in an official or formal manner: to proclaim war.
    2. to announce or declare in an open or ostentatious way: to proclaim one's opinions.
    3. to indicate or make known publicly or openly.
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidIt's just weird how much of a deterrent skin color can be. I've never found it to be.. I just don't understand why others do. It's so idiotic and counter intuitive



    Well, for one, you asked to discuss the topic you presented in a civil manner, and already you're calling anyone who has preferences "idiotic". Secondly, who said it always has to be about skin color? Maybe it's that they don't like guys with big lips or broad noses. The same person who isn't into Black guys might be into Indian guys because they like their features better. (or vice versa)
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said
    Scruffypup said
    TheBizMan said I just don;t get why you have to disclose your preferences instead of simply ignoring guys that don;t meet your narrow quota.



    I personally have tried doing just that on many occasions on several different sites...with always the same result. I become a magnet for the very type I'm trying not to offend. So then I'm put in the position of making someone feel bad by explaining to them they're not my type. I always say the same thing: "I'm flattered you contacted me. You're a great looking guy, but I don't think we're a match. I have weird tastes in men icon_smile.gif" And yes, I put the smiley face and everything. And almost every time, I get a nasty response back. Nine times out of ten, they demand to know what it is about them that makes them not my type, which really puts a guy on the spot! No one likes making someone feel rejected (at least I don't), but unless you state your preferences up front, you end up having to do just that. This is why so many guys find it necessary to post their preferences.


    you could just ignore them



    Seriously? You would actually prefer for someone to ignore you after you've taken the time to email them, rather than just quickly and painlessly glancing at their profile and seeing you're not what they're looking for?


    Yes

    I think stating your preferences is more of a slap in the face than just ignoring a guy.



    That makes no logical sense to me at all. Some random dude's profile isn't directed at me. But the moment he looks at my email and decides to ignore it...it suddenly gets personal. He's no longer rejecting me and others like me....he just rejected ME.


    But you don;t know if he is rejecting you because he thinks you're ugly or you are the wrong race.

    You'll never know. I;d rather never know.