Just came back from the gay club for the first time

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    Dec 15, 2012 8:27 AM GMT
    I heard infamous stories on the internet about gay clubs, from people who stalk you to those who slip drugs into your drinks. And even stories of people banging each other in the bathroom. Anyway, these stories kinda made me nervous, so I bought two friends to keep me company in case things got... out of hand...

    Anyway, it went better than expected. I didn't really see any of the rude/creepy behaviors (or maybe I was just lucky). But I had fun, not too tame, yet not too crazy either.

    And to top off the night, there was this gorgeous shirtless beefcake that everyone was idolizing and fondling. I'm usually very shy, especially if the guy is very good looking, but my friends pushed me to approach him and I walked away with a picture of me and the stud icon_biggrin.gif

    In case y'all wondering, we went to Cobalt in DC.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 15, 2012 8:38 AM GMT
    Klusps saidI heard infamous stories on the internet about gay clubs, from people who stalk you to those who slip drugs into your drinks. And even stories of people banging each other in the bathroom. Anyway, these stories kinda made me nervous, so I bought two friends to keep me company in case things got... out of hand...

    Anyway, it went better than expected. I didn't really see any of the rude/creepy behaviors (or maybe I was just lucky). But I had fun, not too tame, yet not too crazy either.

    And to top off the night, there was this gorgeous shirtless beefcake that everyone was idolizing and fondling. I'm usually very shy, especially if the guy is very good looking, but my friends pushed me to approach him and I walked away with a picture of me and the stud icon_biggrin.gif

    In case y'all wondering, we went to Cobalt in DC.

    Well let's see the pictures, stud.
  • MikeW

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    Dec 15, 2012 8:45 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidWell let's see the pictures, stud.

    Second that.
    And, btw, don't believe everything you read on the interwebs for krise sake. Yeah, things can get a bit rowdy but, you know, most clubs have LICENSES they want to keep?
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    Dec 15, 2012 3:29 PM GMT
    These kinds of things do happen in gay clubs but they're not necessarily what to expect.
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    Dec 15, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    Gay clubs are full of losers, poseurs, and people looking for attention/affirmation/validation (like the "beefcake" in your scenario)--especially the clubs and bars in Washington, D.C.
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
    cobalt had it's seedy day but DC clubs in general have gotten fairly tame, especially that one, it's gone through a bunch of renovations and pretty much just tries to be a somewhat upscale lounge.
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:20 PM GMT
    I can't stand the gay bars in DC. For one thing, the music is too damn LOUD! I have a low voice so I can't really hear myself. Everywhere you go in any of those bars, there are speakers blasting in your ears. I prefer somewhere with low music so you can actually hear people when you socialize. Even places like Nellies where it's supposed to be a chill bar to socialize but they got the music blasting at every part of the building
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:37 PM GMT
    Gay clubs come in all shapes & sizes, and debauchery. Some are very upscale with a dress code, where professionals go to network. Any sex is strictly offsite.

    Others have nude dancers on the bar, and back rooms & patios where everyone's fucking like bunnies. And some that are mostly tame all year go wild when hosting events like Stonewall Pride, or Halloween, or whatever. I've quietly played pool on one night, and the next the same green felt has got bare asses all over it getting ploughed for an audience.

    Gay clubs are like a box of chocolates: you never know what you're gonna get, or how messy.
  • Fable

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    Dec 15, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    clubs are like a box of chocolates: you never know what you're gonna get, or how messy.


    fixed
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    Klusps saidI heard infamous stories on the internet about gay clubs, from people who stalk you to those who slip drugs into your drinks. And even stories of people banging each other in the bathroom. Anyway, these stories kinda made me nervous, so I bought two friends to keep me company in case things got... out of hand...

    Anyway, it went better than expected. I didn't really see any of the rude/creepy behaviors (or maybe I was just lucky). But I had fun, not too tame, yet not too crazy either.

    And to top off the night, there was this gorgeous shirtless beefcake that everyone was idolizing and fondling. I'm usually very shy, especially if the guy is very good looking, but my friends pushed me to approach him and I walked away with a picture of me and the stud icon_biggrin.gif

    In case y'all wondering, we went to Cobalt in DC.


    You should make a trip to the Eagle in DC...before they close anyway. Actually, you probably shouldn't. Not sure you'd make it out alive.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 15, 2012 5:48 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidGay clubs are full of losers, poseurs, and people looking for attention/affirmation/validation (like the "beefcake" in your scenario)--especially the clubs and bars in Washington, D.C.


    Nothing at all like, RJ, right?icon_wink.gif
  • rnch

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    Dec 15, 2012 5:52 PM GMT
    ART_DECO saidGay clubs come in all shapes & sizes, and debauchery. Some are very upscale with a dress code, where professionals go to network. Any sex is strictly offsite.

    Others have nude dancers on the bar, and back rooms & patios where everyone's fucking like bunnies. And some that are mostly tame all year go wild when hosting events like Stonewall Pride, or Halloween, or whatever. I've quietly played pool on one night, and the next the same green felt has got bare asses all over it getting ploughed for an audience.

    Gay clubs are like a box of chocolates: you never know what you're gonna get, or how messy.



    In the New Orleans gayborhood of marigny-bywater one can find all of the above.


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    Dec 15, 2012 5:56 PM GMT
    Don't believe everything you read on the internet. Yes there can be a few creeps out in the club but theres nothing to be worried about.
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:56 PM GMT
    sounds kinda gay
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 15, 2012 6:00 PM GMT
    I went through a period in life where I went out clubbing with friends every single night. We couldn't afford it, so we would find ways to score free drinks. It was a lot of fun while it lasted, but if you go at that pace for too long it will catch up with you....

    These days, I'm more of a holiday guy. My bf and I go to the Saloon on Pride, sometimes on New Years, or for other special occasions. It's still fun to be out with friends, having a good time and dancing.icon_smile.gif
  • Fable

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    Dec 15, 2012 6:05 PM GMT
    redsoxfan791 said
    Klusps saidI heard infamous stories on the internet about gay clubs, from people who stalk you to those who slip drugs into your drinks. And even stories of people banging each other in the bathroom. Anyway, these stories kinda made me nervous, so I bought two friends to keep me company in case things got... out of hand...

    Anyway, it went better than expected. I didn't really see any of the rude/creepy behaviors (or maybe I was just lucky). But I had fun, not too tame, yet not too crazy either.

    And to top off the night, there was this gorgeous shirtless beefcake that everyone was idolizing and fondling. I'm usually very shy, especially if the guy is very good looking, but my friends pushed me to approach him and I walked away with a picture of me and the stud icon_biggrin.gif

    In case y'all wondering, we went to Cobalt in DC.


    You should make a trip to the Eagle in DC...before they close anyway. Actually, you probably shouldn't. Not sure you'd make it out alive.


    or just make a trip to the one in london...
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    Dec 15, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    DOMINUS saidGay clubs are full of losers, poseurs, and people looking for attention/affirmation/validation (like the "beefcake" in your scenario)--especially the clubs and bars in Washington, D.C.


    Nothing at all like, RJ, right?icon_wink.gif


    Haha - touché
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    Dec 15, 2012 11:57 PM GMT
    rnch said
    ART_DECO saidGay clubs come in all shapes & sizes, and debauchery. Some are very upscale with a dress code, where professionals go to network. Any sex is strictly offsite.

    Others have nude dancers on the bar, and back rooms & patios where everyone's fucking like bunnies. And some that are mostly tame all year go wild when hosting events like Stonewall Pride, or Halloween, or whatever. I've quietly played pool on one night, and the next the same green felt has got bare asses all over it getting ploughed for an audience.

    Gay clubs are like a box of chocolates: you never know what you're gonna get, or how messy.



    In the New Orleans gayborhood of marigny-bywater one can find all of the above.

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    And in other cities. I've seen guys fucked on pool tables in Seattle, Minneapolis, Houston, Fort Lauderdale, etc.

    But yah know, one does have the luxury of choice. Gay clubs are what you make of them. And what you choose.

    What I choose is pretty tame. When I want something else it happens behind closed doors, in private. I'm not an exhibitionist, nor do I enjoy watching others.

    So when I hear complaints about some wild gay places, I ask: "Why were you there? Why didn't you leave? Didn't you have any other options?" Choice is a wonderful thing, if you learn how to use it.
  • morleyq

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    Dec 16, 2012 1:17 AM GMT
    Klusps saidI heard infamous stories on the internet about gay clubs, from people who stalk you to those who slip drugs into your drinks. And even stories of people banging each other in the bathroom.

    Yep, anecdotal stories are a dime a dozen and even if some are true they may be further exaggerated in each telling.
    Glad you found out that they are not the rule but rare exceptions.
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    Dec 16, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    It all depends on the clubs you go to. Go to clubs with patrons and an atmosphere you're comfortable with. Unfortunately, you gotta try them all out to know which are good and bad, but when you find a bad one, just cross it off your list. Eventually you'll be able to figure out the crowd pretty quickly even before you go in.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Dec 16, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    So you had a good day then?!
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    Dec 16, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
    fable said...

    or just make a trip to the one in london...


    I've heard that The Hoist is a proper London gay club.
  • morleyq

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    Dec 16, 2012 4:25 AM GMT
    Boris saidI can't stand the gay bars in DC. For one thing, the music is too damn LOUD! I have a low voice so I can't really hear myself. Everywhere you go in any of those bars, there are speakers blasting in your ears. I prefer somewhere with low music so you can actually hear people when you socialize.

    I fear it's not just DC. Yet many complain that it's not loud enough.
    Guess some of us aren't deaf (yet).

    Met a couple friends at a neighborhood bar last weekend. Arrived early and there were only a handful of people there. It was nice and quiet for a few minutes, then one of my buds hit up the juke box and thereafter any meaningful conversation was next to impossible. Or at least till we got to ihop afterward.

    Last night I skipped the bars and thought of just heading out to a pizza place people go to after. But then I realized I had been eating all night so opted for a nice quiet night at home.
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    Dec 16, 2012 10:44 AM GMT
    Those things (stalkers, slipping people drugs in their drinks, sex in the bathroom) happen at straight clubs too.