Are you an extrovert?

  • beaujangle

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    Dec 15, 2012 11:50 AM GMT
    Or an introvert?

    Which trait do you prefer to see in (a) a friend and (b) a lover?
  • arinano

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    Dec 15, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    Total introvert.
    I like being alone. I need time to be alone for myself. I spend lots of time thinking and being in peace in my own mind. Most of the time I'm in my bedroom just browsing the internet, thinking, reading, and thinking. I hope it doesn't sound bad but I enjoy being alone and so much even that when mates chat to me on facebook I have to pretend I'm going out just to stop chatting and regain my "energy".

    Being introverted doesn't necessarily mean I'm shy. I mostly am. But since starting university this year I've got a better social life, made new friends, and have become more sociable. But I still need those spaces and be alone with myself and my best-friend which is my mind. And yeah I like being alone most of the time. I go out alone, I walk around the city alone, etc.

    But oftentimes I can feel incredibly lonely and there's always that part of me that wants to hang out with people and friends but lack of social energy and most of the time shyness (when it comes to parties and other social events) take over.

    I think I'd prefer more extroverted friends, although those probably won't work out since my more sociable mates are stuck with their sociable mates. But I'd love an outgoing buddy who can introduce me to a whole new social world. Same thing with lovers, I prefer more outgoing people to push the lack of confidence out of me. I love being alone but I hate feeling lonely. icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 15, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    Extrovert
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 15, 2012 2:36 PM GMT
    Depends on the crowd. I'm comfortable holding court at a party, but I'm just as happy quietly taking in others' antics.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 15, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    Edward24 saidExtrovert


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    Dec 15, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Edward24 saidExtrovert


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    Thanks lol
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  • calibro

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    Dec 15, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    introvert. i need space from all you bitches.
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    Dec 15, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    I like being alone so did my ex.....
  • TheBizMan

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    Dec 15, 2012 5:46 PM GMT
    extroverted when I need to be, but prefer a more introverted environment (when hanging out, having conversations.. etc)
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:47 PM GMT
    I'm a balance of extrovert and introvert. I'd rather have someone who was the same because I wouldn't want to date someone whose mouth runs nonstop but also not someone who is awkwardly quiet all the time.
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    Dec 15, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    Extrovert. Not sure- my sis is an introvert and also my closest friend, but I have no idea if her personality would be ideal in a lover.
  • thadjock

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    Dec 15, 2012 6:00 PM GMT
    extrovert, and attracted to extroverts

    dating innie's is a lot of work , like playing zone defense all by yourself.
  • TheBizMan

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    Dec 15, 2012 6:10 PM GMT
    thadjock saidextrovert, and attracted to extroverts

    dating innie's is a lot of work , like playing zone defense all by yourself.

    I think dating a constantly extroverted person would be more work than I would like to deal with.

    They seem to always need attention or to talk about something I usually could not care less about. You don't always need to speak and share whatever is on your mind.
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    Dec 15, 2012 6:20 PM GMT
    I'm an introvert, and i'm jealous of extroverts! I can has confidence?icon_confused.gif
  • TheBizMan

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    Dec 15, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    calguy456 saidI'm an introvert, and i'm jealous of extroverts! I can has confidence?icon_confused.gif


    You can have confidence and be an introvert
  • thadjock

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    Dec 15, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidI think dating a constantly extroverted person would be more work than I would like to deal with.

    They seem to always need attention or to talk about something I usually could not care less about. You don't always need to speak and share whatever is on your mind.


    you're conflating extrovert with jabbering, desperately insecure fool

    they're quite the opposite.

    my definition of extrovert is : confident, outgoing, not afraid to make first contact, self aware, independent, self sufficient. in fact we don't need to always be talking, and prefer to be alone, than in the company of those we find irksome.

    what are you doing for new years?
  • TheBizMan

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    Dec 15, 2012 6:34 PM GMT
    thadjock said
    TheBizMan saidI think dating a constantly extroverted person would be more work than I would like to deal with.

    They seem to always need attention or to talk about something I usually could not care less about. You don't always need to speak and share whatever is on your mind.


    you're conflating extrovert with jabbering, desperately insecure fool

    they're quite the opposite.

    my definition of extrovert is : confident, outgoing, not afraid to make first contact, self aware, independent, self sufficient. in fact we don't need to always be talking, and prefer to be alone, than in the company of those we find irksome.

    what are you doing for new years?


    You can be all of those things and be an introvert. That's actually a lot of the traits I would describe myself as and yet I still consider myself more introverted.

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    Dec 15, 2012 6:35 PM GMT
    It depends on the social situation. When it comes gatherings such as parties, get-togethers, etc then I'm an extrovert. I really enjoy meeting new people and will be the first to start a conversation.

    When the situation involves conflict, then I keep to myself. I like watching drama but don't enjoying being a part of it.
  • tautomer

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    Dec 15, 2012 9:10 PM GMT
    I'm an introvert, but most who know me would label me as an extrovert. People confuse shyness with introversion a lot, and I am not shy.

    I could date either, however strong introverts usually are a put off. In particular if it is coupled with the afformentioned shyness.
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    Dec 15, 2012 9:10 PM GMT
    I'm always perplexed by this introvert/extrovert question as I see myself having both qualities. I like to be around people, but also to be alone, and while I enjoy large groups of people, I tend to have more fun with small intimate groups. In the end I really think I'm between the extroverts and the introverts...A mediovert I would sayicon_wink.gif
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    Dec 15, 2012 9:11 PM GMT
    HottJoe said

    He's gonna make me an extrovert icon_redface.gif
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    Dec 15, 2012 9:14 PM GMT
    Introversion/extraversion has to do with where someone's energy is directed. It has very little to do with shyness. I'm a true introvert as I tend to do a lot of thinking - I often prefer to think things through, play with ideas, and synthesize my own theories before I start talking about them.
  • coolarmydude

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    Dec 15, 2012 9:17 PM GMT
    On the Briggs-Meyers test, I am ISTJ. My "I" for introvert is just off the center between introvert and extrovert. But the notion of introvert/extrovert has more to how you get your emotional energy.
  • coolarmydude

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    Dec 15, 2012 9:18 PM GMT
    bostonxfit saidIntroversion/extraversion has to do with where someone's energy is directed. It has very little to do with shyness. I'm a true introvert as I tend to do a lot of thinking - I often prefer to think things through, play with ideas, and synthesize my own theories before I start talking about them.


    OMG. same same....you beat me to it.
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    Dec 15, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    It depends on the mood I am and the people I'm with. I enjoy very much being alone as well as I enjoy hanging out with people. Can have it both ways icon_smile.gif