Have you ever been used for sex?

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    Dec 16, 2012 9:14 PM GMT
    Hi guys, I'm new here. And I'm looking for some advice.

    I was recently used for sex. I met this guy on an app, and he's my age (17). The first time we met was for coffee, and we had a great time. Then we started texting a lot. He would text me everyday with all these sweet messages. We boh liked each other a lot. We were also both very hormonal, so we would sext too. This kid then asked me out on a date, and called me his "serious friend". The second time we met up, we drove around the city (LA) and finally parked by the beach and hooked up. I thought he liked me a lot so I gave him my body. But after that night, he didn't text me for a week. When I texted him, he was very unresponsive. So I sent him a closure text and said "the booty call thing isn't gonna work. Sorry things couldnt work out".

    Only problem is I fell in love with him. And I have depression so this hurt me. Bad. Like yesterday I was driving and completely started bawling because I realized he just used me for sex.

    PLEASE tell me I can find someone who wants me emotionally and physically? I'm only in high school...so will things change in college and beyond? Maybe the whole "grindr/jackd" app-scene isn't for me?
  • weneedlovetoo

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    Dec 16, 2012 9:20 PM GMT
    kcbrown95 saidHi guys, I'm new here. And I'm looking for some advice.

    I was recently used for sex. I met this guy on an app, and he's my age (17). The first time we met was for coffee, and we had a great time. Then we started texting a lot. He would text me everyday with all these sweet messages. We boh liked each other a lot. We were also both very hormonal, so we would sext too. This kid then asked me out on a date, and called me his "serious friend". The second time we met up, we drove around the city (LA) and finally parked by the beach and hooked up. I thought he liked me a lot so I gave him my body. But after that night, he didn't text me for a week. When I texted him, he was very unresponsive. So I sent him a closure text and said "the booty call thing isn't gonna work. Sorry things couldnt work out".

    Only problem is I fell in love with him. And I have depression so this hurt me. Bad. Like yesterday I was driving and completely started bawling because I realized he just used me for sex.

    PLEASE tell me I can find someone who wants me emotionally and physically? I'm only in high school...so will things change in college and beyond? Maybe the whole "grindr/jackd" app-scene isn't for me?


    You're a good looking guy, i'm sure there will be someone for you since you're young. Yeah, just learned from your experience and don't invest too much emotionally early in the relationship. Don't give up! there are decent people out there!! I think he might not that into you (it's harsh but it is true). It's not your fault, but for a douche like him you shouldn't be crying for. Just think of it as a blessing that you don't have to deal with a person like that for a long run. You're too good for him.
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    Dec 16, 2012 9:22 PM GMT
    Wow, your reply was so thoughtful. And helpful. Thank you. Now I understand how blessed I am to NOT have him in my life anymore.
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    Dec 16, 2012 10:06 PM GMT
    Haha ok, I will learn from this experience. Though I disagree with the part that you shouldn't fall in love until you're older. I think love knows no age limit. But perhaps I won't fall so hard for people. Or at least I'll try!
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    Dec 16, 2012 10:28 PM GMT
    Awww, Poor you.
    It's those moments when u start bawling and essentially "break down" that are tough. The good news for you is you're so young and many many more experiences lie ahead of you, that in a year's time you'll be "why da fukk was I crying over that lame mofo?".....cuz u found urself someone newer, hotter, better at sex, etc...

    hang in there, dude.
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    Dec 17, 2012 12:07 AM GMT
    You shouldn't have disclosed that you're 17. As much as we'd all like to have you here, you're not yet old enough to be on RealJock.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 17, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
    Do I look like a virgin?
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    Dec 17, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    Yes, but not often enough.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Dec 17, 2012 1:17 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidYou shouldn't have disclosed that you're 17. As much as we'd all like to have you here, you're not yet old enough to be on RealJock.


    Well done old chap. Now he's not only distressed but distressed and not able to see our responses because he's been booted off of RealJock.
  • Medjai

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    Dec 17, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy said
    GAMRican saidYou shouldn't have disclosed that you're 17. As much as we'd all like to have you here, you're not yet old enough to be on RealJock.


    Well done old chap. Now he's not only distressed but distressed and not able to see our responses because he's been booted off of RealJock.


    Because rules are only important when they're convenient. There's adult material available on this site to all members, making user age important. Unless you'd like to see RJ shut down...

    OP, for as long as you aren't banned, I'll say this. If nothing else, learn emotional restraint. You met this guy twice. Once for coffee, and once for sex. Not I'm not going to say you weren't in love (although I think young guys get infatuation and lust mixed up with it a lot, that or falling in love with an idea as opposed to a person), but it was twice. That is way, way too fast to have heartbreak over. This world will kill you if you keep that up.
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    Dec 17, 2012 1:24 AM GMT
    I think this thread was some guys fantasy and not real anyway. If he gets stressed about this little thing, this boy is in for trouble
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    Dec 17, 2012 1:24 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy said
    GAMRican saidYou shouldn't have disclosed that you're 17. As much as we'd all like to have you here, you're not yet old enough to be on RealJock.


    Well done old chap. Now he's not only distressed but distressed and not able to see our responses because he's been booted off of RealJock.


    He did the right thing. You'd be surprised the legal shit storm that can come about in situations like these when a person openly discloses they are a minor in a place where they are not allowed.
  • docbailey2005

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    Dec 17, 2012 1:25 AM GMT
    You're only 17 so get over it and move on! Newsflash!!! I don't care how much you claim you want to be in love the majority of young gay men want to play not saying it's impossible but um keep it moving.