I am gay and a man. I don't feel that one is seperate from the other. My friends always say, if I am in a room full of gay men, everyone assumes I am heterosexual, and in a room full of straight men I am on my knees in the bathroom.
I am just a a guy. My entire life I have only aspired to be Jim ****** and thats about it. I have NO patience for straight acting masculine BS. We have about 70 years on average to live. So shut up. Have fun. Try not to hurt too many people along the way, and don't limit yourself. My ex was a BIG queen. Lisping, slender ballet dancer, he also had a huge dick, was exquisite in bed, loved dogs, was a scrapper, and really lived life on his own terms. Should it matter? NO. Do we make it matter? You betcha. I can pass, has it helped me in the long run? Probably not. I spend my entire life telling people I am gay. Not only is it annoying, but it also causes moment where I am like .... GREAT what is gonna happen when these people discover I am NOT straight.
I am not about to change who I am, but I think it is a nice easy way for certain men to hide in a partial closet. I am glad you are all butch and shit, but can you bait a hook? Climb a mountain? Throw a punch? Build a house? Who cares, by the time this debate gets ended you will be dead. I would rather enjoy my life, I don't get along with most gay men very well, mainly because they don't get who I am. I personally feel that men that have to advertise thier personal manliness are trying too hard.