If you don't have something nice to say...

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    Sep 16, 2008 6:16 PM GMT
    Normally I don't feel like posting my problems with people in a public forum, but this one is really wiggin me, and I thought it deserved public attention.

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    Last night I signed onto realjock and noticed I had a picture comment to approve. I looked at the comment from some 22 y/o good looking Italian guy. The comment was on my main picture, and it said, "You have terrible proportions."

    ...

    I won't name his name on here, because I'm classy but safe to say I deleted the comment, wrote him back, called him a dick, and blocked him (ok, maybe not THAT classy).

    Why would someone just randomly do that? I'm not opposed to a little criticism on my body. Hell, I'm in a profession where it's constantly criticised. I can deal with that. But I had never met this guy before. Never talked to him before. Apparantly he just came across my profile and decided he wanted to take me down a peg.

    I guess the point of my posting this is to send a message to everyone who does this on this site. I come to this site to be part of a gay community that supports health and fitness, not to be the victim of some guy wanting to be catty or hurtful. Nothing good comes from cutting someone down randomly. If you don't like how a person looks, saying they look bad isn't going to make you or him feel any better, it'll just create negativity. Supporting and helping your fellow man to attain their goals will create positivity.

    So basically, as I thought we all learned in Kindergarten, if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all! Trust me, it will save you a lot of time.

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  • ShawnTX

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    Sep 16, 2008 6:41 PM GMT
    If it makes you feel any better, I love your proportions. icon_biggrin.gif

    On a serious note though, I understand what you're saying. I have no problems getting into it with people on here based on what they post. But in your case that was a random, unneeded comment. If pointing out your lack of good proportions is so important, I feel an email about it would have been more appropriate, followed by some constructive ideas on how to improve your body (not like you need it). Did he really expect you to approve such a comment?

    Some guys are just lame. Chalk it up to jealousy.
  • Timbales

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    Sep 16, 2008 6:53 PM GMT
    I think that's very rude. I'm glad for the feature that lets you review a comment before it gets posted.
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    Sep 16, 2008 7:08 PM GMT
    If you don't have anything nice to say about anyone, come sit next to me.LOL.

    Seriously.......chalk it up to jealously, envy by the other guy. And be content and smile knowing that this person found something terrific about you, but in order for him to feel better about himself, he had to put you down.

    I like your proportions. I'm sure your measurments, combined with your atitude make you a winning combination of manhood virtues.

    Sometimes you can completely kill a guy with kindness and irony. Totally wipe him out like you are wiping your ass after a dump. I would have thanked him for his comments and asked him for advice on how to correct the flaws in you that he noticed. His reponse will give you fodder and amnunition to blow him out of the water.
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    Sep 16, 2008 7:09 PM GMT
    I hope to one day have proportions close to yours. With that said, individuals who point out what they see to be "flaws" are often times jealous of what they cannot achieve. Obviously he is not happy with what he see's in the mirror.
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    Sep 16, 2008 7:14 PM GMT
    Just send him this...

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    Sep 16, 2008 7:16 PM GMT
    First of all...you're totally gorgeous and any guy criticizing your looks needs to have his eyes checked.

    Some guys are jerks and get off on putting people down and there's not much you can really do about it other than pity them for their low self esteem and laugh at the fact the you just met someone who failed Kindergarten. Laugh it off and continue on with whatever it is you were doing...the more u think about it, the longer you're keeping a nuisance in your life.
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    Sep 16, 2008 7:30 PM GMT

    He was just being MEAN.
    Me, I like a little monster in my man, like when nysexy called me a bastard that time.icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 16, 2008 7:44 PM GMT
    It's called jealousy and bitterness.

    You have a great body and a handsome face.
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    Sep 16, 2008 7:57 PM GMT
    Just ignore him and his comments, some people just like attacking people.

    I think a lot of people would kill for your proportions, I know I would.
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    Sep 16, 2008 8:02 PM GMT
    Some RJ members need to take a Dale Carnegie course. This guy obviously does not know how to win friends and influence people.
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    Sep 16, 2008 9:19 PM GMT

    wow. insecure much? your proportions are not terrible. Not terrible.
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    Sep 16, 2008 10:34 PM GMT
    well, if you whip it out, maybe I can comment on your proportions. ... icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 16, 2008 10:37 PM GMT
    I think it was a typo.

    he meant to say you have terrible preparations...

    you really should do more warm ups before you take the stage. stretching for a full 15 minutes is essential.
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    Sep 16, 2008 11:26 PM GMT
    It seems a lot pf people missed out on this particular afterschool special.
    A lot of conflicts would have been easily avoided if one kept one's opinion to oneself. By the way, you have great shoulders.
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    Sep 16, 2008 11:29 PM GMT
    i think you have terrific proportions.
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    Sep 16, 2008 11:36 PM GMT
    wassupunk saidi think you have terrific proportions.


    I second that...
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    Sep 16, 2008 11:41 PM GMT
    I think that this is just another example of how some members of this group have more muscles and less brains. You are perfectly fine and as you point out, he does not even know you. Yes our profiles are public, but that does not give us the right to insult each other. It has happened to me in the chat a few times and to be honest now I just see them as insecure individuals that need some excitement in their daily lives because looking at their own reflection is not enough anymore.
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    Sep 16, 2008 11:49 PM GMT
    Another thing to keep in mind is this: the internet, like seven straight shots of Patron, allows people to feel safe saying and doing things they wouldn't otherwise in a million years dare. It also hides social ineptitudes.

    By the way, you mentioned the guy was Italian. Maybe English isn't his first language, and he meant to say 'terrific' instead of 'terrible.'
    I once called something 'stupid' instead of 'stupendous' in a high school Spanish class...it's a simple enough mistake.
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    Sep 16, 2008 11:53 PM GMT
    You're obviously in tremendous shape, so probably he was just jealous. Criticizing someone on their strengths / virtues is what envious, insecure people do. Let it go.
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    Sep 16, 2008 11:55 PM GMT
    You are right. This guy has to learn how to respect other people. Besides, I think you are in good shape.
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    Sep 16, 2008 11:57 PM GMT
    First, I definatly have to agree with the others. You are gorgeous and have wondeful proportions.

    Second, don't let what some insecure asshat said about how you look bring you down.

    When I first started on here, I had a few guys tell me that I didn't belong. That I was WAY to fat for anyone to like. Even had someone sugest I should try joining a fatties site. These thigs at first got me down and made me kinda sad. Thankfully there are TONS more guys on here that are really great. I have formed a wonderful relationship with a number of them and am thankful each day that I didn't listen to those tiny brained loosers (who I mught add have subsequently either been deleted or left themselves lol).
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    Sep 17, 2008 12:02 AM GMT
    icon_eek.gif Thats awful... I've always thought the guys of Real Jock are to quick to fly of the handle and get into arguments over stupid topics in the threads but this is totally different and just out right rude... Thats a personal attack.

    Dude, he's prolly just jealous.
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    Sep 17, 2008 12:22 AM GMT
    They are charging, now :FUCK THAT !!!
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    Sep 17, 2008 12:43 AM GMT
    Speaking as someone who actually has "terrible proportions", I'd love to have your "terrible proportions".

    Personally, I wouldn't let myself be insulted by an idiot nor should you. I don't need to tell you that you look good. Unfortunately, there's no moron filter here, so we simply ignore them.

    Being young and good looking obviously empowers him to assume that his lack of tack, perspective, discretion, courteousness, and the knowledge or education to use any of these qualities is unnecessary.