What should I do next?

  • Myles_

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    Dec 20, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
    I met this guy on Grindr and I asked him on a date... but its the holidays so it wont be till next Wednesday (one week!). What should I be doing in the mean while? Should I continue to text him (if so, how often?) or should I wait till maybe Monday or Tuesday to confirm details for the date?
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    Dec 20, 2012 3:07 AM GMT
    Yes, text your grindr date on Christmas to finalize that boxing day date, while he's with his friends or family for dinner... he'll think you're so popular, lol
  • Myles_

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    Assumption: I celebrate Christmas.

    Reality: I do not celebrate Christmas.

    Thanks for the not at-all-helpful post anyways bud.
  • JackDoyle

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:43 AM GMT
    wait till a few days after Christmas at least
  • Myles_

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:59 AM GMT
    So I shouldnt text him during?
  • Myles_

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    Dec 20, 2012 4:00 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidwow...swing and a miss. icon_rolleyes.gif

    He's mocking you for wanting to inject yourself into the other guy's Christmas....he actually never mentioned yours.


    "He will think you are so popular" is what I got it from.

    But yeah, good advice.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Dec 20, 2012 4:52 AM GMT
    text on occasion. Just enough so that you still express interest but not too much so it is built up to be some magical event. It allows for some play hard to get time and see how that plays out as well. Confirm the day before you hang out, no more than once, and hopefully everything goes smoothly.

    I personally try not to talk about too much over texting if we have already planned to hang out. I want there to be plenty to talk about when we first hang out.

    Also, try to not share and talk about everything the first time you hang out. Helps to have something to discuss on the second date and or third if things go well. Some times when there is nothing to say, you have sex, and some times when that happens too early then it spells disaster or disinterest.
  • calibro

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:23 PM GMT
    Myles_ saidI met this guy on Grindr and I asked him on a date... but its the holidays so it wont be till next Wednesday (one week!). What should I be doing in the mean while? Should I continue to text him (if so, how often?) or should I wait till maybe Monday or Tuesday to confirm details for the date?


    you should talk to your therapist about your insecurity and clinginess issues
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    Dec 20, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    Don't text him. Let him enjoy his family and friends. I would text him the day after Christmas to see if the date is still on.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    You sound challenging to date imo.... Maybe you're over thinking it. Just be casual and don't overwhelm the guy, or it might fall through before it happens. icon_confused.gif
  • Import

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    Dec 20, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    yall haven't even met yet. I'd just not txt him for a few days and then like 2 or 3 days after xmas, shoot him a txt. U dont wanna look desperate
  • Myles_

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    Dec 20, 2012 6:27 PM GMT
    Thanks for all the advice! icon_smile.gif

    I'm not usually the dating kind so I'm at a lost... got my direction now.
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    Dec 20, 2012 6:43 PM GMT
    Do guys on Grindr actually go on dates? If I were you I would temper my expectations.
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    Dec 20, 2012 6:49 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidDo guys on Grindr actually go on dates? If I were you I would temper my expectations.


    A few years ago, I was dating a guy I met on Grindr. We didn't even fuck until like our 3rd or 4th date =D
  • FRE0

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    Dec 20, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    mashedpotatoes saidYes, text your grindr date on Christmas to finalize that boxing day date, while he's with his friends or family for dinner... he'll think you're so popular, lol


    Sounds reasonable, but few U.S. citizens know what boxing day is. I wouldn't know either except that I lived outside of the U.S. for 10 years.
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    Dec 20, 2012 7:29 PM GMT
    I'd give him an early holiday greetings message on monday. Let him enjoy his Christmas (no texting on tuesday) and text on wednesday to confirm the date.