Starting to want a hot face AND a hot body in a guy

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:17 AM GMT
    For a long time, I thought that I can be turned on by a cute guy with just a beautiful face, and not care about his body as long as it isn't fat. But the other day I was fooling around with this hipster who is exactly that (had a small skinny-guy belly). I was happy just making out with him, but he wanted more, and when we started stripping I didn't want to take his clothes off... I was barely touching his body. I felt like such a stereotype...

    Have I been watching too much porn? Assuming 80% of gays and 98% of the general population don't have gym bodies, how do they get off with each other??
  • Angelix90

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:24 AM GMT
    I like a hot face and body when it comes to sex. However after a while, underneath all those chiseled musculature, if his personality is as empty as my cookie jar, the attraction fades.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    The way I see it, if you care about your health and the way you look, so should your partner, otherwise, that is going to be one less very important thing you will not have in common. But not everyone thinks that way. Some guys are really hot and they will purposely date a less then average guy because they know they can fuck around on them and be the dominant in the relationship and the dud is not going to say anything because he is with a hot man he will never have another chance to get again.
  • JackDoyle

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    anytime I'm in a sexual situation I'm more paranoid about how my own body looks which is a real headwrecker and I can't really just enjoy the moment, I prefer drunk sex when you just don't give a fuck
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    Dec 20, 2012 3:37 AM GMT
    #7'swhothinkthey're9'slookingfor11's
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    You should take off your shirt and change your name from mashedpotatoes to hotbodyfucker. At least, that would be a start.
  • Angelix90

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:39 AM GMT
    Narciso said#7'swhothinkthey're9'slookingfor11's


    Hey, I'll try my luck. Thank you very much.
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    Dec 20, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    mashedpotatoes saidStarting to want a hot face AND a hot body in a guy

    Yep. You're gay.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Dec 20, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    It's your personal preference. Never think you are shallow because of it. We should go for the things we want. Never settle.
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    Dec 20, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    MidwesternKid saidIt's your personal preference. Never think you are shallow because of it. We should go for the things we want. Never settle.

    Yes, we should never be realistic about what we can achieve. Always believe we're deserving of the best the universe has to offer. icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 20, 2012 4:52 AM GMT
    Read the book Velvet Rage. Even if just the first 2 chapters.
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    Dec 20, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    MidwesternKid saidIt's your personal preference. Never think you are shallow because of it. We should go for the things we want. Never settle.


    sorry, but the two are heavily entrenched in one another - shallow people have shallow preferences. Just pointing that out...

    As for being shallow - who fucking cares. Don't make excuses about it just accept it. It doesn't make you a bad person.
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    Dec 20, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    Well everyone has standards. You might actually just be widening what you are into.
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    Dec 20, 2012 6:33 AM GMT
    Gays have a dilemma that straight people don't because we know what we find attractive in a guy and can spot out short comings on our own body. Whereas they idolize a feminine physique...which doesn't exactly translate...icon_lol.gif

    That being said, people are into different things. Twinks/chubby-chasers/daddy.
    I work out, so I am generally attracted to others who are built as well but I surprise myself every so often in another who wouldn't exactly be my "type."
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    Dec 20, 2012 6:37 AM GMT
    Me too! That's why I just have sex with myself
  • whytehot

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    Dec 20, 2012 6:44 AM GMT
    Lots of average people with really high standards these days... but in only one aspect of a person.

    My ex bf of 6 years was a lot less attractive, if I had to be really objective; and he wasn't even good at sex, but I was so turned on by everything about his character and swagger that I don't think i can ever find anyone as hot as he was. He ended up cheating with and marrying some nerd, sigh.
  • Kipstrdl

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    Dec 20, 2012 6:45 AM GMT
    ohboy saidMe too! That's why I just have sex with myself


    I have sex with myslef too! But I always get pissed off when I expect me to make myself breakfast afterwards.
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    Dec 20, 2012 6:46 AM GMT
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    ohboy saidMe too! That's why I just have sex with myself


    I have sex with myslef too! But I always get pissed off when I expect me to make myself breakfast afterwards.


    Uhh yeah that's the down side
  • Jojo_Blu

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    Dec 20, 2012 6:49 AM GMT
    I think it's really superficial to have such a knee jerk response. Maybe the reason you didn't want him to take his clothes off had more to do with how you felt about him and not his body... Or maybe you actually were never attracted to him in the first place.

    I will say that focusing too much on appearances isn't a good idea, and how we feel about others and their bodies shows what we think about ourselves.

    When it comes to guys I want to date, I definitely want to be attracted to them, but if I heard them say anything like this, I'd be walking the other way. And I have. Being vain is a turn off.
  • Suetonius

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    Dec 20, 2012 6:51 AM GMT
    mashedpotatoes saidFor a long time, I thought that I can be turned on by a cute guy with just a beautiful face, and not care about his body as long as it isn't fat. But the other day I was fooling around with this hipster who is exactly that (had a small skinny-guy belly). I was happy just making out with him, but he wanted more, and when we started stripping I didn't want to take his clothes off... I was barely touching his body. I felt like such a stereotype...

    Have I been watching too much porn? Assuming 80% of gays and 98% of the general population don't have gym bodies, how do they get off with each other??
    Next time, turn off the lights before having sex with a skinny guy, or have him put a blindfold on you (and tie you up also?)
    I felt like such a stereotype... But ya are Blanche, ya are. And its perfectly OK to be shallow.

    watching too much porn? Not possible to watch too much porn.

    80% of gays don't have gym bodies, and 80% of gays will have sex with gays with OK (not gym) bodies
  • josephmovie

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    Dec 20, 2012 7:03 AM GMT
    There's nothing wrong with wanting a hot face and a hot body. It helps if you have both as well.
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    Dec 20, 2012 7:06 AM GMT
    ohboy saidMe too! That's why I just have sex with myself


    until I visit you then it'll be sex with me

    just kidding
  • camfer

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    Dec 20, 2012 2:36 PM GMT
    If two people have a genuine heartfelt connection to each other, then the sex is an expression of that. Impossible standards tend to go away when you actually love someone.

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:04 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    unfounded7 said
    MidwesternKid saidIt's your personal preference. Never think you are shallow because of it. We should go for the things we want. Never settle.

    Yes, we should never be realistic about what we can achieve. Always believe we're deserving of the best the universe has to offer. icon_lol.gif
    I'm afraid of people significantly more fit than myself, because I'm afraid of rejection or being accepted then rejected again.

    I feel ya, I'm the same way.
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    Dec 20, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidThe way I see it, if you care about your health and the way you look, so should your partner, otherwise, that is going to be one less very important thing you will not have in common. But not everyone thinks that way. Some guys are really hot and they will purposely date a less then average guy because they know they can fuck around on them and be the dominant in the relationship and the dud is not going to say anything because he is with a hot man he will never have another chance to get again.


    you bring up a good observation...I have seen this over the years...a pretty hot guy with a guy moreso average and its not because of personality, its because of the dominance and control factor.

    for me the body always has been the main factor over the face in what catches my eye...people are born with the faces they have they cannot change that, but people can change and build their bodies up