Gay or not Gay?

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    Sep 16, 2008 9:55 PM GMT
    Ok Guys I know this has prob been asked many times before but I have to ask again. I'm very new to being gay and also have no gaydar whatsoever. So I was wondering how do you tell if a guy is gay or not? (ie: looks, things he says to you etc) Any and all tips would help... Thanks
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    Sep 16, 2008 10:42 PM GMT
    I'm a later bloomer, and what helped me was going to places where close to 100% of the guys were gay. Hopefully there are some places like that in Corpus, or in other places you might spend time, like SAT where I used to live.

    I know the gay bar & club scene doesn't appeal to everyone, but you don't have to drink. And maybe you can go with friends, to avoid feeling awkward, and getting hit on more than you'd like. Perhaps you know of other places & events where the crowd is largely gay. Check online gay resources to find them.

    Then simply study the other guys, and learn for yourself. Over time you'll just naturally assimilate what the gay look & mannerism are all about, upon which I believe gaydar is based.

    Not that you'll have seen a complete sample of all gay guys, cause many don't frequent the bars & clubs, or go out much at all, and others are so ungay in their ways they wouldn't register on anyone's gaydar.

    But if you want to hone your gaydar skills, that's one way.

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    Sep 16, 2008 10:53 PM GMT
    TylerSF saidHm Yeah, SF has a lot of gay guys here ! maybe you should move to California (BeachDude) ! :-) I think he lives in Texas Red_Vespa ! :-) - yeah in SF every guys who are out - are in the "In" crowd of this city !


    Oh damn, yeah! I've been having trouble lately with ID'ing guys & their locations. Thanks, and lemme go back and amend that comment.
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    Sep 16, 2008 11:37 PM GMT
    Ask if they're a friend of Dorothy...or too see their gay card.
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    Sep 16, 2008 11:44 PM GMT
    Give suspect guy two shots of tequila, and then a kiss. Any sparks? (just kidding-lol)
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    Sep 16, 2008 11:58 PM GMT
    You know how I know someone's gay?

    If they listen to Coldplay icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 17, 2008 1:07 AM GMT
    HighVoltageGuy saidAsk if they're a friend of Dorothy...or too see their gay card.


    The first time somebody asked me if I'm a friend of Dorothy, I had no idea what he was talking about. It's a coded way of asking "are you gay?" but without the risk of physical assault if you asked in the uncoded way.
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    Sep 17, 2008 5:06 AM GMT
    HEY, THERE`S ONE, JUST ONLY ONE, THING THATS DESCRIBES YOU LIKE GAY OR NOT GAY.... DO YOU LIKE ONE MEN AT LEAST? YOU ARE GAY!!! HAVE YOU BEEN WHIT A MAN IN A ROMANTIC/LOVE/ SEX MOMENT??? YOU ARE GAY!!!!!
    DONT WORRY ABOUT THAT! TO BEING GAY ISNĀ“T BAD!
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    Sep 17, 2008 3:40 PM GMT
    dowal saidYou know how I know someone's gay?

    If they listen to Coldplay icon_smile.gif


    Know how I know you're gay?

    You have a framed poster of Asia on your wall.

    But seriously, I think going to a high-percentage gay area would help a lot. I have had several big crushes recently, and I have spent most of my time wondering if they were gay or not. I get little clues that weakly point to my crushes being gay, but then get shut down. It really isn't worth the fighting.