Kissing.....the most intimate act.

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    Sep 17, 2008 3:35 AM GMT
    As my screename suggests, kissing is very important to me. I think it is the most intimate revealing thing about a person....even more so than sucking and fucking. Kissing will instantly tell me if there is chemistry and if I like the guy.

    It's so personal.

    What do you guys think? How do you deal with a guy that doesn't kiss well, or doesn't like to kiss?

    Thanks
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    Sep 17, 2008 3:48 AM GMT

    dump him.
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    Sep 17, 2008 4:06 AM GMT
    I agree, that it's the most intimate act and you have to be on the same romantic page and everything.

    But moving from guy to guy sometimes you will always perceive your next kisser as a bad one...I know I did until 20 minutes into the makeout when I realized that I instantly liked it better...But I know a lot of guys that will stop kissing all together if it's bad in the first couple seconds.

    I could kiss for hours though
  • GQjock

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    Sep 17, 2008 11:49 AM GMT
    For me it just isn't Sex if there's no kissing involved

    and I can tell right away if it's going to be a long night if a guy I'm with kisses well or not
    in the case of the latter it's usually very abbreviated

    so it's unanimous dump him
  • SanEsteban

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    Sep 20, 2008 1:47 PM GMT
    I LOVE kissing! I could do it for hours with the right guy. It is completely intimate - more so, I think, than other sexual acts which may be the reason why some guys won't kiss. Since it is important to me, if a guy doesn't kiss, then that relationship won't go anywhere outside of friends. I would have to say cut him loose if he won't kiss you.
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    Sep 20, 2008 2:21 PM GMT
    "A kiss is the height of voluptuousness, an expense of time and an expanse of spirit in the sweet toil of romance, when one's bones quiver, anticipation rockets, but gratification is kept at bay on purpose, in exquisite torment, to build to a succulent crescendo of emotion and passion."

    --Diane Ackerman, A Natural History of the Senses



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    Sep 20, 2008 2:36 PM GMT
    A man who can come close, then sensuously kiss his partner longingly - will never be without the highest quality dates. A kiss is a prelude to whatever more is on his menu!
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    Sep 20, 2008 3:04 PM GMT
    My first kiss was four hours long...i take it that's good?
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    Sep 20, 2008 3:14 PM GMT
    If he can't/doesn't like to kiss then bye bye. That is a deal breaker for me.
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    Sep 20, 2008 3:20 PM GMT
    I don't understand how guys can have sex with someone, but won't kiss them. If someone doesn't kiss me, I won't have sex with him. Unless he's really, really hot and puts his mouth to good use elsewhere...
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    Sep 20, 2008 3:21 PM GMT
    I tend to come from the school of thought that a great KISS takes two good kissers. Sometimes, it's not necessarily that one or the other is a bad kisser, but rather there is a true lack of chemistry between the two. Besides, a truly good kisser, if the chemistry is truly there, can raise the game of the less skilled with a little practice. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 20, 2008 4:34 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidI tend to come from the school of thought that a great KISS takes two good kissers. Sometimes, it's not necessarily that one or the other is a bad kisser, but rather there is a true lack of chemistry between the two. Besides, a truly good kisser, if the chemistry is truly there, can raise the game of the less skilled with a little practice. icon_wink.gif



    I agree.....in fact, if there is "hidden chemistry", it can be very sexy and fun to use kissing to bring out the beast in the other guy.

    But then again, some guys have no clue how to kiss. They are terrible at it. Sloppy....no tact....no passion........just mechanical. Some guys can't loosen their mouths and they end up using theier tongue as a torture device to turn me off.

    The worst is when a guy starts kissing and sucking on my belly button!
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    Sep 20, 2008 4:37 PM GMT
    You have an "outtie"?
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    Sep 20, 2008 4:47 PM GMT
    McGay saidYou have an "outtie"?


    NO..I have a "innie"........which meant he really had to dig deep with his tongue and I hated it.

    BTW..what do you have?

    This could be a good thread....."innie or outie".
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    Sep 20, 2008 5:12 PM GMT
    I am a kissing fanatic. There's a guy I'm seeing right now, and it looks like this relationships is going somewhere, and although his kissing technique is good, even great, he kept bending my head around and he would end up kissing along the side of my mouth and cheek, rather than going straight in. This pissed me off and caused me great pain in my neck, because my cervical spine is all fucked-up due to old injuries. I finally worked-up the guts to tell him that he needed to stop kissing the side of my mouth and start kissing me directly in my mouth from the front. I had been afraid to say anything, for fear of sounding selfish and demanding. But I also know that if you want your partner to do something a certain way, you can't always expect him to be a mind-reader. So, what did he do when I finally spoke up? He said, "I'm sorry. You'll just have to teach me to do it how you like it done."

    To me, THAT attitude is the mark of a GREAT lover. I'm sure we'll do just fine from now on, and he is a good kisser, too!

    I will say, many years ago I met a boy named Buford, beautiful young super-tall Black guy, with the thickest lips in the world. On our first date, it took us a few minutes of smoking some pot and me "shotgunning" the hits into his mouth (because I wasn't sure if he was Gay or not, and wanted to kiss him, and this was my sneaky way of doing it.) He went right for it, and by the time we got to the third pot hit, as our lips locked he tentatively touched my upper lip with his tongue. Suddenly we were both jamming our tongues down each other's throats, kissing like two men drowning together. That first kiss lasted at least twenty minutes, and when we came up for air, we were totally in love with each other, just like that.
    We were lovers for 7 years, until we lost contact when I moved away. I miss my Buford.
  • swimbikerun

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    Sep 20, 2008 6:10 PM GMT
    I like kissing during sex as it make the act more intimate. A guy communicates quite a lot through a kiss. It can be sensual and rough or gentle and sweet.
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    Sep 20, 2008 6:12 PM GMT
    Why not teach him how to kiss? Maybe he just needs to get called out on bad kissing and have someone who takes the initiative to help him fix it. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 20, 2008 7:04 PM GMT
    There's been a couple of occasions when I had to stop someone that was kissing me horribly... it's such a turn off. But its fun to teach them, if they let you of course icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 20, 2008 9:13 PM GMT
    JHargraves saidI like the stupid ones that don't have a clue and drool like retards, you know you it only gets worse and there's always a reason to end the relationship icon_twisted.gif

    I don't think kissing is the most intimate act...it's not like you are risking your life by getting a deadly disease from sticking your tongue down someones throat. I think barebacking is the most intimate act, although how a person kisses can definitely influence how much further it goes with them! icon_exclaim.gif
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    Sep 20, 2008 9:49 PM GMT
    JHargraves saidI like the stupid ones that don't have a clue and drool like retards, you know you it only gets worse and there's always a reason to end the relationship icon_twisted.gif

    I don't think kissing is the most intimate act...it's not like you are risking your life by getting a deadly disease from sticking your tongue down someones throat. I think barebacking is the most intimate act, although how a person kisses can definitely influence how much further it goes with them! icon_exclaim.gif


    What!?
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    Sep 20, 2008 9:57 PM GMT

    Kissing is not the most intimate act, talking and sharing your feelings is. Kissing is fine, but if a man can connect with you on a deeper level than the physical, you can always teach him to kiss. A good listener and an eloquent speaker, now that's hot and kissing is a lot easier to teach than true intimacy!
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    Sep 20, 2008 10:04 PM GMT
    This is funny .. read the intro that warns of kissing men ..

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    Sep 21, 2008 1:26 AM GMT
    I don't think kissing is the most intimate act. However kissing can be used as a tool to judge whether I am compatible with the person or not. If he got a bad breath.. NO WAY I am gonna see him again.. if he is lousy at kissing.. I will just say that we shouldn't jump into the relationship too fast... If he's great.. I will call him again.. hahaha
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    Sep 21, 2008 1:37 AM GMT
    nautilie7 saidI don't think kissing is the most intimate act. However kissing can be used as a tool to judge whether I am compatible with the person or not. If he got a bad breath.. NO WAY I am gonna see him again.. if he is lousy at kissing.. I will just say that we shouldn't jump into the relationship too fast... If he's great.. I will call him again.. hahaha


    If Kissing is not the most intimate ( I say erotic ) thing what Is??? Silly boy.
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    Sep 26, 2008 3:09 PM GMT
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    nautilie7 saidI don't think kissing is the most intimate act. However kissing can be used as a tool to judge whether I am compatible with the person or not. If he got a bad breath.. NO WAY I am gonna see him again.. if he is lousy at kissing.. I will just say that we shouldn't jump into the relationship too fast... If he's great.. I will call him again.. hahaha


    If Kissing is not the most intimate ( I say erotic ) thing what Is??? Silly boy.


    There is absolutley nothing sexier or erotic than a masculine, confident man who who knows how to kiss well.

    Anyone can suck or fuck and go through the motions. You can't get away with just going through the motions when it comes to kissing.

    That's why I think some men don't like to kiss. Too much of their personality will be revealed.