Fatherhood, Sexuality, and The Talk

  • Hazuki

    Posts: 21

    Dec 22, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    So, as usual, I was reading a couple of different things and this got me to thinking… so I have a question for all of you fathers/fathers to be out there: how do you approach the topic of sexuality with your children? Have you given them “the talk” and if so what ages were they when you did so…what ages do you plan on, or think is even appropriate to have that discussion with your children? If you have daughters, did/will you talk to them directly or have them talk with some other female role model or family member in their lives? Will you have resources on hand (books/websites/other media) so they can get in to specifics themselves according to their comfort level or do you intend to give a general explanation and then answer any questions they might have up front? How will you approach the subject of masturbation (both solo and otherwise)? How will you approach the topic of them engaging in sexual activity with others in general? Will you lay down clear and concrete boundaries and/or ultimatums (“Not under my roof!” or “Not until you’re _____ years old!”)? Will you let them know that it is perfectly normal to be curious, and experiment and that the main thing is that they maintain respect for themselves, their bodies, and their partners and that you will be available to support and give advice if needed (do you even have such a relationship with your children)?? Are you “out” to them, and if so, was/is it an issue for them…has it changed your relationship in any significant way?
  • wellwell

    Posts: 2265

    Dec 22, 2012 7:57 AM GMT
    I suggest you not act until they are asking questions; @ which point, they deserve correct answers. As for self-exploration, I wish all our Dads' had told us not to do anything sexual; outside, the 3 days of the new moon.
    As for the boys, remind them not to read Playboy right before bed.
  • Hazuki

    Posts: 21

    Dec 22, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    Thanks for the reply.