Are we more superficial or deeper than straights?

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    Dec 22, 2012 4:41 PM GMT
    I have heard so many theories.

    Some says that gay guys are very supercilious and only cares about appearances. Hot abs, hot asses, hot chests, pretty big eyes, pretty face, masculine behavior, etc.

    Some says that gay guys are deeper than hetero, because we have had to face discrimination, overcome hurdles, withstanding the horrible high school years, etc. These negative experiences made us wiser, more understanding, nicer and more empathetic.

    Which is right. Your opinions?
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 22, 2012 5:09 PM GMT
    All joking aside, I think we're deeper, because we spend more time struggling internally, to understand who we are and our place in the world.icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 22, 2012 6:10 PM GMT
    I think the only real difference between gay and straight is who we put in our bed
  • MidwesternKid

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    Dec 22, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    I feel the straight world is more superficial. It is night and day between where I live and then being up in Boystown. Everyone is so welcoming and inviting no matter your shape, size, race, fetish, what ever up in the city. When I go out to shop or to a bar in the suburbs in Indiana where I live, its awful. People are so rude and shallow based on appearance and these people, by no means, are anything to fawn over.
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    Dec 22, 2012 6:18 PM GMT
    minox saidI think the only real difference between gay and straight is who we put in our bed


    And the amount of money spent on underwear...
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    Dec 22, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    Definitely more shallow. Straights can be shallow and superficial but some gays won't even be friends with you if dont look like a GQ or JCrew model, image and illusions are everything with gay men. You rarely meet anyone who isn't hung up on how someone looks.
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    Dec 22, 2012 8:12 PM GMT
    I think it just depends on the person..like you said its about looking inward and understanding..some people go through all types of adversity and don't have a positive outlook..straight or gay..unfortunately most things in life are grey not white or black whether your straight or gay.
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    Dec 22, 2012 8:13 PM GMT
    minox saidI think the only real difference between gay and straight is who we put in our bed
    EXCATLY.
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    Dec 22, 2012 8:29 PM GMT
    MidwesternKid saidWhen I go out to shop or to a bar in the suburbs in Indiana where I live, its awful.


    "I like Indiana" -said no one ever.

    You have a point though, since here, there's a major difference between Minneapolis and the NW metro where I'm from. The NW metro is boring, too sprawled and cookie cutter for my liking, whereas Uptown Minneapolis has charm and a neighbor-y feel to it. I feel a lot more at home in Uptown than I do in- let's say... uh... Plymouth, MN (if anybody is familiar with the twin cities area). On the flip side- downtown minneapolis is scary as hell at night- especially in some of the gay clubs.
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    Dec 22, 2012 8:35 PM GMT
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    MidwesternKid saidWhen I go out to shop or to a bar in the suburbs in Indiana where I live, its awful.


    "I like Indiana" -said no one ever.

    You have a point though, since here, there's a major difference between Minneapolis and the NW metro where I'm from. The NW metro is boring, too sprawled and cookie cutter for my liking, whereas Uptown Minneapolis has charm and a neighbor-y feel to it. I feel a lot more at home in Uptown than I do in- let's say... uh... Plymouth, MN (if anybody is familiar with the twin cities area).


    NOT. I love Indiana.
  • MadeinMich

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    Dec 22, 2012 8:47 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidAll joking aside, I think we're deeper, because we spend more time struggling internally, to understand who we are and our place in the world.icon_wink.gif


    Which makes up more self absorbed?
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    Dec 22, 2012 8:52 PM GMT
    JOOU saidI have heard so many theories.

    Some says that gay guys are very supercilious and only cares about appearances. Hot abs, hot asses, hot chests, pretty big eyes, pretty face, masculine behavior, etc.

    Some says that gay guys are deeper than hetero, because we have had to face discrimination, overcome hurdles, withstanding the horrible high school years, etc. These negative experiences made us wiser, more understanding, nicer and more empathetic.

    Which is right. Your opinions?


    NO WERE JUST BETTER icon_cool.gif

    WE KNOW WHAT WOMEN AND MEN WANT. (Women fantasize about our dicks and Men try to learn from us to get more women cause of our swag)

    AND WE HAVE BALANCE OF BOTH GENDERS (If we choose to embrace and balance our masculinity and femininity (if that's a word lol). Which makes us deeper than straights and more attractive.

    AND WE DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT PREGNANCIES HAHAHA


    How fucken awsome is that! icon_cool.gif

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    Dec 22, 2012 8:55 PM GMT
    I think we are as shallow as all men!

    From gay guys I get "omg your hot why are you single"

    From straight guys I get "your a pretty good lookin fella why you single man"

    From woman I get "your such a good guy bla bla bla something about my personality like that shits important why are you single"

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    Dec 22, 2012 8:56 PM GMT
    LJay said
    Bullwinklemoos said
    MidwesternKid saidWhen I go out to shop or to a bar in the suburbs in Indiana where I live, its awful.


    "I like Indiana" -said no one ever.

    You have a point though, since here, there's a major difference between Minneapolis and the NW metro where I'm from. The NW metro is boring, too sprawled and cookie cutter for my liking, whereas Uptown Minneapolis has charm and a neighbor-y feel to it. I feel a lot more at home in Uptown than I do in- let's say... uh... Plymouth, MN (if anybody is familiar with the twin cities area).


    NOT. I love Indiana.


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    Dec 22, 2012 8:57 PM GMT
    Depends on where you're looking. If you're looking in gay bars, shallow as fuck. Otherwise, I think gay men can actually be deeper in general.
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    Dec 22, 2012 8:58 PM GMT
    #fruitlessgeneralizations
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    Dec 22, 2012 8:59 PM GMT
    I can see from both sides but from what I've seen/met in my life time right now (which isn't very long), I've met slightly more nicer straight people then gay people. Now I'm not saying that I think every gay is shallow and who knows? Maybe when I get older and explore more, I'll see the more nicer side of the gay community but as of right now, no not really. I will say, a few of the older gay men i have met were pretty nice and accepting.

    But I don't know about the looks things. Straight people are like that too where they want you to look a certain way so it's about 50/50. I remember in a different post where someone said that the gay for pay straight guys who are used as gay models on sites and such have created a false image of what gay guys expect to see in another gay guy but only to find, it's not so much the reality. Or something like that and I do think that has somewhat of a play on a lot of gays views these days.

    So yeah, that's just my opinion. lol
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    Dec 22, 2012 9:00 PM GMT
    I don't know. But I do know that a lot of ya'll in here be ugly as shit...
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    Dec 22, 2012 9:03 PM GMT
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    jmusmc85 saidI don't know. But I do know that a lot of ya'll in here be ugly as shit...

    You such an idiot. (hug)


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    Dec 22, 2012 9:03 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    Narciso said#fruitlessgeneralizations

    Hm. These particular generalizations are being done BY fruits.


    Well now I just look silly then >=/
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    Dec 22, 2012 9:05 PM GMT
    Narciso said
    Aristoshark said
    Narciso said#fruitlessgeneralizations

    Hm. These particular generalizations are being done BY fruits.


    Well now I just look silly then >=/


    Thats like the apple calling the orange a fruit!!!

    See what I did there?!?!?icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 22, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    How can we gays be accused of being superficial? I know my s.o. and I care deeply about the major issues of the world. We focus only on what is vitally important in life. For instance:

    We make sure to warn valets not to get fingerprints on our car windows.
    We ask the gardener to make perfect little designs in the soil with his rake.
    We don't leave the house until we look absolutely perfect.
    We're in the gym numerous times each week honing our bods to perfection.
    We wouldn't eat a carb if our lives depended on it.
    We spend all day shopping for exactly the right tie to go with a shirt.
    We work hard on seating charts and place cards for every dinner.
    We get our hair cut and manis & pedis every week.
    Our dog has his own psychiatrist (for issues he deals with that are unpleasant).

    Superficial? How could we be accused of such a thing?


    Just a little satire - - don't take any of this seriously! Well, maybe two things......................................
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    Dec 22, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    Some gays do like that. Some gays don't.

    Generalizations are pointless because we are all different.
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    Dec 22, 2012 9:12 PM GMT
    It's not one or the other.
    There are very shallow people among gays and straights, and same goes for those with deep personalities.
    The only real difference between us and the straight guys is that we prefer dick. icon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 22, 2012 9:13 PM GMT
    It is a double edge sword. Gay guys can be very understanding or very cruel. It depends on how people decide to use the experiences they received. They can either try to be positive with it and move on or they can be very bitter. There are gay guys who are very mean and condescending.

    Gay culture focuses on beauty or look more so we tend to be bitchy. It depends on the type of person. It is hard to be a good person and most gay people get a lot of stress. Those who succumbs to the negative path will be bitter since it is harder to be a better person and to accept mistakes.