My mom told me to start dating older men

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    Dec 23, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    I mean, kudos on the acceptance part, but it's unexpected. Only thing is, I don't really find older men attractive. This will probably change with my own advancement, but to me, they have to be stunning for me to be interested physically.

    I apparently have no luck with guys around my age. So far, I've tried looking for young guys with an old heart and good head on their shoulders, and only seem to find guys I'm incompatible with emotionally, intellectually, and when I think I found those two things (along with physically) they're young enough to simply not know what they want in life, and run when it comes down to it.

    To be honest, I never thought about it until my mum said it.

    What say you, Internet?
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    Dec 23, 2012 4:19 AM GMT
    She might, but that's exactly why she watches prime time television shows to learn about the dangers of 24 year olds sleeping with older men approximately aged 42.
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    Dec 23, 2012 7:56 AM GMT
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    Why did she tell you this?
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    Dec 23, 2012 8:18 AM GMT
    If you're looking for a young guy with the maturity of an older guy, the chances are slim to none. Date an older guy or suffer in your loneliness.
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    Dec 23, 2012 8:23 AM GMT
    McQueen saidIf you're looking for a young guy with the maturity of an older guy, the chances are slim to none. Date an older guy or suffer in your loneliness.

    That's not true. I would believe that I am a young mature guy. But I am mostly attracted towards older guys (not those who are eligible to be my father).
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    Dec 23, 2012 8:27 AM GMT
    I like older guys, usually about 2-7 years older because they are stable, older, matured, experience in love ! I'm looking to settle down anyway !
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    Dec 23, 2012 9:49 AM GMT
    that is a smart a lot less drama and games it seems to me at least.

  • Dec 23, 2012 10:02 AM GMT
    There are young guys out there who are mature, just have to look in the right places icon_smile.gif don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Also you never know about older guys, you just haven't ran into one that takes your fancy. I use to think the same way but that's out the window now.
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    Dec 23, 2012 11:55 AM GMT
    dum_spiro_spero saidThere are young guys out there who are mature, just have to look in the right places icon_smile.gif don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Also you never know about older guys, you just haven't ran into one that takes your fancy. I use to think the same way but that's out the window now.


    yeah the fact that you are a young guy looking for something seriousicon_biggrin.gif should suggest, at least by probabilty, that you arn't the only one...I know a gay couple who have been together since they were 19.....they're still together 21 years later...it can happen.....with luck! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 23, 2012 11:57 AM GMT
    Older need not mean middle-aged. Would men 3-5 years older than your age still be attractive to you ?
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    Dec 23, 2012 6:10 PM GMT
    Maybe you should give it a shot. I mean who knows it might work. There are some attractive older men and they tend to want someone to settle down with. I know some guys who dated older men to get through college and they are still together.

    I've thought about it before myself. I can't do it but more power to you.
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    Dec 23, 2012 7:11 PM GMT
    She cray cray
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    Dec 23, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
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    Why did she tell you this?
    My sentiments exactly. Your mother sounds like a gold digger.


    Is that such a bad thing?
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    Dec 23, 2012 7:24 PM GMT
    What does she mean by "older?" 5 years? 10 years? How much older?
    Surely she doesn't intend for you to see men that fall into or over her age group?!!! That would seem REALLY odd... I mean, some people, indeed, are actively seeking that & props to 'em..!! Live and let live - I say!!... but, I think I'd rather date someone, seriously anyway, that's somewhere around 10 years of my age, either younger or older..,
    Generally speaking - I really don't want to date someone my Father's age nor my son's age... that person would have to be super special in numerous other facets, for me, to overcome that mental hurdle... but, that's just me...
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    Dec 23, 2012 7:28 PM GMT
    RoccoO saidWhat does she mean by "older?" 5 years? 10 years? How much older?
    Surely she doesn't intend for you to see men that fall into or over her age group?!!! That would seem REALLY odd... I mean, some people, indeed, are actively seeking that & props to 'em..!! Live and let live - I say!!... but, I think I'd rather date someone, seriously anyway, that's somewhere around 10 years of my age, either younger or older..,
    Generally speaking - I really don't want to date someone my Father's age nor my son's age... that person would have to be super special in numerous other facets, for me, to overcome that mental hurdle... but, that's just me...


    I'm the same way. I have issues with my own age and I couldn't date a mature man unless he was one of those forty year olds who honestly never stopped being twenty.
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    Dec 23, 2012 7:35 PM GMT
    Just keep putting yourself into positive environments where you can meet guys you find attractive. Meetup groups are great. Social and safe.
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    Dec 24, 2012 2:14 AM GMT
    I'm not here to do some kind of expository on my mother. She ain't no gold digger. Can't be. She's with my dad.
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    I think she meant five to ten years older, which for me seems about right.

    Last guy I dated was 21.


    And what the fuck is a bussy bill?

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    Dec 24, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    makavelli said
    I think she meant five to ten years older, which for me seems about right.

    And what the fuck is a bussy bill?


    Five to ten years older means that they would be in the 30 to 35 range right? My absolute favorite age bracket! Guys right around there are just perfectly aged, so definitely give them a try.

    For the second thing, I suggest you try urban dictionary.
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    Dec 24, 2012 2:33 AM GMT
    makavelli saidI'm not here to do some kind of expository on my mother. She ain't no gold digger. Can't be. She's with my dad.
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    I think she meant five to ten years older, which for me seems about right.

    Last guy I dated was 21.


    And what the fuck is a bussy bill?



    Bussy is an abbreviation for boy pussy or booty and pussy.
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    Dec 24, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    Older guys are more mature emotionally. 20 yr old something always just want to screw around

    Just saying'
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    Dec 24, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
    JOOU saidOlder guys are more mature emotionally. 20 yr old something always just want to screw around

    Just saying'


    You're wrong. Just sayin'.
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    Dec 24, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
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    JOOU saidOlder guys are more mature emotionally. 20 yr old something always just want to screw around

    Just saying'


    You're wrong. Just sayin'.


    He's not far off. Just saying.
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    Dec 24, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Hawk_Guy13 said
    JOOU saidOlder guys are more mature emotionally. 20 yr old something always just want to screw around

    Just saying'


    You're wrong. Just sayin'.


    He's not far off. Just saying.


    An emotionally mature/stable person is an emotionally mature/stable person independent of age, so in this respect he is very wrong. Being messed up in the head, and I've seen my fair share of basket cases, doesn't get better with just age. It takes therapy, meds, or both. The screwing around aspect might be more applicable, but I know from experience that there is no shortage of men in their early 20s (sometimes younger) that want and pursue an earnest relationship with someone else.

    Therefore, based my own experience I feel that his conclusion is not highly representative of the people in my age bracket.
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    Dec 24, 2012 3:15 AM GMT
    kangourou saidOlder need not mean middle-aged.

    Oh, dear, never thought of myself as "middle-aged."
    Guess I'll just curl up and wait to be old. icon_lol.gif

    Hawk_Guy may be right. There have been various posts even on RJ of young ones frustrated at not being able to have a serious relationship with someone their age.

    To be fair, that (and more) seems to be a common problem at any age group. I've also seen on RJ the discussions of "tired of being single" with 50 people responding that there is no one to date (not even each other? Though on-line I suppose adds the additional dimension of distance).

    Let's face it: we're all picky.
    Sometimes it may be the result of standards we value.
    Other times because of our own fears and insecurities -- not giving someone a chance.
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    Dec 24, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    or, you know, could just do what you want.