Do You Ever Feel That Being Gay Makes You Consider Things Differently? (Regarding Male Actions)

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    Dec 23, 2012 7:35 PM GMT
    I was just wondering if anyone ever felt this way. You know, when a guy that you now meet (not from a place you'd expect to meet gay guys like gay bar etc.) kind of gives you a generic type of physical greeting, but you feel as if there could be something more, but you don't know. Maybe taking a straight guy's actions towards you and thinking more of it than it really is?

    Do you ever feel like we're robbed from being able to appreciate those gestures without ever thinking that "there could be something more there"?
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    Dec 23, 2012 10:27 PM GMT
    Well.. Being gay has made me see things in a different perspective. If I were straight I wouldn't give a damn about other people.. At least.. Not much.

    Okay that was badly written, I suppose being gay has made me see things more deeply than I ever would if I were straight. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 23, 2012 10:33 PM GMT
    I like kissing and hugging other gay guys when we meet at social events or when it's time to leave.
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    Dec 23, 2012 10:34 PM GMT
    Straight Guys DO NOT want to have sex with you.

    Do you get THAT????

    STRAIGHT Guys may give You a Hug and maybe have a shower with you at the gym BUT THEY DO NOT WANT you...

    K??????
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    Dec 23, 2012 10:36 PM GMT
    Cash saidStraight Guys DO NOT want to have sex with you.

    Do you get THAT????

    STRAIGHT Guys may give You a Hug and maybe have a shower with you at the gym BUT THEY DO NOT WANT you...

    K??????
    You're obviously hanging around the wrong "straight" guys. icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 24, 2012 12:17 AM GMT
    OneSongGlory said
    Do you ever feel like we're robbed from being able to appreciate those gestures without ever thinking that "there could be something more there"?

    This is perhaps the most difficult part of being gay for me. When straight guys shake hands, give "bro hugs" or smile at each other there is generally nothing there beyond kindness or friendship. Now, if a woman shakes a straight guys hand or hugs him, there is "potential", or a stirring of feelings as a possible outcome. For me, hugs, smiles and female attention does absolutely nothing for me beyond loving friendship. However, when a male smiles at me, shakes my hand or gives a hug, the feelings are way more intense and the inclination is to immediately begin looking at him as a potential mate/lover. Unfortunately, I have probably scared the hell out of more than a few straight guys that could have been great friends because of this. Every time I meet a guy I have to repeat to myself constantly, "They are straight, not every man is gay". If I do that, it seems to be a little easier, but not much.
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    Dec 24, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    LOL............if they are straight then why should you think anything sexually with them? That is one problem with some people....they just over think too much.
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    Dec 24, 2012 1:18 AM GMT
    Nope. No sense in dwelling on every tiny action that happens between you and another guy.
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    Dec 24, 2012 1:31 AM GMT
    I think that because straight guys know I'm gay, that they constantly fantasize about fucking me in the ass behind their girlfriends' backs. I am continually on guard against straight guys hitting on me. Especially in a professional setting.

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    Dec 24, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    Cash saidStraight Guys DO NOT want to have sex with you.

    Do you get THAT????

    STRAIGHT Guys may give You a Hug and maybe have a shower with you at the gym BUT THEY DO NOT WANT you...

    K??????


    I have the opposite view. The fact that they are straight and we are gay, I think that they want us moar. Yet, they are generally "straight fit", which of course means that they are "gay fat", which means that we want them less.

    Does this make any sense?




























    I hope not, because it's total bullshit.

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    Dec 24, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    Perserverance saidLOL............if they are straight then why should you think anything sexually with them? That is one problem with some people....they just over think too much.


    this post is almost too dumb to respond to... almost

    the point is that we don't know if they are straight. even if they are married, they may not be straight.

    and it's not about "think anything sexually with them" (nice job with the English), but instead that there might be something that could come from the two of you.. a date, a relationship, a kiss, whatever.

    finally, id hardly describe wishing that there might be something between another guy to be "over think too much" (again, nice grammatical touch). id call it human nature
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    Dec 24, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    I didn't mean for this to turn into "OMG straight guy touched me that means hes gay!" Rather it's supposed to be about how gay guys may not be able to just take it as just that and that we may always have that little thought in our head of "maybe" and that we're kind of cheated out that way to take a typical male gesture and think something more out of it.
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    Dec 24, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    "Arm around my shoulder and he knows I'm gay. OMG he wants to be my boyfriend!"

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    Dec 24, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    Y'know what's awesome? Hanging around a straight guy who knows you're gay and still feels comfortable enough in himself and in his friendship to show affection without fear.

    Y'know why a straight guy WOULDN'T feel comfortable around another gay guy? Pretty much for the reasons listed here.

    Treat straight guys with respect, especially the ones that are treating you with respect. Learn how to relate to another man without thinking about fucking him. The world doesn't need any more guys "like that."
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    Dec 24, 2012 6:44 AM GMT
    OneSongGlory saidthat we're kind of cheated out that way to take a typical male gesture and think something more out of it.


    What makes you think straight guys aren't thinking more of it?
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    Dec 24, 2012 6:58 AM GMT
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    OneSongGlory saidthat we're kind of cheated out that way to take a typical male gesture and think something more out of it.


    What makes you think straight guys aren't thinking more of it?


    Well I don't know, the fact that they say they're straight so I guess there is nothing more than a friendly physical gesture.