I can't read the signs, grrr

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    Sep 17, 2008 8:04 PM GMT
    So I went on a first date today with a cute yet somewhat quirky guy. I liked him I think I made that clear but I dunno. I had my hand touch his ever so slightly while walking a few times, and looked at him close hoping for a kiss. I didn't know his feelings so I didn't wanna go for it.

    He gave me a slight affectionate tickle at one point and we hugged when we were done. He said "it was fun, we should do this again"

    Dammit I wanna know if he likes me like that or just as friends, grrr.
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    Sep 17, 2008 9:01 PM GMT
    Ask him on another date soon. If he backs off then chances are he is only lukewarm. If he is keen then you know he is interested.
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    Sep 17, 2008 9:06 PM GMT
    At least he did not say f* off
  • EricLA

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    Sep 17, 2008 9:19 PM GMT
    SurrealLife saidAsk him on another date soon. If he backs off then chances are he is only lukewarm. If he is keen then you know he is interested.


    Agreed. If you liked him, you should have set the second date immediately. Do it ASAP.
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    Sep 17, 2008 9:20 PM GMT
    People tickle nowadays! I must have been out of service for longer than I thought! Wow, tickling!

    He could just be taking it slow, so ask him out on another date. If you haven't had some form of kiss by the third date then he probably likes you as a friend.
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    Sep 17, 2008 9:26 PM GMT
    Ghen saidPeople tickle nowadays! I must have been out of service for longer than I thought! Wow, tickling!


    LOL it wasn't like a full on tickling session or anything. It was kinda just like that sweet tickle/poke kinda thing. I dunno you know it if its happened. Anyways, I think he is cute but kinda quirky so I might just let him ask me out I dunno if I'll make the move.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 17, 2008 9:48 PM GMT
    I dunno about you but I don't "tickle" guys I just met when I go on dates and there's no chemistry
    But mebe that's just me

    When you hugged like you said you should have lingered there for awhile
    He would have gotten the point and if he didn't respond you got your answer

  • D972

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    Sep 17, 2008 9:52 PM GMT
    He's probably just a shy as you. Its really nice to hear about that type of dating. I think you're definitely in the game. Won't be long until you are chewing his gum. icon_smile.gif Be bolder, kiss the man.
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    Sep 17, 2008 11:29 PM GMT
    Felt like this would be appropriate:

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    Sep 18, 2008 2:50 AM GMT
    Um, like why would a "Hippie4Life"
    want to be seen with not only a Hummer,
    but a 20-feet-long Hummer at that, and
    choose to make it his only pic no less?

    Can't read signs, sends mixed signals.

    [ shakes head like a baffled baboon ]
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    Sep 18, 2008 4:27 PM GMT
    GQjock saidI dunno about you but I don't "tickle" guys I just met when I go on dates and there's no chemistry
    But mebe that's just me



    true, eh time will tell
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    Sep 18, 2008 4:33 PM GMT
    Mate if you think you got it tough...I have never detected any guy look at me in an interested sort of way!!! I just have no perception of it. I hear these stories of guys connecting at the gym or shopping but I just dont see it. Either I'm hellish ugly or my detection system is wired up wrong lol. Thanks be' for sites like this, thats all I can say!
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    Sep 18, 2008 4:54 PM GMT

    Short of trying to bone you, I think he did just about all he could do. What else did you want: a kiss? Were you expecting it with or without tongue?

    LOL, I remember I went out with this guy once. We were sooo into eachother, but were trying to be good, but obviously we aren't used to holding out because we did everything, but sleep together: we pawed eachother severely in the movie theatre, didn't get naked but he did unzip and I did have my shirt half off (poor people sitting next to us!), then we made out in his car and in the park, I gave him a hand job (just a small one), but I DID NOT HAVE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE WITH THAT MAN.

    And what did I gain by not hooking up? Not a damn thing, after a cold shower and several weeks of waiting, it became clear that he doesn't go on second dates with boys who don't put out.icon_neutral.gif

    .....fuck, he was a cutie too.
  • SanEsteban

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    Sep 18, 2008 5:04 PM GMT
    Ask that man out again and soon! I think it is totally sweet! You were both being cautious and I think he was likely as into you as you were into him. You were just both playing it safe. Go for it man! I think you may have caught a keeper! Maybe you can help me find a keeper too! LOL