Sugar Daddies

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    Sep 17, 2008 9:59 PM GMT
    Why is it that some younger guys, like myself, are attracted to guys that can be anywhere from 5, 10, 15, to even 20 years older than ourselves??? Anyone else share this attraction? Is it because older guys are more mature and experience, unlike many guys our own age, or another reason? Let me know what you think...
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    Sep 17, 2008 10:39 PM GMT
    If you only knew how many times I have asked myself this question! I just learned to accept the fact icon_biggrin.gif. I love my partner icon_biggrin.gif. I have a pic on my profile of us. One thing though, he is NOT my sugardaddy!!!
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    Sep 17, 2008 10:54 PM GMT
    You're not describing a Sugar Daddy--just an attraction to older men. A Sugar Daddy is "A wealthy, usually older man who gives expensive gifts to a young person in return for sexual favors or companionship."...which kinda makes you a whore.
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    Sep 17, 2008 11:01 PM GMT
    1969er saidYou're not describing a Sugar Daddy--just an attraction to older men. A Sugar Daddy is "A wealthy, usually older man who gives expensive gifts to a young person in return for sexual favors or companionship."...which kinda makes you a whore.


    icon_lol.gif LMAO!!!! You are so very right!
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    Sep 17, 2008 11:04 PM GMT
    How about 28 years older? LOL And why is it always the 6'--3" guys that hit me up.



    Why is it that some younger guys, like myself, are attracted to guys that can be anywhere from 5, 10, 15, to even 20 years older than ourselves??? Anyone else share this attraction? Is it because older guys are more mature and experience, unlike many guys our own age, or another reason? Let me know what you think...[/quote]
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    Sep 17, 2008 11:04 PM GMT
    Sometimes i wish i had a sugar daddy, haha it'd be nice to (not that i ever would)

    But i do like to date older guys.. not ancient.. but prefer the company of guys whom are older. Limit for me dating wise would be like 10 years maybe 15 if a good reason, but guys my age tend to be immature and stupid, not characteristics i'd give for myself. Physically older guys have had the time to build their bodies.. i like bigger muscle guys so going older tends to be my only option. I'm not complaining.. just wish there were more and who also like them kinda smaller.

    Its mostly the maturity level, i like to find something that matches
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    Sep 17, 2008 11:12 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidHow about 28 years older? LOL And why is it always the 6'--3" guys that hit me up.



    Why is it that some younger guys, like myself, are attracted to guys that can be anywhere from 5, 10, 15, to even 20 years older than ourselves??? Anyone else share this attraction? Is it because older guys are more mature and experience, unlike many guys our own age, or another reason? Let me know what you think...
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    My partner is 25 Y/Older than me icon_biggrin.gif.
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    Sep 17, 2008 11:13 PM GMT

    I think there are lots of things that form a relationship or keep us from forming one.

    If you're on RealJock to find lust, then do your thing and move on to the next guy. You're focused on looks whether you lust after the hot 24 year old or the hot 45 year old. It's lust.

    Some guys look for many things in a partner, including lust, but with less focus on Mr. Right having the most killer body they've ever seen. Sometimes it is the ability to do those things in life at age 24 that the typical guy can't do if at all till age 50....due to lack of money, that solidifies the relationship. So some younger guys (an older too) look for a guy who does not mind sharing those things in life they can not afford. Like a trip to Craftsteak once a week to eat wagyu..

    Fortunately or unfortunately I have partnered with men whose income was dramatically less than mine, though likely average. My attitude has been "don't expect me to move into the 1200 square foot home and park my cars in the street just so you can feel like we're both carrying the financial load." That sucks. That sucks and it is bullshit. Does that make me a Sugar Daddy? If so, so be it. I am not giving up ass or a large home.

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    Sep 17, 2008 11:16 PM GMT
    My boyfriend is 13 yrs younger than me. He has only dated older men because he is attracted to our maturity and all that comes with it. But by no means am I his sugar daddy. Hell, I'm a teacher and he's in grad school- if I'm a sugar daddy, he's in dire trouble!
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    Sep 17, 2008 11:26 PM GMT
    I had a friend who told me he was attracted to older men. I used to tell him that he was really attracted to older money!
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    Sep 17, 2008 11:37 PM GMT
    I don't think it is based on maturity, but I do think it is nice to date people that don't live at their parents' house. It is also nice to be seeing someone who has enough money to go out and do things. Older men seem to be more able to date.

    More than anything else though, I think that I appreciated the body and looks of a man. I loved the five o' clock shadow and defined features that really only come with age. I don't believe that age really corresponds to maturity levels or emotional availability whatsoever. I really think that I dated older men because they were easy to please and didn't expect very much out of me at all.
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    Sep 17, 2008 11:40 PM GMT
    same here...i've always been attracted to and have dated older guys. my first bf was 42; I was 15. It is maturity for the most part I think. Older men tend to be more experienced, but I do think that there is an underlying craving to be the object...to be the boy. He's older, so he can mentor and advise on things that he has already experienced that you may just be going through. Older guys, when they are worked out and emotionally secure, I have found to be amazing lovers and friends.
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    Sep 18, 2008 12:30 AM GMT
    I'm typically attracted to guys that i find to be more masculine than myself, and that is almost always an older guy. I don't know the reasons behind it but it certainly can be a good thing icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 18, 2008 12:34 AM GMT
    Mature men I love... Sugar daddies not so much...

    Your talkin Mature men bud.
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    Sep 18, 2008 12:35 AM GMT
    original714 saidI'm typically attracted to guys that i find to be more masculine than myself, and that is almost always an older guy. I don't know the reasons behind it but it certainly can be a good thing icon_biggrin.gif


    Yeah i'm like that too. I can't stand feeling like the man in the relationship. I like to be the wife.... icon_eek.gif

    Holy crap... i'm the chick in the relationship....icon_redface.gif
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    Sep 18, 2008 1:12 AM GMT
    My last partner was 20 years older, but very much the little boy, and I the "daddy," which made for some interesting dynamics. icon_smile.gif And while I did like being the 20 year younger daddy, I missed the feeling of being taken care of myself by a source of strength. And as a gay boy who wasn't very connected w/ my real "daddy" and didn't get all the daddying I probably needed, there was probably a similarity/familiarity w/ my older partner that fit the model. Needless to say, the relationship ended.

    But, I wonder if the relationship w/ our real dads kinda has us interested in getting and living out what we didn't get as kids - to feel a strong male nurturance..? To feel taken care of by an older "daddy"? Maybe this sounds obvious, eh? icon_smile.gif

    Plus, there's a power dynamic at play between younger and older guys. Youth is so desirable for many reasons (more libido, an older man's longing for youth through association, a substitute for a son, mentorship, generativity, etc) that the younger person has power for the older; the younger of the two also experiences this position of power and might feel more secure that he is in the driver's seat in the relationship, so there is less fear of being rejected or abandoned by the older partner, thereby making it kind of a win-win relationship in that respect..?

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    Sep 18, 2008 2:36 AM GMT
    uggghhh... I meant mature guys everyone, just to let ya'll know. I am not a whore and don't do sexual favors for older men... my bad let me re-phrase that, 'OLDER, MORE MATURE MEN.' hah hah, sorry for the misunderstanding...
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    Sep 18, 2008 2:47 AM GMT
    Tisk tisk tisk; i'm younger than most guys here, yet i would like to think of myself as mature. *sigh* nobody ever gives the young boys a chance... icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 18, 2008 4:19 AM GMT
    It's physical and emotional for me. I like mature guys emotionally, and eyes with a past tell me there is a lot of character. I think relationships are about creating a new segment of your life, and having someone with an experienced (not just sexually) past really adds something positive to the mix. Young guys for me are "cute" while older guys are "attractive."
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    Sep 18, 2008 3:09 PM GMT
    looknrnd saidYoung guys for me are "cute" while older guys are "attractive."


    Wow, well said!

    You must see lots of mature men in Palm springs I bet! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 18, 2008 3:27 PM GMT
    I've recently realized that a fair amount of younger guys (early 20s) have been contacting me and initiating conversations. My response generally ends up something like this " you do know how old I am right?" and interestingly enough, they all say yep. I've begun to find it flattering, since I like younger guys than myself but early 20s might be a little much. Most do seem to favor the "more mature" rather than the "sugar daddy", which right now is a good thing 'cause this sugar daddy is low on sugar! LOL
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    Sep 18, 2008 3:45 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidI've recently realized that a fair amount of younger guys (early 20s) have been contacting me and initiating conversations.


    I can see why! and its definitely not because you like to play with that monkey icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 18, 2008 6:04 PM GMT
    brooklynsfinest saidsame here...i've always been attracted to and have dated older guys. my first bf was 42; I was 15.


    I mean no offence to you, brooklyn, but I find this comment hauntingly disturbing. This borders on child abuse -- and you know if the authorities would have found out about it, that's how it would have been pursued, even if it was consentual on your part. Let's face it, if your 15 year-old sister was dating a 42 year old, you'd tell SOMEONE what was going on, if not beat the crap out of the guy. And if the "he" had been a "she" dating a 15 year old...well, does the name Mary Kay Latourneau ring a bell? Why is it OK for two men to engage in intergenerational sex when the younger one isn't even out of high school, but it is considered child abuse/statuatory rape when one of the integenerational parties is a woman? What "gold pass" do older gay men get to justify this?

    While he may not have harmed you emotionally or physically, the fact that this man was seemingly unable to make emotional attachments to someone his own age is a MAJOR red flag. Now that's not to say that a 27 year age gap couldn't work...IF you had been in your 20's yourself. But you were not of age to drive, vote, enlist or drink. You probably still lived at home with your family. You were still in high school. I don't blame you -- he was the adult, he should have known better. I can even understand why you were in awe of the attention he gave you. I just can't help but think that he was a bit preditorial about it. I just hope there were no lasting "scars" from it.
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    Sep 18, 2008 6:30 PM GMT
    Kozmeka said
    Wow, well said!

    You must see lots of mature men in Palm springs I bet! icon_biggrin.gif


    Kozmeka, in Palm Springs, I'M "chicken"! icon_lol.gif
  • OptimusMatt

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    Sep 18, 2008 6:51 PM GMT
    I do tend to find older men attractive, but after my last relationship I've really had to re-evaluate. I'm pretty mature (then again, everyone my age ALWAYS says that) but the fact remains that I am still a 24 y o student who likes to do 24 y o student things. At times I'm incredibly self-absorbed and I'm not particularly interested in changing that anytime soon. Plus, while I may share common interests with someone who's older, the fact is that there is a world of difference between us - I'm not buying a house anytime soon, for example. I've had the option of dating a hot, masculine guy in his mid-thirties who was pretty much as close to John Holmes handyman as I'll ever meet (and he's a fireman, and we totally fucked around in a firetruck, hehe) but there was just too much separating us for me to really feel a connection.
    At this point, I want a guy around my own age that I can do the things I do with my best friends, but I get to fuck as well. Hehe.
    Though I will say that older guys tend to really k ow how to fuck/get fucked, which is nice, cause I'm very good at both, and most of the guys my age are pretty 1950's missionary-stylesque, and timid as fuck. You won't find me at the centre of a gang bang, lol, but at least I know how to. :-D