Job Interview and your sexuality.

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    Dec 24, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    Do you tell about your sexuality if something related to your personal life is asked? Like I have been asked whether you have a girlfriend etc as I was about to move to a new place and they wanted to see how much baggage I come with.
    In my case since I moved all the way from India to Spain, I have been asked such questions a lot of time like why you moved here, did you have gf etc?

    I am bit skeptical in answering such questions when I really want to have that job as I am afraid that guy may be some homophobe, which may or may not be true. Obviously if they reject you they won't explain the reason but just that you weren't the perfect fit. Again it may be true or not. I hope you guys get the idea of skepticism. How do you handle such situation?
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    Dec 24, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    I have never been asked about my sexuality in an interview. Questions like those have no place in any career industry because your sexuality doesn't equate to an excellent job performance. Experience, motivation, talent and perseverance are what matters in a career.
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    Dec 24, 2012 8:27 PM GMT
    I dunno about where you live but in Canada it's against the law for them to ask personal questions like that.
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    Dec 24, 2012 8:34 PM GMT
    Just say 'No Gf's' and always try to respond back with another question like, 'why, does it make a difference in getting the job?." If they pursue it, it is better to be up front about it, or risk working in a place you will eventually grow to hate .. move on to the next interview.
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    Dec 24, 2012 8:56 PM GMT
    Last job I got was actually because of my sexuality.. it was a lotta fun until I was caught icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 24, 2012 9:26 PM GMT
    Same in the US.. it's illegal to ask questions about your sexual orientation or marital status. I mean, they can probably figure out the latter if they see or don't see a wedding ring on your hand.

    But in your situation, just say you're single and leave it at that.
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    Dec 24, 2012 11:20 PM GMT
    You have to look at the surrounding conditions when the question is asked... They might want to know if you are involved due to the relocating aspect (some companies will support your spouse in finding a job - especially where relocation is concerned).

    Should they ask you if you have a gf, you can always reply with: "I am involved yes" or "No".

    If they specifically ask about your sexuality, you should ask what your sexuality has to do with the job, as competence and ability does not depend on one being gay or straight.

    As per the above posts, it is illegal to ask a question of that nature in a lot of countries (including SA).

    But, also consider the implication of your answer... If you really want the job - the best option might be to lie... (They can not dismiss you due to sexuality later on, as it would be bias and discriminatory). Usually you should be able to sense the vibe of the company and management by the way the interview is structured.

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    Dec 24, 2012 11:28 PM GMT
    I doubt the interviewer would ask anyone that question unless that person is flaming. But then again, why would the interviewer ask if that person is that obvious. The interview would ask just for confirmation of what he or she already has in mind.
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    Dec 25, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    I worked at a place where my sexuality was an issue. I'm not obvious, but people usually figure it out after a while. For the last 6 months of working at this firm, I had to put up with daily insults like the owner calling me "twinkle toes" and his fat, disgusting nephew asking if my "thong" was too tight. (WTF is up with that?! And at a law firm?!) It was the most demeaning experience in my life. Since then, I decided to let it be known up front that I'm gay . (E.g., I will list the gay bar association on my resume.) If they don't call me in for a job interview because of it -- fuck 'em. I'd rather not get the job that put up with that crap again.
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    Dec 25, 2012 12:26 AM GMT
    sharpcrayon1989 saidI doubt the interviewer would ask anyone that question unless that person is flaming. But then again, why would the interviewer ask if that person is that obvious. The interview would ask just for confirmation of what he or she already has in mind.


    To make the gay guy feel uncomfortable, screw up the interview, and show that he didn't seem professional enough for the job.
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    Dec 25, 2012 12:35 AM GMT
    I prefer a workplace that keeps personal matters at home. Every job I interviewed for never really focuses on personal issues. I did interview with one place that placed an emphasis on family, which meant I didn't want to be there. I rather keep my co-workers just as is. I don't need to socialize with my co-workers unless its for the occasional event or holiday celebration.
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    Dec 25, 2012 1:05 AM GMT
    Henri_jhb saidYou have to look at the surrounding conditions when the question is asked... They might want to know if you are involved due to the relocating aspect (some companies will support your spouse in finding a job - especially where relocation is concerned).


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    Yeah mostly this is the reason for the whole inquiry. They want to make sure whether I am up for relocating or not.

    Its not that their first question is tell me your sexuality. Its during the whole process they try to assess my relocation tendency and willingness.
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    Dec 25, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    raginraider12 saidI prefer a workplace that keeps personal matters at home.
    Tell those heterosexual bitches to never mention their husbands/wives or their kids then.
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    Dec 25, 2012 1:18 AM GMT
    McQueen said
    raginraider12 saidI prefer a workplace that keeps personal matters at home.
    Tell those heterosexual bitches to never mention their husbands/wives or their kids then.

    So true. I had to participate in marriages/child birth of so many colleagues knowing that I won't be getting anything in return in near or far future. I contributed towards buying presents etc so that I don't appear unsocial and uncultured.