THE INFAMOUS HIGH SCHOOL REUNIONS: The "Geek" departed, what shows up?

  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 18, 2008 1:54 AM GMT
    Well here we go here. I have 2 reunions coming up this weekend and next.
    The one next weekend is a college reunion dealing with Homecoming events and as I was a homecoming royalty, I have some duties and will be seeing alot of people. The college reunions are fun and I always enjoy them since I was involved in many activities and really grew up while there.

    But this weekend is a high school reunion. Now my high school experience I'd rank as about average. I was a little kid, a geek, an honor student, very quiet... I think you get the idea. Maybe 5'9" and 155 when I left the place.
    Sometimes I have to tell my classmates who I am when I see them..
    Its the usual high school thing.. the jocks were studs, the geeks were not.
    Previous reunions I haven't attended because of law school and other conflicts. I had 86 people in my graduating class.

    I am having a little "divided" opinion within myself as to this event. My bf
    stated today, "You know you want to go and show those people what you've accomplished and what you look like these days, there will be bald and fat... and then there will be you"....

    I don't think so, as I told him, "I don't need to prove anything to anyone,
    I think I'm beyond that kind of stuff". I still wonder if that geek, gone long ago will reemerge and I'll become uncomfortable... I don't think so. I think the best thing to do is to be friendly, laugh and have a great time.

    The question: WHAT DO YOU DO WITH YOUR HS REUNIONS???
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    Sep 18, 2008 4:35 AM GMT
    Handsome man, be yourself. You left a great impression on me, and if that's what your classmates see (which is really you, right?) they'll stumble over themselves to be your pal.
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Sep 18, 2008 4:43 AM GMT
    I think what you do is entirely up to you. There are plenty of reasons you might want to go: if you're curious about "What ever happened to..."; if you've been meaning to see one of your old high school buddies for a while and haven't; if you feel like showing off; if you've just got nothing better to do that evening; if you think you'll wonder what it would have been like if you don't go. There are just as many reasons not to go, of course. I'd say if you're really unsure, plan to go for an hour or so, and then decide at that point whether it's interesting enough to stay or if you and the bf would rather go do something else.

    My class hasn't had a reunion yet (I was class of 1999, so the 10 year one is coming up next year), but I have to say, I don't see it as likely that I'll attend. For one, I no longer live near my hometown. Driving 6 hours each way in order to go to a high school reunion seems like it might not be worth it. If I happen to be in town visiting my Dad anyway, that might change things. For another, most of the friends I actually spent time without outside of the classroom itself weren't in my graduating class, so I wouldn't be seeing them anyway.

    And, for what it's worth, I don't think 5'9 and 155 is too geeky at high school graduation. I, on the other hand, was 5'11 and 135 at high school graduation.
  • mikeeugene

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    Sep 18, 2008 4:49 AM GMT
    I almost skipped my reunion, but I happened to be in town and had a great time. My old girlfriend ended up lesbian and one of the quiet "geeky" guys turned HOT. The best, though, was the prim and proper girl who wrote in her profile that she is now a performance artist at leather events. She arrived wearing leather, heels, and corn rows, with her "boytoy" in tow. Just for reference, I'm from a small town in Idaho.
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    Sep 18, 2008 5:18 AM GMT
    Your old girlfriend ended up a lesbian and you're posting on a gay fitness site. I'm guessing it didn't end very well? icon_wink.gif
  • mikeeugene

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    Sep 18, 2008 5:22 AM GMT
    She and I had a lot of fun, but clearly were both looking for something else in the relationship.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 18, 2008 11:19 AM GMT
    I think it would be fun to go just to re-connect wiht alot of the ppl you might have lost touch with.
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    Sep 18, 2008 12:09 PM GMT
    small and geeky @ 5'9" and 155??? I'd give for 5'9"... try being 5'5" and 125 in high school.

    Reunions are fun! If you truly are 'beyond all that stuff'... then go! If you ain't, just leave the attitude at home and go anyway icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 18, 2008 12:17 PM GMT
    If anything it would be a good chance to go out with your BF and have a great date. Plan something in case the reunion is a bust. I went to mine with my partner, walked out after an hour, but I knew a great sea food place near by so we walked in and had a great dinner and a great conversation about our high school years.
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    Sep 18, 2008 1:36 PM GMT
    5'9 and 155lbs? try being 5'7 and 180 at the start of highschool and then 5'8 and 120 at the end. Yours sound like my ideal weight.

    I'm so lucky, the French never do highschool reunions so I'll never have to see that bunch of losers again!
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    Sep 18, 2008 1:39 PM GMT
    Yeah, you need to go. Like es2577 did, you could always see the people you want and leave when you want if it's a drag. My 20th HS reunion was last year and I had a blast. And it doesn't hurt when you look better than most of the married dudes that let themselves go!
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    Sep 18, 2008 2:05 PM GMT
    Have a cocktail prior to attending, loosen up and just relax. Then be the star of the show.And tell the women who are tripping all over each other to get to you that you have a BF and watch their reactions. Have fun Bud!
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    Sep 18, 2008 2:32 PM GMT
    I went to my 5th year (1980) and my 25th year (2000). I'm now done.

    In high school, I wasn't a geek so much as an 'invisible'. I was 6' 145 when I graduated. A small group of friends, not popular, not socially sophisticated, not athletic, and academically average (at best).

    By the time of my first reunion, I was a party boy at Studio 54 (every Thursday night at high season), very metropolitan in taste, attitude without being snobby, not full of myself so much as happy that I was able to hang with the glitterati, I had learned to never outwardly express 'being impressed with anything or anyone, I saw my life at that time as 'loads of fun' but totally without value. At the reunion, I felt I hadn't really changed much and I wanted to see all the great things that all those people that I looked up to had accomplished. Virtually everyone I'd expected to have done great things, had in fact, simply settled down to simple family life. (While I appreciate that now, I was very disappointed at the time.) I ended up the center of attention because of my life at the time. While I relished the attention because of the diametric perspective from high school, I still felt it was shallow and meaningless. My actual day to day existence was one or two steps below 'unremarkable'.

    20 years later: 25th reunion. I took my (ex) partner of 8 years at the time. I was very 'out' (not flamboyant - but direct). Best moment: my partner was talking to the wife of one of my classmates.
    She said to him, "I don't know anyone here, do you."
    "No, I didn't go to this school."
    "Oh did you come with your wife?"
    "Yes" pointing at me and not missing a beat "That would be him."
    Now I got to see people in a different light. It was really interesting with lots of surprises. None that I would have expected. (e.g. former stoner who became an underwater welder on nuclear facilities.) Because of the pain and tragedy that I had delt with in my life since the previous reunion, my perspective of myself as well as others had changed dramatically.

    I'm glad I went to both of them, but I feel no need to go back again.

  • dhinkansas

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    Sep 18, 2008 2:49 PM GMT
    I went to one (15th) and it was the same ridiculous cliques as in the high school cafeteria. No desire to partake in that anymore. But, a lot of people like reunion events, so I can respect that, so I hope you have a good time!
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    Sep 18, 2008 4:06 PM GMT
    There is no shame, Kansan, in showing everybody that the wimpy, unremarkable, utterly invisible kid turned out to be worth noticing after all. I missed my 10-year reunion several years ago, and I actually do regret it. Not because I missed a chance to show them all how fabulous I've become (well, that too, of course icon_razz.gif), but because since missing the reunion, I've taken the time to reconnect with some old classmates via Facebook, and I'm constantly intrigued and awed at how we've all turned out, who we've become, etc. It's pretty cool to realize that me and the one-time mean popular badass jock wanted similar things in life, and that the bubble-brained cheerleader ended up being a real human being - and fun to talk to - after all. Who knew?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 18, 2008 4:14 PM GMT
    zdrew saidThere is no shame, Kansan, in showing everybody that the wimpy, unremarkable, utterly invisible kid turned out to be worth noticing after all. I missed my 10-year reunion several years ago, and I actually do regret it. Not because I missed a chance to show them all how fabulous I've become (well, that too, of course), but because since missing the reunion, I've taken the time to reconnect with some old classmates via Facebook, and I'm constantly intrigued and awed at how we've all turned out, who we've become, etc. It's pretty cool to realize that me and the one-time mean popular badass jock wanted similar things in life, and that the bubble-brained cheerleader ended up being a real human being - and fun to talk to - after all.


    LOL, hey, I said I was a geek, I never said I was wimpy, unremarkable or utterly invisible.....I would say I was a tad wimpy...... I remember a girl from our class who said about 5 years ago.... "God you've bloomed"... that was really weird.
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    Sep 18, 2008 4:33 PM GMT


    EVERYONE has changed, not just you. Get over yourself. Just because someone is physically less than they were in high school or better than ever...it only scratches the surface of their true value and that realization is what should separate you from your high school self.

    Collectively we went through an important milestone in our lives. If I knew then what I know now, of course I would change things... I think we all would.
    I have nothing to prove to those I haven't seen in 20 years but I do wish them well.

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    Sep 18, 2008 4:40 PM GMT
    I went to my first 10 year HS reunion this summer. I was not the only one who had changed, but there were many who were still the same as they were then. Not all my friends attended, which was a let down, but I generally got along with everyone in my class. I went as myself, took my god-daughter, age 2, with me, and reconnected with people I hadn't seen or heard from in all those years.
    What ever you decide, I'm sure it will be the right decision for you at this time.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 18, 2008 4:46 PM GMT
    mnjock2003 said

    EVERYONE has changed, not just you. Get over yourself. Just because someone is physically less than they were in high school or better than ever...it only scratches the surface of their true value and that realization is what should separate you from your high school self.

    Collectively we went through an important milestone in our lives. If I knew then what I know now, of course I would change things... I think we all would.
    I have nothing to prove to those I haven't seen in 20 years but I do wish them well.



    I don't think I disagree with the statements made here except for the "Get over youself" comment. Hey I wanted to discuss this and my perceptions,
    it doesn't mean anything other than that.
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    Sep 18, 2008 4:50 PM GMT
    Yup. That comment was a little unwarranted.
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    Sep 18, 2008 4:57 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said


    I don't think I disagree with the statements made here except for the "Get over youself" comment. Hey I wanted to discuss this and my perceptions,
    it doesn't mean anything other than that.


    In both of your posts, you are sure to include other people's perceptions that you are better now than you were.
    There is obviously a reason why you would mention that. Think about it. If it isn't part of your motives for going, why even bring it up out of the blue.... twice?
    I am not trying to pick a fight and actually, my comments were to the others who mentioned the importance of looking better than the others, but since you brought it up.... You say you are beyond it but include quotes from others to let us know you have "blossomed". This does not give the impression that this is trivial to you..icon_rolleyes.gif

    The whole point of your post is that you are no longer a geek. I think that is true of most of the people who will be going, regardless of the extra pounds and hair lost. Again, get over yourself and your need for validation and you might find some of these people are at least just as interesting as you.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 18, 2008 5:01 PM GMT
    mnjock2003 said
    HndsmKansan said


    Again, get over yourself and your need for validation and you might find some of these people are at least just as interesting as you.



    For someone who is normally pretty intuned, I find your comments way off base. This is about MY views of myself, then and now. Its not how I see other people there. If you can't offer reasonable input, then post someplace else.
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    Sep 18, 2008 5:03 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said
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    Then why tell us?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 18, 2008 5:05 PM GMT
    mnjock2003 said
    HndsmKansan said
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    Then why tell us?


    I can see your in a argumentative mood, thats how I see it... LOL
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    Sep 18, 2008 5:06 PM GMT
    HandsomeKansan:

    You wrote "...I think the best thing to do is to be friendly, laugh and have a great time."

    I think you should do EXACTLY that. Enjoy old acquaintances. Enjoy YOU!