dating horror stories

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    Sep 18, 2008 4:54 AM GMT


    its simple, really. gay men have issues. LOTS of issues. I swear to you I'm not looking for these people, I meet them through friends and such, but here's a sample of what i've been recently subjected too in the dating scene....some of them I pity, some I loathe. None do I want to see ever again .




    -guy who was molested by his uncle and has intimacy issues, asked me on the SECOND date to help him get through them.

    - guy who is tall and decent looking. said he did a fashion show at a local mall and that makes him a model. I told him his coke habit made him a model, getting 30 bucks to wear crappy shit from Sears DOES NOT make you a model.

    - guy who plays for a top 3 college baseball team. insists on having a girlfriend because wants to get signed and go pro.

    - guy who wont let me go out with my friends because he thinks the entire world wants to fuck me.

    - guy who is extremely insecure and keeps asking 'why do you like me? WHY DO YOU LIKE ME?'

    - guy who thinks evolution is 'just a theory' and God put fossils on earth to 'test our faith' and McCain is the second coming of Christ.



    Seriously, and I know this question gets asked a lot.....are there any SANE people out there? I feel like such a fucking cliche.
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    Sep 18, 2008 7:12 AM GMT
    The breeders have there share of kookoo people too.

    Good luck. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 18, 2008 7:33 AM GMT
    "Why can't I have a normal boyfriend? Just a regular boyfriend, one that doesn't go nuts on me!"

    "Everybody wants that, dear. It doesn't exist."

    Normal is boring, but finding the right kind of crazy is hard.
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    Sep 18, 2008 8:02 AM GMT
    are you exaggerating the situations, or is it really -that- bad? o.o
  • Laurence

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    Sep 18, 2008 8:15 AM GMT
    From my experience of life.

    Everyone out there is weird - and it's just about finding people (partners and friends) who are weird in the same way as yourself.

    Good luck.

    Lozx
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    Sep 18, 2008 1:01 PM GMT
    Lmao...I have gone through the same thing. I decided not to date for a while. Maybe the crazies will partner up by the time I'm ready to get out there again.

    Most recently, I had a guy on the first date: belch at me, ignore me so that he could help his best friend look at guys on adam4adam, etc, before he told me that he was busted for dealing coke. He suggested I go to his place for date number two. Are you freaking kidding me with this shit? Lol. Oh well, makes for good stories.
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    Sep 18, 2008 1:43 PM GMT
    I've only ever dated nice normal people.

    Well except for that one who was molested when he was 8 and never got over it.
    And that other one that was a pure catholic and felt the need to repent all the time.
    Oh and that other one that knew he was gay but just thought of it as a period before he'd pick out a woman, get married, have kids and all that.
    Then there was the one that said 'I love you' on the first date after a club hook up and then went all Glenn Close.

    Errr you'd better get back to me.
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    Sep 18, 2008 2:28 PM GMT
    Wow...McCain the second coming of Christ...what a sad sad soul that one is.

    We've ALL had our share of "socially inept" people. Normalcy is something no one can attain as it doesn't exist. Who's to say /gauge what normal actually means? For the South, the way they talk and believe in God is normal. For San Franciscans, wearing shorts with flip-flops when it's 65 degrees outside is normal. You have to put everything into perspective and realize that this is life. Dealing with what it gives you makes it all that much more adventurous.

    Picking through the crazies will only make you stronger so that when you do find someone you're compatible with, the little flaws you may see in him won't seem so bad in the grand scheme of things.
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    Sep 18, 2008 2:48 PM GMT
    Did you meet them through straight friends? Straight females have a tendency to think that two homos are a perfect match by virtue of being gay.

    My only horrible dates have been from the internet. My last one was more than a year ago. He was attractive and we were conversing quite well. I soon discovered that he was married with kids and had lied about his age. He was still younger than me so I didn't care too much about the age. He wanted to know if I was out. When I said I wasn't in the closet it didn't seem to be the right answer. I then heard him making plans on the phone. Turns out he had doubled booked that night The guy he doubled booked with was one of the guys who had replied to my ad.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 19, 2008 5:00 PM GMT
    AshLeon said"Why can't I have a normal boyfriend? Just a regular boyfriend, one that doesn't go nuts on me!"

    "Everybody wants that, dear. It doesn't exist."

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    My Favorite Movie Ash!!! icon_cool.gif

    I have two dates from hell

    * One was a closet republican icon_eek.gif

    * The other was a guy who tripped on me on some kind of drug icon_rolleyes.gif

    They both run neck and neck as being the worst dates of my life
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    Sep 20, 2008 4:46 PM GMT
    Horrible dates

    On a blind date, arranged through a friend, the guy guy shows up, nice guy, but he was very very obese. He spent the rest of dinner talking about how it's "what inside that counts", not physical beauty. Needless to say, i wanted to smack my friend into eternity.

    One time, a very wealthy doctor, a brain surgeon, invited me to one of the best and most expensive restaurants in new york city. He knew I couldn't afford it. I even made jokes about having to sell my clothes in order to afford to eat there. He kept on saying, don't woryy about it....don't worry about it.

    The dinner and experience was amazing. But guess what? When the $668.00 bill came (without tip added yet), he wanted to split the bill. I was in shock. I didn't want to ruin the great experience or make a scene in a place like that, so I paid.

    Called him the next day to tell him how I felt and said "get lost".

    Freakin idiot needed brain surgery himself.
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    Sep 20, 2008 5:18 PM GMT
    Yeah. There are lots of strange people out there. Both gay and straight. It's scary. Sometimes I think everyone's a little spooky.

    What I hate the most -- and this applies to virtually any kind of relationship --is when the person suddenly does a "Jekyll and Hyde" on you and suddenly, what you thought was a nice, sweet person morphs into an out of control screaming maniac who flips out over nothing.

    I think lots of people put on an act. Maybe most people. They're very good at pretending to be nice under a thin veneer of civility. But what's inside eventually comes to the surface; it's creepy to watch.
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    Sep 20, 2008 6:18 PM GMT
    collegeswimmr said
    - guy who thinks evolution is 'just a theory' and God put fossils on earth to 'test our faith' and McCain is the second coming of Christ.


    The Christian Taliban at work. Trying to turn the US into a corporate Christian theorcracy, which is being preached from fundamentalist pulpits from coast to coast. Only their brand of Christianity need apply: no Jews, no Muslims, no atheists, no Christians of any other persuasion.

    And the Republicans, following the political theories of Karl Rove, have thrown in their lot with them. Christian fundamentalist and Republican are now virtually synonymous terms. It gives them a reliable "base" that will vote for Republicans even if they're convicted serial killers, and then all they have to do is deceive enough independents to win elections.

    And beyond the political implications, I wonder how the US can compete globally when our science is corrupted by Republican political views. Creationism taught instead of evolution, stem cell research suppressed, all aspects of scientific exploration curtailed by arbitrary interpretations of the Old Testament.

    The US achieved world eminence by the genius of its free people, not by its military arms or by greater land mass. In those terms the US should have been a second-rate nation, for much of its history.

    What we did was excel at letting people think for themselves, and giving them the freedom to act on their dreams. The fundamentalist Republicans would rob us of that right, and make us the slaves of corporate & governmental agencies, ruled by fundamentalist beliefs. And that is the definition of Fascism.
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    Sep 20, 2008 6:26 PM GMT
    My worst date took me to see “Mysterious Skin,” an extremely disturbing, violent movie about child sexual abuse. He toyed with my jeans during the film. Afterwards I was really dazed. We had dinner where nothing was said, and on the ride home (I was in CA at the time where they have an unfortunate need for cars), he asked me to go back to his place. I declined.

    That night, I had several nightmares, and just really couldn’t get over how inappropriate his behavior was given what we had just seen. I sent him what was probably an unduly nasty email telling him to get lost, although in retrospect it was probably partly my fault for having dinner with him afterwards instead of just waiting the hour it took to get back to Palo Alto.
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    Jan 01, 2010 11:29 PM GMT
    I think a lot of horrible dates have one thing in common: There is child abuse in their past. People with abuse in their past have attachment issues which no amount of yoga, meditation, or spiritual retreat can fix. Sad but still true.
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    Jan 06, 2010 8:14 AM GMT
    I once met a guy while drinking in a club and we set up a "first date" about a week or so later through texts. I picked him up at a mall and we talked as I drove.

    It was then that I learned his drivers license was suspended...then I learned that he had been overweight but lost crazy weight thanks to diet drugs that he was still on....then I learned that he lived with his mother and a couple other family members....then I learned that he was on his last year of parole for MAJOR shoplifting and writing bad checks...then I learned that although the date hadn't even begun, he was really into me....then I tried hard to come up with an excuse to turn the car around....

    Blame it on the alcohol.......
  • DustinZ37

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    Jan 09, 2012 8:24 PM GMT
    I just had a guy duck out on me the other day. I went to meet him at his work. We both agreed that if we didn't click, we would say goodbye. He told me would finish his shift and he would be out in a few minutes. I waited for almost an hour until I realized he ducked out on me. He didn't even bother to send me a text. Talk about feeling like a fool. Gay men are jackasses.


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    Jan 09, 2012 8:34 PM GMT
    NOT that this could be construde as "horror" story - but AWKWARD being the better term...


    Back in '07 I went out on a date w/ a guy to a Sushi restaraunt - & me being THE horror movie geek I am - we got onto that topic.

    Well this guy was so stuck on himself & all his $$$. All he kept bragging & talking about icon_rolleyes.gif (which is fine & all but....boring for me!).

    We get on the subject of the HOSTEL films. Turns out, he's a HUGE fan of these films! So we discuss 'em & the likes of "torture porn" ....

    Then he begins slowly revealing to me ALL he'd like to do with his $$$ - as he says: "you know, Kevin - when you have $$$ - you can DO...ANYTHING....you want".

    Ok very true, money allows ya to do LOTS of things.

    Then he says: "With the $$$ I make, I'd easily go & do what the businessman did in HOSTEL. & get away with it!".

    ******cue the awkward silence*******


    Yeah , He was a creep & I never went on a date with him again. Thank god he was just visiting from ATL.!!


    That is - if I may say - a CONVERSATION FAIL !!!icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 10, 2012 3:19 AM GMT
    the only sane person is meicon_razz.gif
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    Feb 02, 2013 6:34 AM GMT
    Had this one guy the other day. He ended up pulling out his phone and texting 10 seconds into sitting down. Then within 10 minutes of that there is an autistic child making sounds near us and he proceeds to dis people with mental disabilities and say that "they shouldn't be out in public if they're acting like that."

    So i tell him, "As a matter of fact, I have had a foster brother for over 6 years that is extremely autistic and physically disabled and he has the same right as you to be here. Do you know what man, you're an ass." So I got up and left.

    This date lasted 15 minutes.
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    Feb 08, 2013 4:27 AM GMT
    One of my worst dating experience was a guy who showed up 3 hours late, and when he finally DID show up he was carrying drug store shopping bags filled with trash and newspapers. We went to Starbucks and he was too cheap to even buy a cup of coffee.
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    Feb 08, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    That's why i don't date.
    Now i guess i'm gonna have to. TERRIFYING!icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 09, 2013 6:17 AM GMT
    this is also why i do not date... people are weird, got no time for anyone but myself.
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    Feb 09, 2013 6:40 AM GMT
    Another bad dating experience I had was back in 2005. I was scheduled to meet this guy I met on an app on my cell phone. (This was LONG before Grindr ever came around.) We were supposed to see a movie. The guy showed up but apparently got his stories mixed up and thought I was someone else he had met on the app. He barely spoke English.

    The straw that broke the camel's back was that he was NOTHING to look at. I walked out on him.
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    Feb 09, 2013 7:16 AM GMT
    jonnyboy saidthis is also why i do not date... people are weird, got no time for anyone but myself.


    From this and some of your other posts lately you come off as some sort of neanderthal. Question: What were you hoping to accomplish by coming here?