Are u a perfectionist?

  • TannerMasseur

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    Dec 26, 2012 1:09 AM GMT
    Does everything have to be perfect in ur life for u to function & feel right? Does everything have to be in order in order for u to exist? Do u have to control what u can control in ur life so can keep on moving forward? And how does ur perfectionism affect others & ur relationships?.......
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    Dec 26, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    Definitely not a perfectionist here. What I have learned is the world will never be perfect and for me, trying to be a perfectionist will always result in disappointment. So far, being happy with what I've accomplished is more than enough for me.
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    Dec 26, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidDefinitely not a perfectionist here. What I have learned is the world will never be perfect and for me, trying to be a perfectionist will always result in disappointment. So far, being happy with what I've accomplished is more than enough for me.


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    Dec 26, 2012 3:28 AM GMT
    My partner is a perfectionist,and it is usually downright ANNOYING.icon_exclaim.gif
    Fuss fuss fuss fuss fuss fuss fuss........
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    Dec 26, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    Blakes7 saidMy partner is a perfectionist,and it is usually downright ANNOYING.icon_exclaim.gif
    Fuss fuss fuss fuss fuss fuss fuss........


    Over small things......
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    Dec 26, 2012 3:37 AM GMT
    thanks alot......
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    Dec 26, 2012 4:03 AM GMT
    spgem saidDoes everything have to be perfect in ur life for u to function & feel right? Does everything have to be in order in order for u to exist? Do u have to control what u can control in ur life so can keep on moving forward? And how does ur perfectionism affect others & ur relationships?.......


    I am a perfectionist. It can be tricky because you get turned off pretty quickly when things don't go your way. And most of the time they don't. So you mostly have to do everything yourself!
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    Dec 26, 2012 5:34 AM GMT
    I am a perfectionist, but I know life will never be perfect.

    However, the pursuit to this imaginary perfection of having everything satisfied under your control is what makes the thrill of being a perfectionist - imo.
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    Dec 26, 2012 5:41 AM GMT
    More or less, yes I am a perfectionist. As time goes by I ease myself into relaxing from the issue. lol
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    Dec 26, 2012 5:43 AM GMT
    Go back and re-write the post in english.
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  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Dec 26, 2012 6:04 AM GMT
    Perfectionalism is an unrealistic expection in a highly imperfect world!
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    Dec 26, 2012 9:42 AM GMT
    I used to be a perfectionist but as I've gotten older and wiser, I realize that it's the Imperfection that make people unique. Nobody's perfect, it's just you need to find that one guy's imperfection that you think he's perfect and willing to deal with it for as long as you can. icon_cool.gif Life is not perfect !!! You can't control everything.

    To be honest, I read so many ads on dating sites, guys who present themselves as a *perfect bf, they want a perfect well-rounded, all-american, with high-paying job boyfriend....etc blah blah, no wonder those guys are still single. Who can live up to all those *perfect expectations of a check-list? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 26, 2012 9:49 AM GMT
    when it comes to designing my concept products, yes. I often find myself erase and sketch it over and over again until Im satisfied.
  • Machina

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    Dec 26, 2012 10:22 AM GMT
    Yes, I tend to be a perfectionist. I am not sure where I inherited the trait from, but sometimes it can really annoy both myself and others... icon_lol.gif
  • TannerMasseur

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    Dec 26, 2012 11:51 AM GMT
    mindgarden saidGo back and re-write the post in english.
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    Stayin as is. My volition to type shorthand icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 26, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    Yes. Perfectionism is a flaw in character. It's great from an employee/work ethic or fitness standpoint and if I want to spend my life alone and isolated, but it's simply not practical. I was raised in a non-practical way-- to be perfect and always in control.

    The most devastating effect of being a perfectionist is how our control influences our personal relationships. If the relationship does not fit into its perfect, little box then it is disposed of like a piece of trash. Many failed relationships later, I finally stopped denying that I was a perfectionist or that there was anything wrong with my approach to life.

    Today I accept it. I laugh about it because laughter is what heals us, and today I make the decision to let go of it. I don't loathe it, and I don't lust it. It's been a rough process.
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    Dec 26, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    I'm not, and I will try not to date another perfectionist again. It's just not compatible for me.
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Dec 26, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    xsocalguy8x saidI used to be a perfectionist but as I've gotten older and wiser, I realize that it's the Imperfection that make people unique. Nobody's perfect, it's just you need to find that one guy's imperfection that you think he's perfect and willing to deal with it for as long as you can. icon_cool.gif Life is not perfect !!! You can't control everything.

    To be honest, I read so many ads on dating sites, guys who present themselves as a *perfect bf, they want a perfect well-rounded, all-american, with high-paying job boyfriend....etc blah blah, no wonder those guys are still single. Who can live up to all those *perfect expectations of a check-list? icon_rolleyes.gif



    Many sentiments exactly!! and funny thou many of those online personal ads seem to out number the real down to earth kind of elegible real dates! the guys on those online dating websites are like bakers, they want a cake and eat it all too!? so they share out their recipes and lay out the ingredients of their favorite cake/lover, to then end up having a huge indigestion of loneliness themselves later. Believe me, I was once one of those bakers myself. I am as of lately beginning to realize that perfection is like refined flour and powdered sugar; while it does appease the appetite for one's own taste and sugar coats reality, it adds no nutritional value to one's own growth in maturity, wisdom, and sensitivity!!

    As for me I much prefer not to be a baker, but rather digest all the raw qualities/fiber that makes the person for what they are.
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    Dec 26, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    Nobody's perfect!
  • TannerMasseur

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    Dec 26, 2012 3:54 PM GMT
    DoNotTumble saidNobody's perfect!


    Perfection is a delusion some of us try to aspire to.......
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 26, 2012 3:58 PM GMT
    I heard the phrase again yesterday, "Chris, you are anal when it comes to your Christmas decorations". I'm not perfectionistic, I try to do the absolute best job I can (as relating to my yard, house and things, well yeah like C. decorations). Sometimes it can't look the best, thats the way it is, nor am I that way in all aspects of my life.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 26, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidNot at all. I'm too laid back to keep everything in perfect order, 24/7.
    Life's way too short to sweat the small stuff... and as they say, it's all small stuff.


    But you have some BIG stuff, sir.... And I want it!icon_twisted.gif
  • TannerMasseur

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    Dec 26, 2012 4:01 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI heard the phrase again yesterday, "Chris, you are anal when it comes to your Christmas decorations". I'm not perfectionistic, I try to do the absolute best job I can (as relating to my yard, house and things, well yeah like C. decorations). Sometimes it can't look the best, thats the way it is, nor am I that way in all aspects of my life.


    Like every ornament has to fit in it's right place on the tree, size, weight & color balance icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 26, 2012 4:01 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidGo back and re-write the post in english.
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    ...and spgem; that's not short-hand, that's I'm-too-lazy-to-type-hand.
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    Dec 26, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    It's understood. With all the threads I've posted, everyone who's replied to my threads should know my trademark typing by now icon_smile.gif

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    mindgarden saidGo back and re-write the post in english.
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    ...and spgem; that's not short-hand, that's I'm-too-lazy-to-type-hand.