jdukay24 said I know it's my own fault, I should just tell them--but YES, I really do just want them to assume. I come from a strict Salvadorian family, so if I come out to them I believe I will be shunned. Either way it's just irritating! On another note where are all the "good" guys out there?! Okay, I am just in a bad mood.
Dumb. Just tell them. (If there are no complications like living with them or getting financial support). If you're 28, it's past time to start living your own life, and not their plans for your life. If they are as clueless as you seem to portray then, they may never "assume" you are a godless gay devil. They may just forever assume that you play the field, have a succession of one night stands with women, and don't want to "settle down." Unless they are fundamentalist christian/muslim/mormon types, they are not likely to cut you off entirely. Even at the worst, if some of your family do indeed shun you, there are likely to be some that still keep a relationship with you. And as for the rest - that will ultimately be their loss. If they don't love you - you won't have lost much - only your fantasy of how you would like them to be..Where are all the "good" guys?
We are everywhere, and a lot of them are single.