Oh sigh..

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    Dec 26, 2012 1:26 AM GMT
    I love Christmas, in fact I am a Christmas Eve baby. The truth is--Don't get me wrong I love my family, but it truly gets old when EVERY-TIME I see them I hear, so where's your girlfriend?!?!? ...it's like really!?! It kinda has to be obvious by now. I'm 28!!
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    Dec 26, 2012 1:31 AM GMT
    Have you honestly ever told them you were gay?
  • rf_dal

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    Dec 26, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    You want them to just assume you're gay?
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    Dec 26, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    I know it's my own fault, I should just tell them--but YES, I really do just want them to assume. I come from a strict Salvadorian family, so if I come out to them I believe I will be shunned. Either way it's just irritating! On another note where are all the "good" guys out there?! Okay, I am just in a bad mood.
  • Suetonius

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    Dec 26, 2012 2:03 AM GMT
    jdukay24 said I know it's my own fault, I should just tell them--but YES, I really do just want them to assume. I come from a strict Salvadorian family, so if I come out to them I believe I will be shunned. Either way it's just irritating! On another note where are all the "good" guys out there?! Okay, I am just in a bad mood.
    Dumb. Just tell them. (If there are no complications like living with them or getting financial support). If you're 28, it's past time to start living your own life, and not their plans for your life. If they are as clueless as you seem to portray then, they may never "assume" you are a godless gay devil. They may just forever assume that you play the field, have a succession of one night stands with women, and don't want to "settle down." Unless they are fundamentalist christian/muslim/mormon types, they are not likely to cut you off entirely. Even at the worst, if some of your family do indeed shun you, there are likely to be some that still keep a relationship with you. And as for the rest - that will ultimately be their loss. If they don't love you - you won't have lost much - only your fantasy of how you would like them to be..

    Where are all the "good" guys? We are everywhere, and a lot of them are single.
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    Dec 26, 2012 5:21 AM GMT
    jdukay24 said I know it's my own fault, I should just tell them--but YES, I really do just want them to assume. I come from a strict Salvadorian family, so if I come out to them I believe I will be shunned. Either way it's just irritating! On another note where are all the "good" guys out there?! Okay, I am just in a bad mood.
    Dude...you'll know when it's the right time to tell em...
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    Dec 26, 2012 5:23 AM GMT
    The family that knows doesn't ask.

    The family that doesn't know I just reply that I have numerous girlfriends and am not looking to settle. That typically ends that conversation right off the bat.
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    Dec 26, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    haha, just saw this thread after making my own about this exact situation. It gets annoying as hell. Every year they ask and every year it's a no. Are they that dumb?
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    Dec 26, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    My family who doesn't know, thinks I'm a whore...That is because my Dad is convinced I sleep with every single female I have ever come into contact...Funny thing is I have never given him a reason to think that....
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    Dec 26, 2012 5:31 AM GMT
    My family members have convinced themselves that I don't have a girlfriend cause I'm shy. icon_lol.gif

    At a Christmas eve party I was at my mom was pushing this girl on me. I was telling my friend who I told I was gay to that I am so tired of being asked about girls and having them pushed on me.

    My advice is tell them when you're good and ready and if you know they're gonna shun you then don't tell them and bring a beard to them at some point. It's not worth the heartache to tell them the truth if they're gonna shun you.
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    Dec 26, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    I'm at Houston for the holidays and I'm asked that question all the time by family friends. I just simply tell them "I don't do girlfriends" and that leaves them assuming a bunch of things. If they asks you if you are gay, just say yes and smile. Plus telling relatives you're gay is easier said than done.