Being a great bottom.....Is it natural or can one learn?

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    Dec 26, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
    I've always been more top, recently met a guy i like and would like to take him as much as i give it to him. Its been really difficult icon_sad.gif It gets really sore.

    Is being bottom natural or can i learn the tricks to back that sh!t up?
  • kevmoran

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    Dec 26, 2012 11:10 PM GMT
    I think it's more about what the top does when it comes to pain. I have no tricks, get a better boyfriend.

    *z-formation snap*
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    Dec 26, 2012 11:38 PM GMT
    Well talking from a COMPLETE biological perspective, the anus wasn't designed to have things stuck up there for pleasure. So I don't think anyone is born a natural at taking it up the arse. It might seem that way, but even the best bottoms in porn had to start somewhere right?
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    Dec 26, 2012 11:54 PM GMT
    KKim11 saidWell talking from a COMPLETE biological perspective, the anus wasn't designed to have things stuck up there for pleasure.

    Then why is there a prostate in there?
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 27, 2012 12:05 AM GMT
    You have to learn how to relax and what to expect, but you have to love it to get really good at it.
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    Dec 27, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    i just like being a total bottom. i like a man inside meicon_wink.gif
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    Dec 27, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    You can learn it. I did hehe.

    Just try different positions, be patient and keep at it.
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    Dec 27, 2012 2:51 AM GMT
    KKim11 saidWell talking from a COMPLETE biological perspective, the anus wasn't designed to have things stuck up there for pleasure. So I don't think anyone is born a natural at taking it up the arse. It might seem that way, but even the best bottoms in porn had to start somewhere right?


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    Dec 27, 2012 4:07 AM GMT
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    KKim11 saidWell talking from a COMPLETE biological perspective, the anus wasn't designed to have things stuck up there for pleasure.

    Then why is there a prostate in there?


    You know ejaculations and how the semen is all milky white and all? Well half of that is made in the prostate.
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    Dec 27, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    KKim11 said
    unfounded7 said
    Then why is there a prostate in there?


    You know ejaculations and how the semen is all milky white and all? Well half of that is made in the prostate.


    I feel like you didn't understand my question.
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    Dec 27, 2012 5:50 AM GMT
    I understand that a lot of men state that stimulating the prostate results in arousal, but that's not the case for ALL men. Not all guys (straight or gay) like having something up their arse. Some straight guys like getting fingered, and some gay tops would cry if they bottomed. But can the prostate indefinitely be a source of pleasure? Possibly. But for now we just know that if the anus was biologically meant to be receptive and penetrated, the body should have a system/sexual response that secretes lubrication and relaxes/stretches like the vagina. That's the reason I'm saying that no one's a "natural" bottom.

    Right now, I know I might sound like I'm a raging anti-gay, sodomy is sin christian scientists. But I also know that anal sex does feel really good in a way that biology can't explain completely yet. All I can really say is that I love anal sex and dick as much as the next gay guy, even with all that in mind.
  • Angelix90

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    Dec 27, 2012 6:01 AM GMT
    Every bottom starts from somewhere. Practice makes perfect. I can help you with that.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 27, 2012 6:02 AM GMT
    KKim11 saidI understand that a lot of men state that stimulating the prostate results in arousal, but that's not the case for ALL men. Not all guys (straight or gay) like having something up their arse. Some straight guys like getting fingered, and some gay tops would cry if they bottomed. But can the prostate indefinitely be a source of pleasure? Possibly. But for now we just know that if the anus was biologically meant to be receptive and penetrated, the body should have a system/sexual response that secretes lubrication and relaxes/stretches like the vagina. That's the reason I'm saying that no one's a "natural" bottom.

    Right now, I know I might sound like I'm a raging anti-gay, sodomy is sin christian scientists. But I also know that anal sex does feel really good in a way that biology can't explain completely yet. All I can really say is that I love anal sex and dick as much as the next gay guy, even with all that in mind.
    You obviously haven't known some of the bottoms I've known. icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 27, 2012 6:05 AM GMT
    BTW, for the OP, if you feel the need to do something you don't enjoy just to please your partner, you'l both end up disappointed. If you don't like it up the ass, don't take it up the ass. You might be able to convince yourself that you like it for a while, but eventually it'll become more of a chore than a pleasure and the relationship will fall apart.
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    Dec 27, 2012 10:05 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidBTW, for the OP, if you feel the need to do something you don't enjoy just to please your partner, you'l both end up disappointed. If you don't like it up the ass, don't take it up the ass. You might be able to convince yourself that you like it for a while, but eventually it'll become more of a chore than a pleasure and the relationship will fall apart.


    So true!
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    Dec 27, 2012 10:06 AM GMT
    Angelix90 saidEvery bottom starts from somewhere. Practice makes perfect. I can help you with that.icon_biggrin.gif


    LOL...OUUUU
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    Dec 27, 2012 10:09 AM GMT
    KKim11 saidI understand that a lot of men state that stimulating the prostate results in arousal, but that's not the case for ALL men. Not all guys (straight or gay) like having something up their arse. Some straight guys like getting fingered, and some gay tops would cry if they bottomed. But can the prostate indefinitely be a source of pleasure? Possibly. But for now we just know that if the anus was biologically meant to be receptive and penetrated, the body should have a system/sexual response that secretes lubrication and relaxes/stretches like the vagina. That's the reason I'm saying that no one's a "natural" bottom.

    Right now, I know I might sound like I'm a raging anti-gay, sodomy is sin christian scientists. But I also know that anal sex does feel really good in a way that biology can't explain completely yet. All I can really say is that I love anal sex and dick as much as the next gay guy, even with all that in mind.


    You made quite alot of sense dude, i guess i just want to try my best and see before i give up. Nothing sexier than being able to flip flop with ur sex partner which is my aim. It all starts somewhere so maybe a little toy might help.
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    Dec 27, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    KKim11 said
    unfounded7 said
    Then why is there a prostate in there?


    You know ejaculations and how the semen is all milky white and all? Well half of that is made in the prostate.


    I feel like you didn't understand my question.


    Well, considering the prostate is not located in the anus... ^^
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    Dec 27, 2012 6:08 PM GMT
    it takes 2 to tango.....no such thing as a well danced tango with only one good dancer...it's about working together....
  • Hothouse

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    Dec 27, 2012 6:16 PM GMT
    There are guys that are naturally good bottoms, they love to get fucked.
    It can be learned, find a talented topman and practice.
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    Feb 11, 2014 5:43 AM GMT
    I was a top for 17 years, new to bottoming but here's some advice for the "it hurts crowd":

    1. make sure you douche / use enema. It actually opens you up more.
    2. Poppers work
    3. If its really important to you, practice! get a dildo & work it in a few minutes every day.

    Having rarely bottomed, I can attest that after about 3 weeks of doing this, I was ready to get fisted.