Bottoming for the first time.

  • tylerc

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    Dec 27, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    Recently started to experiment bottoming for the first time in years. Tried it with a few guys, but could never overcome the fear and the pain that come along with it. Any good tips? Positions for first timers?
    Heard fingering is a good practice for that?
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 27, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    Lol, you look like a cute bottom. Just try to relax and take it like a man. Hold it like a vice grip when it gets intense, and you can cum without your hands.
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    Dec 27, 2012 5:29 AM GMT
    smileys
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    Dec 27, 2012 6:54 AM GMT
    If you don't enjoy it, then why do you continue to "try" it? Is it really a choice?
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    Dec 27, 2012 7:42 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIf you don't enjoy it, then why do you continue to "try" it? Is it really a choice?

    For most it is Paul.

    He's probably not like you.

    Here's my advice.

    Get a small butt plug, good lube, small dildo, play around.

    Then find a guy you like, spend some time with him, no hook ups, jut get comfortable around him.

    Then once you can relax around him then let him slowly get you ready and then maybe play with the toy and enjoy experimenting with him.

    Then once your comfortable let him try.... Just make sure he goe slowly or you can get on top.

    Some times guys don't make good tops for first timers, they rush, don't pay attention, get excited inn the moment and make it feel worse then it should. So find a good top that is patient calm and can focus on what he's suppose to be doing
  • TheBizMan

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    Dec 27, 2012 7:49 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    paulflexes saidIf you don't enjoy it, then why do you continue to "try" it? Is it really a choice?

    For most it is Paul.

    He's probably not like you.

    Here's my advice.

    Get a small butt plug, good lube, small dildo, play around.

    Then find a guy you like, spend some time with him, no hook ups, jut get comfortable around him.

    Then once you can relax around him then let him slowly get you ready and then maybe play with the toy and enjoy experimenting with him.

    Then once your comfortable let him try.... Just make sure he goe slowly or you can get on top.

    Some times guys don't make good tops for first timers, they rush, don't pay attention, get excited inn the moment and make it feel worse then it should. So find a good top that is patient calm and can focus on what he's suppose to be doing


    There is NOTHING worse than a guy who is too tight and allows for no motion what so ever. That was the problem with my last lay.
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    Dec 27, 2012 8:07 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    There is NOTHING worse than a guy who is too tight and allows for no motion what so ever. That was the problem with my last lay.

    I've never had a bottom do that.

    I've had bottoms who struggled, couldn't handle it for very long, couldn't relax, was panicked and a whole host of other things.

    But they all eventually came around and turned into some fun in the sack.

    Until they got emotional.... Then it just got fucked up
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    Dec 27, 2012 8:09 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    TheBizMan said
    There is NOTHING worse than a guy who is too tight and allows for no motion what so ever. That was the problem with my last lay.

    I've never had a bottom do that.

    I've had bottoms who struggled, couldn't handle it for very long, couldn't relax, was panicked and a whole host of other things.

    But they all eventually came around and turned into some fun in the sack.

    Until they got emotional.... Then it just got fucked up

    Emotion? What is that? Is it a new boy band? Some sort of mixed drink?
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    Dec 27, 2012 8:10 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    Emotion? What is that? Is it a new boy band? Some sort of mixed drink?

    It's that new age shit those young ins are into
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    Dec 27, 2012 8:11 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    paulflexes saidIf you don't enjoy it, then why do you continue to "try" it? Is it really a choice?


    Get a small butt plug, good lube, small dildo, play around.

    Then find a guy you like, spend some time with him, no hook ups, jut get comfortable around him.

    Then once you can relax around him then let him slowly get you ready and then maybe play with the toy and enjoy experimenting with him.

    Then once your comfortable let him try.... Just make sure he goes slowly or you can get on top.

    Some times guys don't make good tops for first timers, they rush, don't pay attention, get excited inn the moment and make it feel worse then it should. So find a good top that is patient calm and can focus on what he's suppose to be doing




    U are a Professional expert !
    one can take tips from you.
    That's experience ,great one
    btw, my bf has a trouble with me ,im a hardcore fucker , & once i start there pain non-stop
    maybe i can comfort him & help him from the pain i give that poor man !
  • TheBizMan

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    Dec 27, 2012 8:17 AM GMT
    OP is from Boston.

    Me thinks OP should seek me out for a great first time experience.
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    Dec 27, 2012 8:18 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidUntil they got emotional.... Then it just got fucked up

    I only cried once. Stop making such a big deal out of it. icon_wink.gif

    You just moved me. That's all.
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    Dec 27, 2012 8:54 AM GMT
    The first time a guy fucked me in the ass, I felt like I had to take a shit while he was fucking me. He was a very patient and caring top and "a teacher" who knew he was breaking in a "newbie" and he told me not to worry, that that was how it feels the first time.

    He told me that even if I did take a shit, that these things can happen and that I shouldn't be embarrassed about it. Thankfully, it was just a case of confused nerve endings in my rectum and there was no defecation involved.

    I came very late in life to all of this, and I'll never be able to thank that man enough for opening up my mind (and my ass) to the wonderful pleasures of getting fucked in the ass.....and dildos, hands, fingers, cucumbers, Asian eggplants, zucchini, etc.

    Just try to relax and enjoy the sensations. It didn't take me long from having a virgin ass to becoming a "rough power bottom ass pig" as one of my fuckbuddies used to describe me.

    If you're experiencing pain, you and the other guy need to spend more time playing with your ass and relaxing it so that you can take the dick. Hopefully, in the near future, you'll be able to experience the pleasure of getting totally pounded, power-fucked and jackhammered in the ass.
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    Dec 27, 2012 11:57 AM GMT
    Having finger up to ur ass definitely help ease the rectum "tension",as for sex position,if u like the top take the lead,try doggy...

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    and if u r a hungry power bottom,then try on top on ur partner..

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    Dec 27, 2012 12:03 PM GMT
    Find a good top.
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    Dec 27, 2012 2:14 PM GMT
    find someone you really care about and take it slow and easy icon_smile.gif
  • Hothouse

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    Dec 27, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    You need to be comfortable with the guy that's going to fuck you, you need to know he'll be patient and care about your experience and trust him.

    1. Lots of foreplay - ass foreplay, rimming and fingering.

    2. Relax. If you tense up it's going to be uncomfortable.

    3. Lots of lube.

    Repeat 1-3 as necessary. Over time you'll learn how your body responds and you'll learn to enjoy it!

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    Dec 27, 2012 2:39 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    TheBizMan said
    Emotion? What is that? Is it a new boy band? Some sort of mixed drink?

    It's that new age shit those young ins are into


    In your case lilTanker I think it's that they feel overwhelmed, like they're being fucked by a big adorable human puppy.
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    Dec 27, 2012 10:03 PM GMT
    BuddyinNYC said
    lilTanker said
    TheBizMan said
    Emotion? What is that? Is it a new boy band? Some sort of mixed drink?

    It's that new age shit those young ins are into


    In your case lilTanker I think it's that they feel overwhelmed, like they're being fucked by a big adorable human puppy.

    Heeeeey im not that hairy!!!!
  • RyanChase

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    Dec 28, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidOP is from Boston.

    Me thinks OP should seek me out for a great first time experience.


    And let me watch... Not that I'm in Boston, or anywhere close for that matter.. But I think you would need a good audience...? icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 28, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    Does it hurt a lot?
  • musclePunkKid

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    Dec 29, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    u need a real man to break u in, one who knows the ways of boys. that ass will need loosened before its penetrated, I usually feed on a new boy's ass awhile, that usually gets em all limber. then some finger action, after u get used to three of em i can slip in the meat, not all at once, inch at a time.

    u need a man to show u the way.
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    Jan 02, 2013 7:06 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidOP is from Boston.

    Me thinks OP should seek me out for a great first time experience.


    You're not his type......at all.








    But I'd like to inquire about your services icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 02, 2013 10:46 PM GMT
    My new bf is a big muscledaddy with a hug beercan dick. I'd never taken proper dick before and was very worried as I've always been a top.

    It felt natural for me to become a bottom in this relationship so I decided to go ahead and allow him to 'teach' me.

    I liked being on my back with my legs over his shoulders, for this you must trust your man to go slow and at your pace, he must be watching your face for pain and knowing when to stop. I found this way better than being on top as I would never have gone for it and plunged down on him as it hurt so much and when your on your back, all you have to do is concentrate on ur arse and managing the pain mentally. If you're on top, its to many things to concentrate on.

    Use LOTS of poppers, makes soooo much difference, loosens you up. I would have not been able to do it without the poppers, and make sure you get strong ones, as there are different strengths. Also SILICONE LUBE, it doesn't run out like water based and makes you more slippery.

    The head going in is the most painful bit, once its in dont be tempted to push him out, let it just stay there and sniff more poppers and your sphincter will loosen up around your man's dick. Then once it does, it should be smooth sailing from then, I was thrusting back within a few minutes.

    If you can't do it the first time, it's ok, just keep trying every night and eventually you'll be ok.
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    Jan 02, 2013 10:55 PM GMT
    One trick is to have the bottom insert his own finger in his own bottom while being frigged and kissed. This takes part of the "trust" issue out of the initial penetration because the bottom is doing himself.

    Replace with top's cock when appropriate. Allow bottom to ride the dick at his own pace.