Is Dating/Relationship complicated or am I making it complicated?

  • Matt2004

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    Dec 27, 2012 5:54 AM GMT
    When I am looking for a partner, I am looking for Masculinity but don't think i don't like feminine men. I am more attracted to the mystery of a man that says little words and doesn't want attention and just very laid back (not saying feminine guys can be like that). I am not attracted to guys that bashes his eyelashes, softly touch your face, switch his hips or overly used the word hun. It seems like from okcupid dating site, I am more of a match towards feminine guys or (bottoms) even though I am attracted to guys that are opposite of me. Now I know okcupid have the Match to find someone that has similar interest in the things you do.

    Now is it me that doesn't give in on what I want or I have to be patient in what I want.

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    Dec 27, 2012 4:22 PM GMT
    give a shot at both, see which experience is better.
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    Dec 27, 2012 8:07 PM GMT
    Matt2004 saidthe mystery of a man that says little words and doesn't want attention and just very laid back

    lol.. thats me.. It takes me a while to get to know a person a bit before I can get chatty with them. As a consequence I get told/asked that I'm the "strong and silent type" and I "dont talk much/enough".. or that I "should make some noise when having sex.. I'm too quiet".. icon_eek.gif There's no satisfying guys, is there?
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    Dec 27, 2012 8:20 PM GMT
    There are relationships that are complicated once you have reached a certain level. Your preference would always be a starting point to find a partner but open the possibilities because what you do not like would always present to be yours. Silent people would alwaysplat mysterious but I am not mistified and what i prefer is an observer who talks from time to time and that includes me. No mystery, no secret, no effect but observe, talk and observe.
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    Dec 27, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    Matt2004 saidNow is it me that doesn't give in on what I want or I have to be patient in what I want.


    You will NEVER find any one individual that matched ALL your criteria. Relationships are about give and take and compromise. If you are one of those individuals how isn't willing to give more than he takes and compromise every now and again, you will never be satisfied with anyone and you will drift through life from relationship to relationship never really finding anyone who fits your criteria.
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    Dec 27, 2012 9:08 PM GMT
    Open yourself up to new guys. Everyone has something really nice/special about them.