Buffstud1323 saidSo I recently came out of the closet after going back and forth about who I am. I came out while I was in my first relationship with a guy, and was introduced to his family and the whole nine yards. He was my first guy that I ever bottomed for and allowed to share that special part of a relationship with. We were together for 6 months and a fight between us turned ugly and we split. About a month afterwards after not talking to him the entire time he left me a note and a present at my door. It's been back and forth for 3 weeks now of gifts and notes and Christmas presents. He states that there is no hope for us other then friends, but claims that there is no way to predict the future as to what might happen later on down the road. I was the first boyfriend ever introduced to his family and the only one that was ever allowed to get close to his friends. Has anyone ever had a situation like this? Can exes be friends without having a friendship foundation before dating, and am I looking to close into these signals about us getting back together and the games he is playing?
When you meet the right person it should be magic, and...stay that way.
If you fight, or manipulate, one, or both, parties has issues.
Life isn't perfect, nor are people, but, with someone you really care for, you see past whatever character and other flaws they have (this is not an endorsement of abuse of any kind), and just love your time with them. It's magic.
If that magic isn't in your association, it'll likely you need to explore. Even with The World having 7 billion people it can often be a lonely place. We have to create an intelligent community, which is easier said than done, but, without exception, folks that have been in bad relationships tell me they would gladly deal with a bit of lonely over a really bad relationship.
It might be time to flap your wings some more. You know?
It's true that common trials and tribulations serve to bind us with that common experience, and an intimacy from shared experience and caring, but, if it's more bad than good, sadly...it might be time to make a change.
My personal experience has been, that, with one exception, dissolving a particular relationship was best for everyone involved, even though I may not have thought so at the time. Hindsight becomes clearer as time rolls on.
Relationships can be hard.
Sometimes, folks don't feel about us as we do about them, and no wishful thinking can change that. Sometimes, folks connect with The World in a different than we do. They're simply wired differently. We don't all see the same colors, so to speak.
Me, I do not get butthurt over not much of anything (for a lot of reasons), but, some folks are different. We all view The World through a different lens.